I don't want to make this long so if I miss anything out just ask.

Was 'seeing' a HB9 meaning we were exclusive for about two weeks. We had been talking for about 3 months prior.

I was in the city with a friend on Saturday night and she met up with us at about 12am. Her and my friend were both drunk. He started flirting with her, hitting on her etc straight away. Now this guy has no game, just was drunk. At first she was annoyed and kept coming over to me but once we arrived in the club he started dirty dancing her for like 10 minutes! Then tried to kiss her. She said no but about 5 minutes later she tried to kiss him. To which he said no, because I was watching.

I took her aside like WTF that's my best friend? And she said she was jealous because I had hugged one of my close girlfriends on the way in. This girl is 18 and her immaturity causes her to flip out massively in the jealously department. So we made up whatever. Till about 5 minutes later I hugged this other friend of mine and this girl I'm seeing storms off like crazy. I follow her like WTF again and she grabs another guy on the dance floor (ugly) and starts pashing him. By this stage one of my other friends had ricked up and she started pashing him. This friend of mine has even less game with the other one. He never gets any girls and suddenly this HB9 was all over him, so he wouldnt stop even though he knew we were seeing eachother.

The original friend who tried to kiss her came up to me and was like, 'OHHH is that the girl you're seeing I'm so sorry I had no idea.' I think he's lying because he's met us before/ saw us kissing holding hands when she got out the taxi.

I haven't spoken to either friends for a week. Not because I'm sour, just shattered at the lack of respect they showed for me. That they would put a hook up above their friends thoughts and feelings, even when I asked them to stop.

I have known the first friend for about 8 years. Even so I just don't feel like talking to him because A) he betrayed me then B) lied about knowing her

I feel strongly about cutting these two guys off. which will separate me from the majority of my friends. This doesn't bother me much, I can find new ones.

I know this girl was a psychopathic ho, but my friends should have known better. In my opinion if I let them back into my life they will have less respect or me and see me as weak etc.

I need an Alpha approach to this situation. The wisest one, so I can know if I should maintain this friendship and how to manage the situation so I can forgive them but still come out strong and on top.

This is a huge problem for me right now, so please please help me out.
Thanks
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Definitively cut them off. They have no excuse to hit on your GF (doesn't matter if you were with her for 5 years or only 1 day).

Second, lose the GF, from your story she sounds total crazy and that doesn't lead to a healthy relationship.

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Yeah I agree man. It's hard because I play soccer tonight with both those guys, I captain the team and I pulled out for tonight and might have to pull out indefinitely plus I go to school and am in the same class as my best friend once a week.

I didn't realize she was so psycho and got rid of her straight away! : )

But yeah I guess if they don't respect me (and I have no idea why) then I would be a bitch to go back to them. Maybe because I learned game they were jealous I had girls and they didn't (or something like that)

Bloke, I know you're upset about this, your pride is damaged, not thinking straight... hence the title of your post (my friend stole my girl)

Think about that for a second.

Your friend stole your girl, or your girl was crazy and gave your AFC friend an opportunity for some cheap and easy ass?

See where I'm going with this?


You say your friends have no game. Doesn't it stand to reason that they'd jump all over an opportunity like that, with little thought? Doesn't it stand to reason that they really didn't assume you were together with this girl? Isn't the benefit of the doubt in this situation the most manly thing you can offer?

And, regardless of your opinion now about your friends' loyalties to YOU (and it is about YOU isn't it?) what you're demonstrating here is a reaction of the same type your girlfriend had when you hugged your female friends, and that you thought was bizarre!

If she is out of line by reacting to your behavior by assuming some "you're my property" kind of mentality, how is it that you are any better than her at this point? You're reacting in this same way, blaming your friends for "stealing" your "property," when in fact she was not your "property" and they did not "steal" her. She has a mind of her own and made her own choices. Don't reciprocate with this "property" mentality.

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I know she's not my property and I know she was being a whorebag. But if my friends took advantage of that, assuming they knew we were seeing eachother isn't that wrong of them? You read my point correctly, and you're right it would have been tempting for these guys to jump on the opportunity. But this was her crazy ass way of embaressing me and making me jelous which they facilitate. You feel me?

I go with wal.. u said her behaviour was crazy and immature.. now u are behaving the exact way... just dont bother those guys.. they are AFCs.. they will burn even if the get in a set..

their game will be so weak that even if they score a few points at first, they will eventually burn not knowing wat to do..

