Girl I've been seeing for 4 months. We get on well most of the time but recently have had some misunderstandings. We see eachother at work mainly and have only had a few dates. We do like eachother alot and the only thing stopping us from getting real serious is that she has been in a long relationship.

She starts telling me she see other guys for my reactions and keeps saying stuff like she is single etc yet one minute she treats me like her boyfriend then I'm her friend. Everything was going well between us then told me weeks ago her and her friend were getting in some strangers car but she didn't want to. I said "Don't do anything" and then she goes "you know me" then for a few days she was a bit quiet. Then we had a few arguments about other things were she annoyed me then she told me that she was really attracted to this guy who she has known for awhile and showed me pictures.

She was laughing and smiling like she was just trying to annoy me so I didn't say anything, then she goes. I'm seeing him tonight and then showed me this sexy pic of herself and told me she sent him it.

The whole time she was acting like I annoyed her and this was my punishment. She also said "we are just work colleagues" with a pretend serious face and I said "seriously, we know what we have spoken and talk about" and she was smiling going "I'm nuts" and then she wouldn't stop mentioning that she was seeing this guy. I said to her "I don't know what you want me to say!" I went to give her a kiss on the cheek bye and she turned her head then gave me a big smile/grin and I said "why you doing that?"

Is she really just trying to annoy me or give me a message? I can tell she doesn't like that fact that I question her about what she does. She doesn't feel we are officially together, but she is acting like I'm a new guy, or that she has never treated me like her boyfriend when she had quite recently. One week ago she said she couldn't wait to kiss my sexy lips and now she says this. I try not to be jealous, but I don't want to be made a fool of so I speak up.

Well, she's clearly playing with you at the moment or at least testing you. What you've got to do is swap roles, outplay her.
Everything she does is really what you should be doing.

So, tell her you're both better off being friends (while kissing her).

Encourage her to see this or other guys and also start seeing another girl (or better a few other girls), because you're "just friends"

When she tries to kiss you, push her away (this works wonders, not letting a girl kiss you seems to drive them crazy)

Change your set of mind. Trying to keep her you will lose her, trying to lose her she'll stick to you like a chewing gum under your shoe.

Never ever ask her about what she's doing, where she's going, who she's meeting. Being inquisitive like that you're completely at her mercy and giving her your self to play with. Don't care about this kind of stuff and use your energy on other girls.

I like her alot but yeah it's pissing me off. Do you think I'm in the friendzone or not based on these things.

- She tells me she dates other guys
- She tells me I should get girls numbers
- She allows me to put my hands allover her butt and kinos me in a sly way(elbows my arm)
- She sometimes has tears in her eyes if she thinks I'm mad with her or we seem distant
- She gets jealous when I look or talk about girls but hides it

she shit tests you a hell of a lot, but she knows after 4 months she can play with you and has you wrapped round her finger from what i see.

You need to freeze her out and meet other chicks. if she tries to grab your attention through pictures and talks about other men, dont even say "I don't know what you want me to say!", just say something like 'cool' and then, if you can, go to your phone and reply to a text or something from another hb in front of her without actign bothered about her. She just wants your attention and validation all the while. Do not give her that.

Men,you are so focused to her beauty that you don`t realize she`s fucking with you.

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When you realize that rejection doesn`t mean shit you`ll try to find a way how to kick your own ass for being an idiot.

this seems like a whole lot of nothing to me, if i were to guess clearly she seems dis-interested and just wants your attention, because she likes attention like most girls

1st question have you had sex with her?

if the answer is no consider the following,
take note of how many times the answer is yes,

is she young and somewhat physically attractive? (most likely 16-24 yr old range)
does she talk to alot of different guys?
does she openly initiate flirting and possibly was the first to escalate?
(this could be something as simple as calling you cute or complimenting your clothes or saying something nice to you)
does she shit test on a regular basis? (compliance/rudeness/jealousy)
does she deny things that could have her lose your attention?

if the answer is yes to all of these questions pretty likely you are dealing with a female player!!

here are some steps to take to actually have a chance!!

1) stop giving her attention, actually go out one day, stop being a pussy, go to a mall, tell at least 20 girls you think they are cute and you just had to come talk to them, try to talk to them, before you leave say, hey we should hang out next week what is your number?, pull out phone as if you assume success, rinse and repeat, start texting these girls, put her on the bottom of your list of important people, and on the top of the list of un-important people, when you see her at work, you are friendly, but not interested physically or in flirting, you are all business no action, when she complains or says are you mad, just say no we need to keep things professional, come hang out with me after work, do not go to her, let her come to you, save the flirting/sexual escalation for isolation, COMPLETE INDIFFERENCE AT WORK, she reacts you don't every thing she does emotional, can be answered with, OK and a confused look, then ignore her

