basically last week i got with this waitress i picked up. we went out a couple times with her friends and my friends in a group. she flopped on me on the first date, so i thought that was a dead end. so the other day basically i was boozed and randomly messaged her to come over to my house cause she was boozed to with her friends, and she did surprisingly. basically we drank more, and i got her in bed, sadly anytime i am drunk i always get whiskey cock!!! always happens!!! worst shit ever, but i know it happens to the best of us... *sigh*

anyhow when we woke up beside each other we went out for breakfast and she did kiss me good bye. she did talk to me the next day, but im confused where to go to now... i want another crack at this chick, without no alcohol this time damnit lol.

now my question is, how do i do this. how do i approach this situation! i did ask her to hang out this coming week and she agreed, i didnt mention the word "date" dont want to make it seem like its serious before i push her away, however i do plan to take her out for dinner and dessert so ya. im confused if i should just play it cool, dont escalate to taking her to my house so she doesnt think im all about sex. or maybe i should try to get her to come to my house at the end of the night. or if i should just kiss her good bye at the end of the night. cause the last thing i want to do is scare this chick away, shes a really nice girl and i enjoy hanging out with her to be honest. so help me out boys!

i guess she is considered a fling right now i dont know to be honest but ya...


thanks in advance!

damnit no one has any pointers/ideas...

You can't consider her a fling yet man -- that would take a few more encounters :)

Five days ago I'd have said you're ahead of yourself, thinking about the goodnight kiss and all. So if it's not to late, I say play it cool, like you know it's nothing serious now, and you just wanna see where nature takes it because she didn't instantly disqualify herself. If nature makes her say yes, then you have a date. If no, then that's just nature.

As to the goodnight kiss -- don't make it a goal. I try to kiss as early in the date as possible. I also prefer some method I read of somewhere, where you don't ever move in specifically for a kiss, but instead you find ways to get your heads close as often as possible. Then, one of the times, when it feels right, you move the extra two centimeters and see what happens. If it felt right you probably have a kiss. If she pulls away, at least you didn't make a big obvious gesture given all the previous closeness, and you can both act like it was nothing. And you can do it all over again. The seed's been planted.