Hi guys....

I met a girl on FB 3 years ago. We spoke and got to know a little about each other and established we live about 4 hrs away from each other, Things went quiet for a few years, between the we had relationships which failed.

So recently on FB, I kept seeing her and coming across her and her status, so I went for it and started gaming her. Things started going well and without asking, she in-boxed me her phone number, since then we have got close and built up a feelings and got to know a hell of a lot about each other.

Problem i'm having is... I went to her end to meet her and she told me (on the day) that she cant meet me. Her best friend Is terminal at this point and she was told it could be any time before she passes away, understandably I didn't expect her to come out and meet me so we cracked on with the weekend.
We decided to sort another time to get together, so about 1 month later, we make the date for her to come down to me. 1 day before her friend now passes away (the same one that was Ill). This is now the second time i am waiting for her and even took the time off work! So I can understand that her friend has passed but didnt find out till the end of the day, where i was suppose to get her from the train station in the morning.

So this was frustrating as i took time from work and was wondering what the hell was going on all day.

So 2 weeks pass and we are due to meet again. She is due here today and i haven't heard from her since Sunday, she wont reply to my messages or take my calls. I read on her FB status Something about "things getting worse" as she has already had a shit time with her friend and all. So i haven't got a clue what's going on or what to do.

Need advice as im getting frustrated with the flakes!

OTHER INfO: We speak and are in contact everyday. She told me she feels for me. We both get on fantastic.

Eventually, some one will have to show their face, no matter how fantastically you connect on the phone.

Give her one last try and hint that this is the last one.

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so she blew you off three time? i say three strikes and she is out! i think she is just playing with you now

I’ve done online dating for maybe 2 years. Some decent success and a couple of fails. You need to have a few rules in place first and foremost. This will prevent you from getting stung by time wasters.

1. Look at online dating a game.
Don't get bummed when women don't reply and don't message them with an essay style report, keep it short and effective.

2. Don't spend too much time on a potential.
Don't waste too much time on one woman, message maybe 3 or 4 and also keep a rule of the amount of messages you’ll send before wanting their # or facebook. Personally I use the 3-4 message rule before getting their facebook or #.
If they make some kind excuse to not give either out than move on chances are they've got something to hide and going to end up being a waste of time.

3. Make them wait.
NEVER reply straight away, make them wait 24-48 hours before replying. Allow them to think you’re busy getting on with your amazing life and not desperate trying online dating. And don’t message them and stupid O’clock in the morning either.

4. 2 Strike Rule.
If you arrange to meet up on x day and somehow you/they can't make it on that day than rearrange it for another day there and then. If those days fail then move on chances are she's trolling you, if she wants to meet she'll arrange the next date.

I work as a doorman and get loads of offers from drunken women and as much as banging them is fun they're simply one night stands, that is how I dabbled into online dating. Have a good profile that reflects your personality and the fun shit you like to do add some awesome pix if you have some with women on them put them up shows you've been pre-selected and that you've got something that women like, and apply the rules I use above and good luck with it.

This could be one of about four things:

1. She is not that in to you anymore for whatever reason, maybe you just took to long to plan the meet-up, or someone else on FB said something bad about you, etc.

2. She has gained a great deal of weight since the pics on her FB were taken, and she knows seeing her will ruin your online "relationship", so she is putting it off as long as possible. Girls are very self-conscious.

3. She met someone who has been keeping her interested in him and forgetting you.

4. Her life has really been that hectic and nothing more.. (I HIGHLY doubt this)

Give her ONE more chance, and let her know in a joking way (she will know it's not a joke), if she doesn't show, cut her off and forget about her.

Plenty more fish in the sea. You're the prize not her.

I've gamed many girls online and I've had relationships with a few of them. I would have ditched this one a long time ago, mate. Sorry to tell you this, and you need to as well.

Bottom of the line is, if you have to put in that much effort and you're not getting that much in return, the girl has issues. You're better than that.