Hi. I've been trying to game a girl now for two weeks. She's been giving me mixed signals ever since we hooked up: inviting me out to hang with her and her friends, texting me alot, wanting to make out, but she doesn't seem to want to hang out one on one.
My thought was she was stringing me along, so i decided to ask her out one final time, and change my approach.

Me: hey, i wanna see you coming week. go out and have a beer with me on tuesday?
Her: Ill probably be too tired blablabla
Me: okay
Her: what a short reply..
Her: is everything ok?
Me: hahaha you're a dork
Her: mean! what are you up to?
Me: writing a list about your dorky traits to read to you on our wedding day
Her: Just make sure you save it until after the ceremony, i dont want my family to hear it
Me: Oh.. Im sorry, this is awkward. I was joking about the marriage, we hardly know eachother.
Her: What a shame.. i had already planned our wedding night..
Me: whoah, okay.. you know im more than a hot body? if you go on like this we'll need a set of rules to determine when you can use such allusions
Her: We needn't compromise, it's up to you!
Me: teehee, ya i know. Ill get back to you on your question about sex. goodnight
Her: haha, luckily there's several years left til our wedding night, since im not the kind of girl who has sex with just anyone. sweet dreams

(this is roughly translated, btw. in case the wording is awkward)

I feel the conversation got really sour and she got defensive at that last part. What happened? did I fuck up? what did that last part mean (about her not sleeping with just anyone)? maybe my last text was too short and abrupt? what should my next move be?

Thank you for any answers.

yes you messed up i wouldnt call it a fuck up tho cause thats too harsh

"Me: teehee, ya i know. Ill get back to you on your question about sex. goodnight"

this line was bad you tried to take things sexual but did not have enough attraction or comfort it seems like. after she said we shouldnt compromise you shouldve teased her on thinking about your hot body: "hey hey its okay if you think about my hot body i know its hard to resist but well have to take it real slow n easy we can do it i have faith in you" tease her, you cant talk about sex before you have at least mediocre attraction going on because thats what every afc does.

thanks for the reply!

in fact, i wasn't trying to make it sexual, she did with the wedding night part.. that was me trying to end the conversation.

afc move or not, i actually ended up apologizing to her, since she obviously thought i was implying she slept around and i could have her any way i wanted.

i probably should've waited to hear with you guys, but how could i have handled it differently? as in, instead of apologizing?

hey gentlemen,

first of all i would like to know wether u have been seeing each other some time before or not?
Because it seems u had known the hb for a time cuz when u shortly reply with ok she wonders if u are okay... a hb from who u got her nuber like last night wiouldnt have asked u that^^
why did u tell her ur sorry for that. The best game u could have for textgame is roleplay and if u have some roleplay going on like husband and wife thats legen.....wait for it.....dary!^^


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hi and thanks for the reply.

UPDATE: i apologized and she said it was fine and asked me some random question, i answered and five hours later she texted me again with a long text and ending it with asking me what i was up to.

we've known eachother for about 2-3 weeks, met probably 5-6 times, she has KC'd me twice, she's asked me out twice with her friends and i went both times, i've asked her out twice and she's had lame excuses both times.

what worries me is frame.. since she's been with her 2 friends both times she asked me out, and ive been without my friends, she's been at an advantage and i've more or less followed them around. I really want to establish a strong and positive frame, but im at a loss.

she wants to meet up when she's going out to pubs and she's with her friends, but seems hesitant about meeting me one on one. if i could just get some alone time im sure i could establish a strong frame.

worth mentioning is that she's only 18, and im 23, and she's admitted to being nervous around me when sober, due to my age. she's really confusing me since everything is going pretty well, apart from seemingly not wanting to meet me one on one.

you're absolutely right, that would've been good, roleplaying about the marriage.

what i attempted to do was to do a c&f push&pull. I pulled with the marriage comment and pushed by sarcastically apologizing for leading her on.

also, right now im thinking i should freeze her out, that's what im currently doing since i haven't replied to her text. thoughts?

18 year old chicks are like that, i used to always be attracted to them cause of their immaturities (i'm 25) because im kinda immature too. What she's doing is seeing if her friends like you and (if she cares) vice versa. I dont ever fuck around with marriage jokes in a text because some broads take that shit seriously but in contrast, texting is likely one of the most powerful coochie tools. They're a lot more likely to get freaky in a text than in person, especially at a bar with her stupid friends. I would suggest finding out about a movie she loves or really wants to see and see if she wants to go back to your place and watch it AFTER the bar. but make sure its premeditated for both of you. Dont bring it up at the end of the night when her and her friends already have plans to go home and compare breasts. But usually i wont try with them because they have little experience and get all emo with casual sex. Dont push the one on one too much she might think youre a serial killer or a stage 5 clinger. And if the group shit continues you might as well bring some homeboys cause it probably aint gonna go farther unless youre trying to date this girl.

really appreciate the reply. thank you, was some good advice.