She has a boyfriend. Dude is a complete downgrade. Some of her friends even told her "Is it a bet?" because the kid is trash.

She text's me the other day "Did you call me?", and since my exams have been over i've basically been drunk 24/7 all week, so I thought that I could have drunk dialed, so I check my phone but don't see any calls towards her, I even check my online phone bill (which registers all my calls and texts) and I also check my home phone, no calls.

I text her back "No... Why?"

"Well because there was a missed call from CW no worries kiss"

Then I see her 2 nights later in a pub, she says hello to all my friends, except me. My bro bursts in laugher and says "haha your ex is so funny she was checking you out a couple of times like should I say hello or not".

The same night a friend of mine is talking with her and her best friend, and he makes a comment about how our relationship is so retarded, and her bestfriend (who appreciates me) bursts in laugher like "ohh yeah", and she (my ex) was ashamed.

Now, this is the moment that pissed me off:

Last night once again she comes in a bar with all her friends and i'm sitting down next to a mutual friend of ours.
Her friends all come to say hello, she comes as well and says hi to everyone (we in europe give a kiss on the cheek to say hi), except me, doesn't even look at me.
She then sits down next to my friend, at like 30cm's of me.

So it was Her-My Friend-Me, and she was talking to him and looking at me, but I couldn't look at her because of the angle (she was side-wise to me).

She goes on to tell our friend how she liked my hair better before (just got it cut) and then he just went on busting her new boyfriend.

She stays there like 20 minutes, and finally when she leaves another friend tells me "Haha looks like she just wanted to come over and stay next to you ignoring you for 20 minutes just to piss you off".

It kinda did.

I don't know the reason for all this. Seriously, all the ex girlfriends towards whom i've been OVER and saw that I would definitely not ignore them like they were strangers.

She obviously holds some kind of grudge against me and still cares because she wouldn't act like a bitch if she didn't. If she didn't give a damn she would just say hi and move on I guess.

So wtffffff is going on here?

Relax man, there is no "mind effing" going on, this is typical female behavior.

By saying you're getting "mind fucked" by her, you are giving her too much credibility. The reason why it's bothering you so much is because her presence in your mind is like a parasite - a lingering sembelance of a past Oneitis. Imagine if you were a world bestriding Alpha fucking 20 women every night and had super semen, you wouldn't even NOTICE that she was ignoring you.

Your primary objective right now should be to fuck a girl hotter than your ex. Just getting over her with other girls isn't enough, you NEED to find a girl more attractive. The only reason why a girl can fuck with your mind if is your mind cares about getting fucked with by her.

Also, I'd go no contact for a while. You must have friends besides just mutual friends with her right? If anything, fly solo for a while. Hanging out is overrated anyways, focus on making money.

The more you let her antics get to you, the more you become susceptible to beta-backsliding. Remember, you are an Alpha. An Oak Tree. Nothing phases you, not even imminent death.

This idea that you don't know WHY your ex girlfriend is doing something needs to go. She's clearly doing it for attention. Women aren't puzzles or confusing, they're predictable and stupid.

“Ignorance exists in the map, not in the territory. If I am ignorant about a phenomenon, that is a fact about my own state of mind, not a fact about the phenomenon itself. A phenomenon can seem mysterious to some particular person. There are no phenomena which are mysterious of themselves. To worship a phenomenon because it seems so wonderfully mysterious, is to worship your own ignorance.”

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It's obvious she can't let go. She needs your attention for one reason or another. My opinion, let her spin her wheels. If she doesn't want to say hi, f*ck it...who cares. You don't need her attention any damn way. Hang out with your friends, pick up other chicks and have a good time.

Don't waist time trying to figure out what she is doing and why, it's irrelevant. Who cares what she has going on in her head, it's not your problem, it's hers. Move on and enjoy life.

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Hahaha looks like you dodged a bullet there man! Like most things she'll only do it to try and get a rise - dont rise to it - cut off contact..the best thing you can do has already been stated by the others - it's your perception of her that is playing the games - try to imagine yourself as one of us looking in from the outside, free from any kind of attachment to her (as we dont know her)- you'd be laughing your balls off!

If you get your mind right, no more problems. She probably only doing it cos her new beau is more than likely a total pussy - but that's the blessing and curse of improving yourself via the Game. Rise above.

All these comments are really constructive and have helped me get my mindset back where it used to be.

But I kind of still love her, and our relationship ended really stupidly, I feel like it deserves another shot.

I usually AM NOT AT ALL like this, but sometimes you come across a unique persona and realize that they are worth it.

So how should I act if I want her back?

You have Oneitis, trust me, it will be better if you get over her. Calimoxo is right, you just dodged a bullet. You won't realize it till a year or two later.

If you're not fucking another girl whose hotter than your ex right now, that's the reason why you think you're still in love with her. Trust me.

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I totally agree with this, and wouldn't be even thinking about her if I was with a hotter chick. But the fact is I am not, so if I could fuck her while I wouldn't mind
But I know myself, and I know that if I had another girl right now we wouldn't even be having this discussion.

NEXT. Go sarge and bang the hotter chick, preferably one who isnt such a nutcase. There's literally millions of other women you could f-close. Leave this one. Chance are she'll come a chasing when you cool off contact anyway. Then bang her. If she doesn't, who cares you're doing something else anyway.

So how should I act if I want her back?

Act like you DON'T want her back.

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I've done that in the past and by experience if you act TOO MUCH like you don't care, she will eventually get over it.

Then she's a total headfuck and will drain your lifeforce and precious time.

You only want her cos you cant have her and it'll slowly eat you away.

Just cut her out completely.

**EDIT: Or if seeing her is unavoidbale (same friends etc) then just be cool, dont run any game, dont be affected, just let her keep on being a tool. If you dont react, at least the others you are with will start to see she is mental and they may even call her on it. You on the hand wont, cos you wont care - her presence will have been tuned out to not affect you, over time

You cannot control her ridiculous behavior - you can only control how it affects you man
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My apologies, that was supposed to be 'light-hearted' humor. Seriously, I would not even entertain the thought of trying to get this girl back. She has shown how petty and immature she can be. Not worth the time and effort in my opinion.

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And anyway, why in the blue fucking hell do you wanna be associated with this girl? - she sounds totally rubbish, really really dislikable, lacking personality...

Think of the perception of you if people see you out with her (after how she behaves/has behaved), but more importantly your own self-perception must be in the gutter to even contemplate this nonsense.

To be honest you don't appear to be taking much of the forums advice on board. Not saying you have to be an automaton and just do what they say, but I was in another oneitis based thread recently and the guy was just defending her behavior, even though it was outrageous. Then it turned out she was gonna get fucked by the guy and SNAP he woke up and took action.

How far are you gonna allow this girl to go? She won't change, she is not worthy of any more of my or your attention, its YOU who has to get this shit straight in your head. Your perception of her is totally skew - to put it bluntly, she is a total bellend. NEXT.

She is definitely acting pretty immature right now, but the time I had with her was great and she wasn't like that.

Anyways, I'll continue to do what I do I guess just act as if it didn't phase me. And she'll continue to act as she does like I don't exist.

Retarded, but oh well. I guess it just means she's not over me completely, or i'm just telling me this to reassure myself.

My friends think that her "did you call me?" text was her trying to reiniate contact.