I was in the gym sitting down just finishing my protein drink before leaving when I started talking to this HB8.5-9 who was sitting near me. I made her laugh a few times and even teased her. After around 5 minutes of talking to her, it felt like it had been long enough to build up enough rapport to ask for her number, and I also thought I better go now while things are still going well. So I said “I have to go now but it would be good to continue this conversation sometime…” She said “yes it would” and then said “but I don’t have my phone on me” (it was in the changing room). So I said to her “you should give me your number” and gave her my phone. (the “we should continue this conversation sometime” seems to be my main line now when attempting to number close) Good/bad?

After she gave me her number I shook her hand, introduced myself and asked for her name before leaving.

A few hours later I text her:

Me: Nice meeting u earlier in the gym, I’m ……. Got u saved in my phone as karate Fi :p (she does karate and her name is Fi)

There was no reply to this, though as it was only an introductory text I wasn’t too disheartened. So, a couple of days later I text her:

Me: Hello, hope ur dad hasn’t disowned you after ur father’s day present lol. How is ur day? I hate Mondays lol (the father’s day thing was due to a joke we had in the initial conversation)

There was also no reply to this. It’s been nearly a week now so I know this is a no go, but I’m wondering what went wrong. Where did I mess up?

Was it that I left straight after getting her number, as it could have looked like I was only talking to her to get her number?

Was it my texts?

dude... how many numbers do you get a day? lol, i swear i've seen on a few of your posts, all today.., well done man..

continue conversation line is pretty good.. have to field test it. it seems like gold to me.

your follow up game seems pretty lame to be honest. maybe try reading some of the posts on the forums about that for a while. i think you should really only contact her when theres a solid conversation or reply going to happen. i think that generic how was your day lines are lame, but thats just my view. rather invite her out for something:
meeting friends at ,name of place,.. will i be seeing you there?
or
i got a table at , name of place, friend got busy. you coming?

those are kinda direct-ish so not sure if you want to play it that way. those two texts you sent arent my style, not sure how u want to approach that. maybe you should experiment with a change in text approach and see what it leads to

Lol all the numbers I've got recently are mentioned on here. I don't actually actively approach girls (don't have the guts for that yet) but if they are in the vicinity (e.g. at a train station, in a shop etc), I will try and talk to them.

I actually rarely used to speak to girls (especially strangers) so I made a concerted effort to start talking to them in day to day situations. I became moderately confident at this but then I was always too nervous to ask for their number at the end of the conversation. That is until recently when I thought nothing will change unless I go for it. Funnily enough, I even felt better after asking for a number and getting rejected, than not asking for her number at all. Plus, the process of doing this made more confident on future occasions when asking me for a number.

With regards to my texting, how would you have played it? I read a bit of the "The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game" and I was trying to use what was mentioned in there, by sending a "low investment" text and using "callback humour". I guess if this approach doesn't work for the next number I get, I'll have to tweak/change it.

Based on what I've read here and my own experiences with wanting to text someone or not I'll give my two cents ^^;

You really didn't do anything that proved you were different from anyone else who probably approaches her (you said 8-9). The "continue this conversation sometime" line I think gives her a little too much power. I've gotten this before and it's an obvious "I'm interested in you" line. Maybe try something more teasing/indirect?

Also, never hand a girl your phone. You can call them out right then and there if you need to. Ask for the number, type it in, dial it really quick to "save it". I think the little nickname was cute, I would've said that when I saved the number. (unless you hadn't thought of it yet).


I'm not sure how the actual conversation in the gym went, but I think that's maybe where things went awry. The initial text is something I probably would have responded to if my interest was piqued. [/b]

i havent read the other guide to phone game yet, but i did post something that could help you
guide-to-phone-game-use-it-dont-use-it-vt94759.html

i'm not sure if i've posted this link on one of your other posts. maybe you could tell me what the differences between my post and the one you read about phone game is so we can actually make one good thread that can help guys.

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