hi all, hope you can help me with this,

I met this girl, saw her for the first time 3 weeks ago, and ran into her again 2 days ago at a party. We ended up making out for a few minutes, kinda felt like she wanted more but for some reason I didn't want to rush anything so I told her I had to go...

The next day, I didn't want to come off needy, so ended up sending her a lame text around 11pm asking how her day was... Got an answer, but it felt like she had lost all interest (short text (normally her texts are very long), and without the usual x at the end). I was busy at the moment so I didn't sent anything back.

Texted her again today but it still feels like she has lost interest. She didn't answer the second text I sent, so I didn't sent anything more.


Long story short, so how should you handle the day after a k-close? I feel like I should have texted her sooner, trying to meet up with her again, but then again I didn't want to come off needy.

Any tips on how to fix this? Really appreciate it, I'm kinda new at all off this and she's a really nice girl, would hate to lose her...

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The early bird might get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.

You know, a large part of analyzing failures is figuring out what's your fault, but sometimes, we forget to define what's NOT your fault. All of us are aware that a rejection can definitely be because of external circumstances. So can acceptance. She could accept just because she got out of a relationship a few minutes ago and wants to forget about it, or just because she's horny. From my perspective of what you've written, it seems that was what it was. She needed someone for the moment, but wasn't looking for anything else. You may have been able to take it further that night, but not later.

If that is indeed the case, then she simply doesn't want anything complicated, and may be in one of those moods again, later. So chill out, don't worry about it for a couple of days, to show her you're not looking for anything more either (for now, of course), and you won't scare her off by being clingy. Then maybe even a 1/2 week to week from now, hit her up again, and suggest you guys hang out. not a date, no dinner or anything, just some sort of light, fun thing. See where it goes...

Excellent advice!