This girl & I have been texting back & forth for the last couple days. Yesterday, we met & had a good time together.

Texting her today, she went cold after I asked her to choose between two nights to go out. All discussion up to this point seemed to go very well.

So far it has been about two hours without reply. I am considering texting her back & saying, "Oh shoot, looks like I'm going to be busy after all," & then freezing out on her for a couple days.

Suggestions?

Irving

lol. get over it. she has no obligation to text you back instantly. you are overbearing if you're going to punish her for not texting back in two hours, and are clearly insecure about it. give her more time.

Appreciate your honesty. I guess I am used to receiving responses instantly from most people I talk to (HB or not).

As far as an update, she just texted me back.

"lol probably Wednesday. but I hate picking!"

I think you need to re-evaluate your attachement levels to women before posting here.

We can help, but for genuine problems.

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I would echo TheDonDraper - if two hours with no reply is causing you consternation, you gotta work on some inner game and evaluate WHY you would respond in this manner - what if she was at work? Busy? Didnt feel like talking to you at that point? Out with friends or some other guy?
None of that shit matters, you aren't the center of her universe and she should in no way be the center of yours.

And, don't offer her a choice of things you can do together - be decisive, pick something and run with it, you gotta be the decision maker my man! Take charge.

Take a breath, Grasshopper

Thank you for the helpful reply. I am currently working on my inner game (& that is always a work in progress, no?). Thank you for the suggestion to become the decision maker, sometimes I am, but I realize that I most always need to be.

Wait, were you carrying on a conversation with her at a normal pace and only when you texted her that did she freeze? Because this happens to me every once in a while and it really bothers me.

Yeah, exactly what happened. It drives ne nuts.