When I go to partys I'm really good at introducing myself then after I introduce myself I don't know how to follow up with that same type of confidence especially at kickbacks, and by the way whenever I go to a party I only know about one or two people their so it's really intimidating. To make this short I just want to be able to socialize at parties like a really confident person would.. any personal advice that has worked for you to stop being nervous at parties and make new friends will be greatly appreciated.

I can help by assuming that when you talk parties, you're talking about the standard college kegger. I mean you walk up to a total stranger at a house you are not familiar with, pay them some cash, walk in, and drink.

These are great ways for a guy to learn how to network, and that's the best thing you can do to start. Introduce yourself to the guys working the party. It's the dudes (its never women, not for more than 10 minutes) who are checking ids, collecting money, handing out cups, providing shots, and working at the keg. Now they are trying to keep things going smoothly, so you dont need to tell a life story, but introduce yourself, get their name, and say thanks. If you walk by them later on at the party, say hey and tell them the place is poppin (in whatever words you would normally use haha). At the very least, if you get involved in a little drama guys at the house will take your side over a stranger. At best, you get an in with the home crew, and that's one of the biggest advantages a party crasher can have.

It sounds simple, but bringing your own booze is a huge edge. Sometimes you can avoid paying by showing your own bottle/flask/12 pack/whatever. But once word gets out, and it will, that you brought something better than Natty you will become the center of attention. This is so eashy since everything is better than the cheap beer your average college student uses for a keg.

A trademark helps. If you go to parties in the same area you may run into similar people all the time. It can be a signature crazy beerpong shot, a unique shirt or jacket you frequently wear, or that one song that has you dance like your a member of the damn Jabawockeez. Regardless, if you are memorable in a very simple way, the next party will be easier for you because more people will recognize you and treat you less like a stranger and more like an old friend.

back when I partied a lot, i always showed up to parties a few minutes before they officially started and chatted with the doormen. once the crowd showed I would enter, but in 3-5 sober minutes I gained an edge over everybody else.

Now the best thing I can tell you is so simple it is inspiring. Watch Wedding Crashers and emulate that attitude. Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson were able to crash weddings and get laid because they became the life of the party. Their characters were so outgoing, and just made small talk with everybody, cracked a few jokes, and acted like they were the guests of honor. When you act that comfortably, just like in that movie, nobody will question whether you are that level of badass. If you act like you are the main event, and combine that with being fairly polite to the people who actually work the party, you

If you don't know many people, the best way to get to know guests is to just be chill, pleasant, and interactive in any drinking games they play. Scout out a person you think you may be able to talk to "naturally", and it may lead to being introduced to others.

Word of advice: Don't try too hard and attempt to stand out in the crowd to attract attention (by being really loud, chiming in with a strong comment, or whathaveyou.) People may not take it in the way you had intended, and could lead to the "Who the F is that guy" SPAM. This might work with certain groups, but as a general rule, just observe and be merry in most of these situations.

a party is just a room full of sets... do you ever open with "hi my name is _____, whats your" i dont because when you go up to the hb7-8-9-10, it will make the bitch shield come up... and the hotter the girl the harder the bitch shield will come up... so memorize about 4 canned openers and a DHV story or two and make sure you know some decent kino routines and remember always smile(that can make or break a set).... go in open over your shoulder stack a few openers neg target(dont give her time to respond) then throw in your dhv story and kino during all this.... then isolate by wanting to go outside to(smoke, get fresh air, ect... or just move her to isolation place) dont ask her if she wants to go tell her because you are the alpha male and you do what you want and everyone else listens... and your in

While I agree if you really try you will end up looking like a fool, you should be trying to have as much fun as possible. Part of that is encouraging everyone around you to have fun. Be the life of the party, just don't disrespect anybody.

On a related note, if you hear someone say "don't disrespect me," you should walk into another room because that is only said by jackasses and drunks who are about to pick fights for no particular reason.