I have a lot of insecurities in my life. Just about every aspect of it involves me having a low self-esteem. How can I overcome my insecurities and be a mature person?

First off, I would recommend working on your inner game. Pickup the Audio Program by Anthony Robbins called Personal Power II. This program is the best thing that has ever happened to me. It helps you find your purpose in life and in doing so will give you the identity that now only you truly desire, but women will find you more attractive as a result of being that man who knows his direction in life. I would also start working out. Working out immediately makes you feel better about yourself and in a few short weeks will give you soaring confidence. Not only that but you will have more energy throughout the day, as well as an increased libido. I used to be where you are at man but it's not all that tough to get over. You just have to be willing to put time and effort into improving yourself but if you are serious about being your best self, all the effort will be worth it. Not to mention it is a fun as hell voyage.

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10klvrsin1, you seem to be running in circles, have you tried anything we discussed in you other posts? Posting a new question will not help you, action will!

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do not obsess about insecurity ... taking action always works.... everyone is insecure abotu some things ... do you think obama is 100 % confidence ? of course not ... he is also human and also he is having insecurities.

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10 you should just make a journal in this section and make it simple for your self and others. I know that it will take sometime before you understand all the concepts that cause you concern and or hold you back. But to post a billion topics about it won't make it any better. That's why you should just make a self-reflection journal in this section. I've had one for quite some time now. If you ever read my journal you could see the evolution of my text from self-pity to one of taking action. If you make a journal I'm sure that your ideas will mutually evolve into positive ones over time.

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Hey guys,

I have an insecure fear of people that I just can't shake. I am trying to get to the root of my insecurities. Sorry for all the posts, but I need help.

I have learned a main source of insecurity is from my parents. My father is a very tough, mean, aggresive, hipocrite. My mother is very manipulative, decietful, and is not in touch with reality. I feel both of them have caused me my insecurities.

I want to take action, but the insecurities and fear I learned from my parents just keep me in place.

How do I set up a journal?

thank you

Just use this post as your inner game journal and start to post all your concerns here, or simply make another post on here titled with the title you want for your journal and post all your postings in that one post. It'll make shit a lot easier for us all.

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seems to me that your looking for something to quickly fix your problems. If thats the case what I would suggest is that you take your time with all of this. Try to make little changes every day..getting rid of insecurities and building self esteem takes some time but its really worth it...you got to have the right mind set too. What helped for me is that instead of trying to fix everything now I made a goal to make myself a better person and a better man which is a long term goal. Your attitude has to be one of delayed gratification but you gotta have an open mind to the things your doing to help yourself out. Don't judge the stuff that your reading just kind of soak it in...it really helps. Check out David Deangelo's stuff...all his programs are great and really helped me out. Hope this helps bro.

I just wanted to add to accept yourself in every single way. You might not like a lot of things about yourself but accepting the situation your in and all of your insecurities really helps you to get over them instead of just pushing them away and not acknowledging them. When you accept them you have control over them. If you don't accept the things in your life they have control over you.

go and make some travell around the world.

6 months abroad will give you a wider perspective on life .

Thank you guys Gaius your journal has inspired me to start one of my own. Here it is:

I like to think of myself as a wonderful person, who was fucked over by people in my life. The people who fucked me up, gave me a false sense of being. I hardly can trust anyone and I am emotionally distant from people. I desperately want to shed the negative coditioning I have received and become the person I know I am capable of.

My family has been one of the biggest problems in my life. I am the oldest child. Both of my parents are still married. After pondering my life growing up, I have come to the conclusion that my father and mother have many lingering issues they never got resolved, which they projected on to me.

This is just a brief overview of my Father: He is a physically strong, large person. Emotionally he is very insecure, needy, frusturated, mean person. He only had one woman in his life (my mother) and put others down for having pre-marital sex. (He was just jealous that he could never get any other girl). I discovered about 12-13 years ago he is a major porn addict. Then he forced religion on me from an early age and has caused me many problems. (Don't get me wrong, I believe in God, but I was hurt by religion). For the first 10+ years of my life, we went to a cult like church that brainwashed people, including my father. Despite the emotional and pyhsical abuse I suffered, he never bothered to do what is best for me, but instead went along with it. He went right along with the bullshit being preached and hurt me. For example, he would spank the shit out of me for petty things, thinking he had to shape me up to not be disrespectful.

Brief overview of my mother: She is a very manipulative person, who also is very needy and insecure. She loves to stick her nose in others business. She does things wrong and than gets mad that you would even suggest she is doing something bad. When things were rough in my life, she was never there to help me emotionally. She always tried to pry into my personal life and makes me feel guilty about lots of things. It is like she suffocated me. She always sheltered and always made me afraid of people and trying new things.

Hmm this is a good start. Just unleash your frustration and write regardless to if people give feedback or not. You need someone to talk to, let this journal symbolize that. People will read a lot more than they will respond. I would also advocate you change the name of your journal or repost the entry into another journal. Insecurity is not a good start lol. Find a name that symbolizes you finding you’re self or trying to heal. Try not to hold on to the past too much. Remember to take things one step at a time. This part of your life is pure observation. You have not yet entered into the next phase. Once you observe for long enough and understand the situation then you can learn new ways to fix the situation. For the next few months just write in this journal. Once you write enough in this journal you’ll start to pick up on certain things and become more rational.

Remember:

1.) Documentation and Understanding

2.) Learning and Planning

3.) Executing and changing

This are roughly the three phases I’ve went through on my own personal journey and how I personally began down a long path of recovery. You may be much better off than I am and take way less than six months to have a bottomless pit of a life that forces you to change. Whatever the situation was it took me awhile. But once I started to regularly document things and allow them to become physical I started to understand what was happening.

The path to recovery is not a slow journey. It will take some time and every situation is unique. I will try to the best of my abilities to help in any reasonible capacity I can. Good luck.

Sincerely,

Gaius

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Thank you Gaius for your support! I will start a new thread for my journal.