2)when she contacts you for attention, simply invite her out, when she flakes, end the interaction, with an indication that she has done something wrong, for example
(i assume from your post she is dis-interested enough to flake, if she is willing to talk about other guys)
girl:YO zook whats up!!??
zook:n2m, what you up to today?
girl:blah blah blah who cares blah blah blah,
zook:oh thats cool, lets hang out
girl:blah blah blah excuse (shes not interested in you most likely just gets bored at work and wants someone to entertain her)
zook:oh thats pretty boreing, well im going out so i ttyl (then the triumphant zooks cuts the ho off, and no more attention)

UNDER NO FUCKING CIRCUMSTANCES DO YOU RE-CONTACT, SHE MUST RE-CONTACT DON'T CARE IF YOU SEE HER AT WORK AND SHE BREAKS DOWN AND FUCKING CRYS, IT IS ALL JUST A SHIT TEST, DO NOT CONTACT, WHEN SHE DOES YOU ASK FOR MEET, IF SHE FLAKES, YOU IGNORE, IF SHE MEETS, YOU ESCALATE, END OF STORY, I HAVE DEALT WITH PLAYERS, THEY ARE ATTENTION VAMPIRES, DO NOT GIVE IN, EXPECT ALL KINDS OF SHIT TESTS, I MISS YOU, I LOVE YOU, THEY WILL TRY TO BAIT YOU INTO SEXTING ALL KINDS OF BULLSHIT, IGNORE, NEG, INVITE OUT, DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT CRUMBLE AND ACCEPT THEIR FRAME, THEY WILL ONLY FUCK A CHALLENGE, IF YOUR NOT HARD TO GET, YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE GETTING HARD, OR GETTING ANY, OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT GET IT?

2 flakes in a row = no interest, get other girls forget about this attention vampire, if a girl talks about other guys or tells you she thinks of you as a friend, it is game over, unless that other guy is truly her bf, and she talks shit about him, less attention and validation with the verbals, more attention and validation with the physical, and slow her physical reciprocation down,

that is all i can think of, this is just what i would do, you take the route that suits you the best, but to me this is clearly dis-interest from an attention vampire, ignoring them works the best, and when you are in their physical presence be absolutely upfront with sexual intent, get that yes, or that no, or she will suck the fucking life out of you (not in a good way)

maybe i have made a giant assumption, but i also want to say if most of what i said was correct and you do what i say, and you end up getting your penis played with, just know that this girl will most likely be having sex with other guys, so if you start dating her, just know you are probably not the only one, don't get jealous about it, just have your fun, and keep trying to meet girls

She suddenly told everyone at work she had a boyfriend(put it on facebook first) and said I was harrasing her but she actually told me she wants to go back with her ex but I think she did this get with a new guy. When I asked her about this we got into a fight but then still spoke. Then everyone started being really hostile(thinking I knew she had a bf) so it led to me making a mistake and I got fired. I got angry with her when everyone turned on me but she said she didn't know why they did.

She told people she didn't like me but it was obvious we had chemistry. She would look at me in front of everyone with teary puppy eyes. I saw her at work again(another job we do part time) and she was going to cry then she spoke as if I was regular person. After work and we laughed flirted then she went quiet and I had my hands allover her but before we departed she seemed like she didn't want to get attached and hugged me tight, said bye in a way like it was final. She never met with me when things were okay and now we don't work together we know we will not see eachother anymore. I would like to see her and still speak to her.

*facepalm* you got fired for not leaving her alone?


well I realize you won't listen, but move on, this is clearly over now, I truly hope you don't get arrested for doing anything silly like showing up at her work

Nah I made a mistake at work due to everyone harrasing me and even the managers knew about it but people were going around and saying crap like I was chasing her and she had a boyfriend but she never told me she did. I understand we are not together but last time I saw her she was going to cry and months before she cried around me when she said she wanted to go back to her ex. I just feel it's going to be weird not talking to eachother anymore.

This crap goes on all the time with immature/stuped women.

They love to create artificial drama at the guys expense while screwing up his life and reputation...

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

She contacted me today after 3 days of not speaking, she was telling me some weirdness about how her friend was doing coke(sounded like she was talking about herself) and tried a few jealousy shit tests on me.

She said that we should keep in contact, and I said "yeah we should and see eachother aswell, we could look for jobs, or buy clothes" I said because anytime I asked her to go for a drink she got all uncomfortable as if it sounded to much like a date to her.

Seems like she missing me already as she is going to work without me but she isn't letting me realise. I said to her she can contact me whenever but I would like to actually see her. Anyway I can get her to meet me without it sounding to much like a date?

once again I know you won't listen but, oh my god... move on

this girl is going to cause you nothing but emotional problems

hate girls like this, move on from this bitch

Moving on probably is a good idea...

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

What Im getting from all this is that you are interpreting everything overly positive. I have read nothing from above which would make me think shes genuinely into you. UNLESS: theres always an unless... all this shit testing is her way of showing interest. You didnt answer a question earlier, how old is she? Im guessing 20 max... Anyway, regardless of whether she does like you or not, can u imagine the BS you will have on your plate if you ever did get together for real?

Complete freeze out is the only way for her to quit the games and start being straight up. That means no answering the phone, replying to texts etc... FREEZE OUT

The boys weren't lyin dude, leave this girl behind.