So me and my girl are fwb's after a little break up type thing. Before all the problems, we never had sex, got really close, but no penetration sex, or oral for that matter. Thing is, we flirted about sex, and went to a sex shop together and got a few sexy things

Things are sorta confusing now...

We went to her friends house for a party, and she was sorta trying to make me jealous maybe, talking/little flirty with the other guys, giving hugs to them, etc. I acted really cool about it in front of her and the other dudes, like I could give two fucks what she did lol, and it worked. Later we were playing pool, I was throwin some KINO with my stick (pool stick haha), and touchin her. Somehow got on the topic of biting (a dog bit my ass while we were playing pool! wtf!) and she ends up kissing/biting my neck. hmm...then we kiss, other people around and stuff...then we leave the party. we talk in the car about how we should be fwb since getting serious isnt gonna work out right now. she agrees sorta. we get outta the car and hug, and like usual, go for our typical kissing session and she sorta moves her head, I was like "hey babe, were fwb, kissing is still on the menu" then we kissed.

The BIG question is... am I in the friends zone, or "potential-sex" zone still? I know I need to step up the KINO when we see each other again, but I have NO idea where she stands on our relationship. I do know for a fact that friends kiss though, maybe not all, but I do know that its normal for some...but I heard a "kiss" is usually unlocks the door for big KINO escalating?

You know what? I should probably stop caring and thinking so much, and ignore her for a little bit, actually turn down meeting up with her for once, make her want me again, and then next time we see each other, say something to build tension, and then when I see her, go for the gold!

Damn it took me writing all that to realize I am overthinking it... lmao

Pretty much this, or you could just call her up, meet her some place, escalate like crazy, and just go for the gusto.

Truth is, that "you" are probably the only thing stopping "you" from getting laid. You are playing things too safe. You are being too timid about pushing for more sexually. Just go for it! She wants you to "take her"! She's giving you hints. Pretty big ones, like taking you to a sex shop. Just isolates her, start kissing her, and keep going till she stops you, and chances are she won't. But she wants you to take the initiative, because if she threw herself at you or initiated sex, she would feel like a slut; but if you do it for her, it's okay. You can probably do what ever you want to her, and she's just waiting for you to do it. She might put up a prudish act, but deep down she wants to sleep with you and she wants you to get the hint and take charge.

Yessir, bulls-eye! I don't like to say it but the reason for my timid behaviour is mainly to do with some inner issues are result of my Christian beliefs and my parents ways of raising me. I have been waiting for an answer like this, something to give me some confidence and second what I think think needs to be done. I just needed a little push

And you know what? On reality, even IF (and a big 'IF" this is lol) she doesn't want to have sex, then I now know exactly what her feelings are WITHOUT asking her in an awkward conversation about sex. If it turns out for the best, than so be it, we are REAL fwb and lifes great. If it turns out the bad way which is doubtful, than I can move onto more women and leave her with that lingering sensation of knowing what I want from her and she will miss my touch I'm sure. She will really miss me if I get to the point of going down on her haha!

I guess my next and only step is looking up lay reports and advice and examples on escalation from making out to sex although i do have a pretty good grasp on the whole idea. oh, and I should probably start living by my quote "go for it or youll regret it" haha!

I want to thank you tons for your speedy and informing/reassuring reply!!! Cheers!

My main advice would be to just enjoy yourself and her. Think of your experience almost like a fantasy, where nothing is real, no rules or morality apply. You can do whatever you want and live out all the fantasies you want. The main thing is to push past your guilt and fear, and give into you sexual urges completely.

There have probably been times where you wanted to do something with her or some other girl, but you haven't allowed yourself to do so. Like you wanted to grab some ass or boob, or reach down her pants/ up her skirt; but you where either too afraid, proper, or guilty to do so. You have to push past this. The fear or guilt will still be there, but you have to keep going even though you are afraid or guilty. Action is the only solution to this problem. Whenever you get that feeling of fear/guilt/uncertainty, make sure you take some action. Think of it almost like a sign or a trigger, when you feel that way, that's your sign to do something, to push through it.

I'm sure you know how to escalate just fine; you just can't bring yourself to start doing it. You already know what you want to do to her and how, you've pictured it in your head countless times, all you have to do is allow yourself to make your fantasy a reality.
Exactly! Don't just live by it, use it like a mantra; when you feel that fear/guilt, remember that quote and push through it.

Yes, this is perfect! Absolutely love the advice guys! Thanks for your help!

Its gonna be a process though, recently shes been replying to texts with 1 or 2 word answers, not really wanting to conversate, and sometimes doesnt respond for 30+ minutes, in which those cases, i do the same, or if im busy, i dont even respond till im done doing what im doing. its sorta weird tho, we used to flirt alot over text, but now I dont even feel like setting up a date. I dont want to sound needy, like we need to hangout every 3-5 days, and I also am not motivated to ask, because shes acting like this, I dont even feel like hangin out with her.

Heres another thing. She NEVER stays out late, like usually goes to bed at 10-11...Shes been hanging out with "friends" more, which I know are guys, because we went to her "friends" house, and it was some dudes party pad...Last night she texted me at 2:30am saying she got flashed by a speed camera driving super fast, coming home from her friends house. True she could be at a girlfriends house, but usually if im at friends house that late, ill stay the night, but whatevs. So theres a chance she could be banging other guys. She acts like shes never with other guys and told me she only wants to be with me, but since we havent had sex, I have this lingering feeling that she is not only with me right now. Im not jealous, were not in a serious relationship, but if shes lying about that, then what else is she lying about? And the more guys she sleeps with, the bigger chance for STD, and this girl is HOTT! so I can guarantee she is getting hit on alot! What guy in their right mind wouldnt be tempted to talk to a girl who wears tight ass spandex type shit and a tiny sports bra when she works out in the crowded gym, accompanied by her nice tits and freakin awesome curvy ass? Lol

But once we DO hang out, either shes going to tell me to stop and say no, or I am gonna "get that thing!"