more kissing, more contact (not necessarily physical, but also the desire to connect mentally), more heat, but don't push for clothes of.


Basically, make sure she feels that you want her, and that she feels how she wants you.

Unless she's asexual, that will shorten the time-span.


However, it may be the case that she's not really interested in sex, and has a mental construct of how it will be that is completely out of touch with reality.



So, just escalate on the points where you do have action;
Kiss her like you really mean it,
Touch her,
Grab her (sides and shoulders,) in the way that shows how much you want her.
Let her feel it. (not your cock, but your desire for her.)
Lead her into the state of pure arousal, but be the one that holds back (two steps forward, one step back) so that she doesn't feel pushed into doing anything; She should be the one to break the boundaries, your job is just to push them a little.


hope it helps.

^^^ This.

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Look my friend,

The actual choice that you are facing is not whether she will have sex with you or not--it is whether you can handle the intense emotional connection that having sex with you will make her have. So think carefully. Do you just want to get laid, or are you looking for a girlfriend? If you just want to get laid, go for some slut. It is much more fun than sleeping with a virgin. On the other hand, if you are looking for a deeper relationship, then be the one to take her virginity.
But do have sex. Women are different from men, and she will have sex one way or another. A friend of mine was in exactly the same situation, he respected her and waited for one year, only to discover when she eventually dumped him that she had been fking his Italian SPAM for about six months before she dumped my friend, without having sex. Just don't idealize her.

This brings to mind a certain moderator who is fond of saying... you shouldn't go out and make the first girl you meet your girlfriend.

This story is very reminiscent of what many people go through at 15, 16, 17, 18... when, where, why, who, and how to break the taboo of the what.

Does she have religious beliefs against premarital sex? Or, any severe (even if well hidden) insecurities?

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- Lux et Veritas -

This isn't really making the first girl I met my girlfriend. We know each other for 9 months and we were good friends for like 4 or 5 months before we started dating.

She isn't religious. She's a bit insecure but nothing severe I'm pretty sure.

I'll try escalating to see what happens. If it fails do you think I should be more cold with her and give less attention as a way to show her I can't be the only one making efforts?

If you escalate well (based on some of the above advice) and she doesn't respond, don't start acting cold or adjust your behavior based on that. She is already putting (perhaps too much?) emphasis on the importance of sex, and if she knows you are acting weird because she is holding out, she is going to get even more wound up about it.

It will be up to you to decide if this relationship no longer works for you, but if you do, be honest and sensitive, but firm. Keep away from the mind games.

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Oh, btw;

Learn to do eye-contact.

Eye-contact is extremely powerful,
(e.g. I've picked up a woman once using nothing else. Just eye-contact and half-minded fluff.
It's a huge turn on for most girls, when you manage to capture their eyes in yours and let yourself become aroused by her, just focus on the anticipation of the kiss and what follows, maybe start doing a sort of triangle gaze after a while (Alternating between eyes and lips, while you let yourself lean a little towards the kiss, but more like you're just being dragged unconsciously than a controlled movement. Make sure to "catch" yourself in the moment and use that to build tension. Just imagine the kiss is forbidden, so you want it, badly, but you strongwill yourself into not doing it. Expect the kiss, but don't go for it, just let the body hint at it.
ps. This is more powerful if you haven't kissed before. ))

It's kinda important that you hold her eyes even after she looks away the first time, because she's going to look back after a very short moment, dragged back in.


If you want to practice eye-contact, just try to keep eye-contact with anyone you meet, until they break away. (Remember to smile )


Let her do the story-telling and imagine how you're going to touch her, hold her, kiss her and turn her on.

Having "TALKS" is only going to take you so far. Try escalating things from kissing. If she says no, you can back down and say you're not trying to fuck her, just do oral or whatever. In your own words. Just don't make it seem like a chore, O_O I am a virgin, penis goes where?

Let her feel it

Never try to talk thing out with your girlfriend just forget about her for a few then try again later. If things don't work out break up and or freeze out.

oh I had one of these ones. Dried the dry hump, she still wouldnt. Tried taking my own clothes off, still not luck (in fact less).

And then one night I gave her the keys to my appartement cos she had a late shift at the bar she worked in. She got in bed with me while the lights were off, started cuddling, started getting jiggy. Then she whispers in my ear in french (she was french), salut ma cherie (hi darling in english). To which I responded in a shocked manner...."oh its you". And I can still say to this day I never sealed the deal.

So my best advice is dont fuck it up and keep trying if she is worth it. Also dont pressure her. Try to get her comfortable with nakedness first