Hey Guys

I have a bit of an issue lately that has been on my mind for a few weeks.

I entered a new job thanks to a good friend of mine. We've known each other for years and the position has opened up so much more for my life than ever before. He recommended for the job position and now we're working together everyday with him as my boss.

I know him well enough to say he has game. He know perfectly how to control social groups and neg without getting girls pissed off. He has his own girlfriend but the game is always on out of habit or instinct.

Now I'm observant when around the office and he always seems to have people follow his lead. People go to lunch when he goes, the gym when he goes, and even out to drinks when he goes. He's officially the AMOG of this office.

Now my issue is I can't follow him the way they do. I'm my own person trying to establish myself as an Alpha. This causes a problem in the circle of co-workers. He seems uncomfortable when I don't join the group all the time.

I have a feeling this will cause a conflict of interest. 2 AMOG's can't take the same space. He loves attention and will get it more than I will at this point since I'm new to the circle. The group has inside jokes they share making conversation a bit difficult at the present.

I need some advice on how to AMOG a good friend without pissing him off or effecting my office status.

Any ideas are welcomed.

the paradox ???

why in earth want you to learn all these new superpowers behind his back to fuck him up .... you can just tell him how you feel about things...

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yeah, they an take up the same space. As long as they respect each other's boundaries, and don't have such an ego problem (like yourself). Be your own man and you will stop worrying so much about this little shit.

Oh I know him too well. I can already see a problem if I AMOG the office friends. He'll try to be the man on top and I'll have the be the same way. The girls of the group have already established ties to him.

Being the new guy is a challenge here. If I come too strong he'll think I'm being an asshole and if I come too weak he'll get all the attention of the circle of friends.

Anything not his way brings up his insecurities and be-friends the person in some form. Now since he hooked up the job for me, I'm having a hard time making up my mind here.

there are other guys in this group of people and everyone has his own Alpha attitude. Pointing out their flaws will only make enemies in front of the ladies.

Why do you want to AMOG him exactly? First of all, this is your place of work, it's not a smart move to start dating girls there. So who are you trying to impress there? He's your good buddy, you can complement each other instead of you trying to AMOG him. If he's already established in this way, I don't see how you can do it anyways. If you're confident and alpha in your own way, there is no need to try and be the AMOG of the office in the same way he's doing it. It's better to have your own angle and earn some respect for who you really are. He hooked you up with a job, I'm not saying you have to suck-up to him because of that, but appreciate that fact, he was being a good friend and he'll probably watch your back everywhere you go, even if he is the one that "leads" and you follow. Besides, I read somewhere it's not just the AMOG who gets the attention from the ladies, but also his closest friends. So instead of trying to AMOG him, why don't you try to work together with him and actually put some quality input in whatever he's doing. That is a mature and confident thing to do and you'll be perceived that way. Plus, you'll get to bask in the attention he's getting because a part of it will be directed at you since you contributed.

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you win some you lose some. Theres no need to AMOG a friend. You can still game without being the alpha everytime and since he has a gf there shouldnt be that much compitition with him in that area. As for the social groups, be friendly and funny and ppl will like you.

The problem here seems obvious your insecure about your friend being center of attention. Like many guys in the community you seem to be trying to attain this status of alpha male and if anything it probaly making you come across as self-concious. Stop trying to control people and just enjoy everyones company if you can truly let go of your insecurity and have fun people will like you more and then you may become a true alpha male.

Seriously the more you try and control the situation and become top dog the less popular you will become.

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Well if this was me in this situation I'd be super up front with him. The guys not an idiot he knows how social circles work, I'd just pull him aside and say exactly what you are telling us. He'll get it. Assure him you're not trying to steal his thunder, but you want to have your own identity within the office as well. If he kicks up a stink then he's got some pretty big insecurity issues.

Moreriley has a good point, but I don't think blindly following the AMOG lead is the way to go either.

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IT SIMPLY WILL NOT WORK! PERIOD.

I was in a similar situation with a friend/roommate of mine and I was the one AMOGed by the other guy. It didn't matter how subtle or tactful he was, especially since I understood the concept of AMOGing and that just made it worse. You have to decide right now whether you want a friend or you want to be the AMOG of the office.

YOU CAN NOT HAVE BOTH, DON'T EVEN ATTEMPT TO TRY.

Be bros with him, be the two coolest guys in the office. Much, MUCH better idea.

Why worry about being the AMOG at work? Worry about enjoying your job when it's time to work, then when everyone is out at the bar, be the AMOG and let everyone see who you are and pick up, then that image will slowly translate to the workplace and you can use it how you see fit. To be the AMOG in a group of people you see every day that already has an AMOG, you simply need to time your DHVs to the most appropriate time windows. Be patient, it's going to take a while, don't worry about not coming in the office and not immediately seeing results. The real point is to out AMOG the AMOG without being a threat.