But if a miracle happens and they get it right, just take it easy and get a new girl.. dont put a lot of efforts on a single girl.. its the practice and experience tat matters.. nothing else..

Okok! Maybe I should clear up. The title of this post is misleading, apologies! Let me explain.

They didn't literally steal her just kissed her infront of me. Nothing serious will come out of it for them just the fact they took advantage to get a kiss. She did it to make me jelous, she didn't even exchange numbers with my friends. She called me the next night crying and apologising. The title of this post should be, 'my friend dirty danced with my girl and tried to kiss her. My other friend did kiss her' hope that makes more sense

I really feel like the spirit of this post is not getting through. Soo can everyone use their imagination for a second.

You're seeing a girl. You really like eachother, it's been about three months. She comes to meet you at a club. She gets out the cab and you kiss and hold hands, your friends see this. But she's drunk and your AFC mate starts hitting on her.

In the club you talk to some girls and hug one of your girlfriends and this girl you like flies off in jealous rage. To make you jealous she targets your friends and goes for a kiss.

Now your friends have seen you kiss her, holding hands etc, plus you've told them this girl you really like will be coming and they think that's awesome. They saw her get out the cab. Benefit of the doubt would tell them, this is a girl I have been talking about.

Okay, so they're AFC, and suddenly this girl is hitting on them. Out of respect for their friend, shouldn't they have said no anyway? This isn't my pride like, 'oh you touch my girls I hate you you asshole'. But watching your close friends do that to you. Watching them kiss her and feel her up and all that. Just because the opportunity presents itself. It doesn't make it okay.

The whole I don't think I should talk to them anymore really is because I feel sick having those images in my head and I feel betrayed. I don't really give a shit about the girl or about her kissing strangers in front of me. But I think if friends disrespect you like that then It's not immature to be upset, to generally not want their company anymore and feel, well the best word, without being a drama queen, is a little "sick". lol

I do want them back in my life maybe, to some extent, at some stage. I just don't see how that's possible if they have such little respect for me. I want to be able to let them back in, but have them clearly know they can't do it again. Especially lying about not knowing it was her. This is really just another example of them showing me disrespect. They also sometimes don't invite me to things, that sorta thing. I'm always there for them and do anything for them. I think it's jealously of me improving my lifestyle and getting ahead. So they like to put me down, which I have ignored for the most part even though it annoys me. This is like a HUGE decision in my life so I'm appreciating all the wisdom you guys can give.

Hope that helps with some perspective!

Bloke.

If these guys are not such great friends of yours anyway, why bother? Yes, it sure is annoying that your friends hit on your girlfriend, and that she reciprocated, and that you got left out. It sucks that this girl was crazy and that you didn't see it coming. But man, you are really putting a lot of weight on the assumption that they knew what was going on. Come on, man, you had been seeing this girl for 3 months and had not introduced her to your friends yet? You and these friends either are not that close, or this girl was not that important.

Still, even if you don't want to be friends with these guys anymore, (which is within your rights as a human being) why get so blown up about it? If you truly think they crossed the line, brush it off and move on. The only person that can heal your jealousy and anger is you, by letting it go. So let it go, man. Be friends with them, or not, but don't blame them for your crazy ex-girlfriend and your own reliance on assumption.

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That girl is wacko. Your friend is wacko. Are you wacko? If not, keep the wackos away or you will turn wacko as well.

I would punch my friends out and never speak to that girl again, this makes me furious. Your friends showed absoultely no respect for u.. But i would stop talking to them for at least a couple weeks, then if they want to apologise then they better have a good apology written and maybe you can talk to them again. For the girl, i would advise you to never speak with her, even if she calls, texts whatever, she proved herself to u in the club, so how would you think she will react if u two ever went out..

Thanks guys. Yes, the girl is done for. That was a no-brainer. In terms of my friends I hung out with the guy who tried to kiss her last night. He says he didn't know it was her, unlikely, but I guess I'll have to leave it at that. Still not talking to the guy who pashed her for the majority of the night. Mostly because I told him to please stop about 5 times over the course of the night and he didn't listen. Not sure what else to do now. For everyone who thinks I'm a tense, jealous wierdo, you misinterpret this thread. My not talking to those guys isn't me losing control of my emotions or anything. Still very much in control. Just a naturally feeling to want to cut people like that off and was unsure if what I was feeling was correct.

Appreciate everything, being able to get advice on important shit like this, from guys around the world is pretty awesome. Any more tips I will keep reading.
Much much thanks