When you've been shy your WHOLE LIFE how do you change that?



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 9:58 am 
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I don't know if whipping your dick out will help, but it would be funny.

I tried planking (stupid Australian thing) in busy train stations. I'm confident doing that. But approaching strangers is hard. How dumb is that?


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 19, 2011 9:59 am 
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I have a friend who wips out his dick at will infront of everyone, i suggest you try that.
i do that shit buddy!! well only joking around with close friends lol if u have enough confidence to do that ur the man!!! but actuely no dont do it cuz ur in the wrong frame if ur shy and all of sudden start doin that people would see u like a creep

but honestly what u gota do is start trying to look good. do your eyebrows, find a hairstyle that suits u, u gota look in the mirror and say id bang that. if u can do that i promise ur confidence will start rising. it will help a lil with the girls just cuz it helps ur confidence but picking up girls is all inner game

Also what i noticed is that people are gona criticize u for everything its in our nature as humans. we see someone stick out a little more then we do were only gona hamer them back in. what u gota do is ignore that trust me people will notice they cant hammer u in if u dont let what they say get to u then people begin to see u doing certain things as acceptable.
I use to be shy i decided i was gona change i did my brows i found a really cool hairstyle people were giving me soo much shit for it. Eventually they just shut up. and every time i change my hairstyle they dont have anything bad to say because its acceptable socially that im that guy who cares how he looks.

until u start doing shit and get past the criticism people will see things that they wouldn't normally expect from u normal. thats when u will notice what confidence is.

this is gona sound really stupid but go out and try to get into trouble! ok maybe not arrested but preety damn close to it. if ur still in school try speaking out make jokes out loud in class that helps just do anything that feels uncomfortable cuz its too out going for u till it feels normal.


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PostPosted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 12:50 pm 
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Hey man, dont worry I was in exact same position as you bro

I used to be painfully shy, to the point where id barely talk to anyone and get really uncomfortable talking to anyone but a close friend. Ive been like this for the majority of my life, upto about 2 years ago.

Where I am now is so far from then its amazing, you just gotta have an aim, define what exactly or who exactly you want to become, and push yourself to get out there. If its that bad dont worry about approaching girls at first, just try and have as many interactions as possible with as many different people as possible.

Join some clubs which force you to be more social, hell when I was first breaking out of my shell, it was due to going to church and different church clubs! I recommend getting involved in clubs/activities with young people, but also much older people, like helping give out tea to the elderly, that way you will learn to be joky and have a laugh, aswell as engage in much deeper and interesting stories.

Aha wow, a trip down memory lane. Ive never really thought about the journey ive taken, cheers I hope ive helped a little

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Hey man, dont worry I was in exact same position as you bro

I used to be painfully shy, to the point where id barely talk to anyone and get really uncomfortable talking to anyone but a close friend. Ive been like this for the majority of my life, upto about 2 years ago.

Where I am now is so far from then its amazing, you just gotta have an aim, define what exactly or who exactly you want to become, and push yourself to get out there. If its that bad dont worry about approaching girls at first, just try and have as many interactions as possible with as many different people as possible.

Join some clubs which force you to be more social, hell when I was first breaking out of my shell, it was due to going to church and different church clubs! I recommend getting involved in clubs/activities with young people, but also much older people, like helping give out tea to the elderly, that way you will learn to be joky and have a laugh, aswell as engage in much deeper and interesting stories.

Aha wow, a trip down memory lane. Ive never really thought about the journey ive taken, cheers I hope ive helped a little

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Looks count... a lot. But... it still doesn't matter how you look because there always will be chicks that will be attracted to your looks. You know guys who are into fat chicks right? Do you really think all women have the same taste? Don't be ridicolous. I don't care about your 'experiences' that if a guy is ugly people will just ignore him because I could give you examples of the opposite. Why is it then? Which experience is the true one? Maybe, just maybe... some ugly people are ignored because they think they would be because of their looks. Maybe it's not about the looks but how you think about yourself.

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