If she does talk to you again, and she's indicating she wants to fuck, then go ahead and fuck her, but don't try to pursue anything else than that. She's got a child, you don't need her baggage.
You need a girl who'll respect you. No one respects people who beg.
PUA rule #1: Don't act like a pussy to her face, or phone, or account, no matter how you're feeling. We all get hurt by people, but you can't just show your pain to everyone within 100 feet of you.
Also try to not get a girlfriend so quickly...lol
"Playing the field" does NOT mean settling for a relationship with the first girl to look at you and smile. Not that you did THAT, but...ya know what I mean...

alright so i haven't been contacting her at all now yesterday she hits me up on FB:

"Hi Codeman!!! Happy Saturday!! We are trying to hook up Netflix thru the WII but we need the password for the wireless. We tried partyon and partyon2. Can you please assist us blondes?
CNA neetwork name in case that helps remind you" 12pm

then

"haha I got it... I googled how to and actually figured it out. Sorry to bother ya!" 3pm

then

"Sooooo what have you been up to? School out for summer? New job? Stuff is the same here. Work and now summer for her! No homework for me woo hoo!!!! TTYSoon ♥" - 11:59pm


recently some hot girls been hitting on me more so and leaving messages on my wall and what not. So I haven't responded to ANY of these...yet.

where do i proceed and how? These were all sent to me yesterday

If it were me, I would just say something to her like "sorry havent been on facebook in a while". Then (If you still want her back) talk to the other girl posting on your wall a shit ton. Leave comments on HER posts on YOUR wall that way your ex can see you are talking to this other girl and not to her.

Then if she contacts you, I would keep my responses short and kind of act like you dont have time for her. Do that for like three days or something. After that ask if she wants to go to a bar or something. If she says no then be like "okay me and a bunch of my friends were going so i thought i'd ask". If she says yes, play it smooth i guess. Dont be a dick but dont confess your love to her.

i needed to hear that.. thank you.

cool thnks. I haven't responded yet. Maybe it will make her itch for more i dunno...

HA HA!! I thank you for the compliment I may not know guys, but I do know women...

well i responded to her saturday FB messages

just said

"Hey Ana!, things have been great, just been really busy with work and all that fun stuff.. If you wanted to get a hold of me you know how, take care gangsta G"

yah i know seems weird but thats my personality, I also refrained from calling her any pet names I have in the past. I know she got the message, and she did not respond nor do I know if she will call or not but I'm not going to sit by the phone waiting.

I'm wondering if I gave her the upper hand here, or if I neutralized the "I'm a FB friend".. not quite sure. I guess only time will tell.

ok so im starting to re-think my response to her..

should have i been more conversational? like ask questions back and what not?

I dont wana second guess myself, but im thinking of sending her another message..and would appreciate some advice on it if anyone could

As i try to look at it from your point of view, it seems as if you need some form of clarification. So if you DO send another message, just ask "so how have you been?" or something along those lines. Keep it short but sweet. If she does not respond that is NOT a bad thing. She is probably just pissed because you took so long to write her back because you are a cool mother fucker now and dont have a lot of time for her.

Im not trying to be mean about the whole situation, I know you have feelings for her but remember, and this is not intended to put you down or hurt you in anyway, being yourself and doing what you thought was right lost her in the first place. Another thing to remember is, whether or not she knows it, she is also playing the game just like you are so again, if she doesnt respond that is not a bad thing.

Again i would also still try and talk to some other girls. Make it visable on facebook.

The hardest part for me in this whole pick up thing is still rejection. At first i got rejected because i was nervouse and talked to fast but now it hardly ever happens (Im not bragging i really need to raise my self esteem). Every time i still fear rejection and worry that they didn't like me and thought I was a fucking faggot or i sucked in bed or something. The point of all this is, and you may already know, that your not alone dude. If things dont work out your not alone. (This will not happen though Im almost positive she still wants your nuts )

Thanks romeo, and I think your right. I might send her another message to see how the fam is doing, not quite sure.. Ive been going out a lot more, playing the field but just to keep my head busy. I know she just wants friends in her life, and I think thats where I need to start being a good friend then working my way in slowley.. But just getting her to talk on the phone seems impossible.

Im guessing its still to soon to ask her to go to a concert with me in september? She loves the band..

I would invite her to go, but tell her you would just be going as friends. Also, let her know that you would need an answer pretty quick because there is a girl that you are trying to impress and would like to ask her if she isn't interested. Make sure you make the 'just as friends' comment first before mentioning the 'other' girl. If she says no, she says no.
You should also take into consideration that since this woman has a kid, she may be wary to have someone involved in their lives with that level of intimacy. It leaves big impressions on the kid and parents are and should be protective. It could also be that the relationship with the father left a huge impact on her that pushed her away from the idea of commitment. I say this because you've stated before that she has had other men pursue relationships and she has turned them down, too. Maybe she still needs time or would rather focus on what she feels matters most. Which would be the kid...

thnks peg..

SO i took ure advice and text her today, she seemed pretty happy i text her. I asked her to the concert and she didint respond, however she just called me from her house (first time in more then 3 months) and said she just saw her text and to call her back tonight or tomorrow. woohoo!! lol I realize this dosn't mean much but im going to wait an hour then call her back. Now considering she is down for the concert, do I bother to ask to hang out with her sometime? Or am I pushing it to much here? Like maybe 4th of july? or am I offering to much to soon?

TY!!

Yes, that would be too much too soon. You want to convey a passing interest to her for now. Don't sound too excited about her going with you, but feel free to show a little for the show. Next time she asks you to hang out, I wouldn't. Tell her you have plans, but thanks for the offer. Maybe next time. The next time give a reserved yes. Don't push her away too much, but let her know you still have a life with out her. Think of all of the times she turned you down. If she has a problem with you turning her down a few times, think about what kind of person that would make her. Don't be afraid to point it out if the situation goes to that.
Congrats on getting a 'friend' date!

(this chick better be a 10, btw!)

Just curious, have you seen Swingers? If not, then you should. Just seems to fit, and you may learn something. I certainly did watching that movie.

In any case, my advice to you would be t definitely invest in those two tickets for the concert. If she doesn't want to or can't go to the concert, definitely take someone else. You're pretty young and (presumably) attractive to worry too much over who you're taking to a concert.

Don't take this the wrong way. I have only your perspective on her to go off of, so if you say she's worth waiting for, that's fine with me. But sometimes, we are so confident of one thing just because we haven't seen the other options. I recommend you go out with a few other people, even on big ticket events like this. If you find someone else in particular, or realize there are other options, congrats! If you then, after still seeing a little of what's out there decide that she's the only one that really gets you going, then best of luck! =)