I feel like it's time to move and and be in a serious relationship, but at the same time I don't want to give up on going out and meeting girls.

Can you combine theese two?

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Yes. Providing boundaries in your relationship have been set and you don't cross the line into cheating.

There's nothing wrong with making new friends. Plus, talking to other girls will stop you becoming clingy and dependent on one girl.

get out and meet girls and spend time with them and get to know them and if one feels "special" then invest a little more time and energy into her but don't commit to anything and keep your options open untill you no longer want to keep your options open.

Options are good. Options are a worthy goal. If someone special catches your ey you have the option to spend more time and energy with her as you see fit. If you decide you don't want to marry her you have other options.

IHMO what separates the PUA from the AFC is the PUA has options and keeps options open. The AFC feels he has no other options so develops oneitis and doesn't think he can ever replace her.

If you have options, then you can choose who and how you budget your time and energy with.

Thanks for your replies.

What you say fits into my model of the world and that is how I've done things in the past.

And that has made me a very selfish person. I can almost say I don't care about those girls. I don't lie to them, but I let them know I'm not ready to invest much.

And at the end of the day that kinda life doesn't make me happy any more. So I said to myself that with the next girl that comes along I'll really try to build a "normal" relationship. I am not sure I even know what that is any more...

But at the same time I still want just a little room for myself and my old habbits, and I don't know if that can be done with full time gf.

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