Yes, I'm a FPUA that has ZERO game when it comes to more than a pick up. Getting a guy is one thing, keeping him interested is another. HELP THIS F-PUA please? Seeing one guy i like now, but how to keep him hooked especially after already having sex?

An interesting twist asking PUAs on advice for keeping a guy. The thing that pops to mind straight away is why do you want to keep one? why don’t you play?

The only way you can keep a guy is if he is a nice guy and needy but then you would get bored, so you choose a guy who’s interesting and untamed but the only way to keep him is by taming him. Once he is tamed though you will become bored yet again.

I think getting a guy interested has very similar principles to keeping a girl interested. By that I mean sometimes you take charge and sometimes you let him take charge. It has to be a shared thing for a real relationship.

But then again in this day and age most real relationships end as soon as the buzz is gone hence why I don’t bother with them. I mean what do you do after 7 yrs or so when that attraction fades? The only thing that keeps old school couples together in my eyes is mutual respect and truthfulness.
It also depends on age, most guys arent ready to think about settling down till atleast 30.

I'm not sure if any of this is helpful to you my dear, it is just my point of view.

Hi. As the resident expert on FPUAs (Mocha notwithstanding, as she seldom, if ever, posts), I think I can help a bit with the maintenance of MLTRs in regards to men.

The problem with a long-term relationship, particularly in regards to pick-up, is that most pick-up artists are using canned material, and once it runs out, we become very boring people indeed. If you can work past that point, and stay as interesting a person as you can, you'll have a better chance of keeping his attention than you would otherwise. For this, I suggest Juggler's material, particularly in relate-reward cycles. If you can keep a conversation going on emotional context, rather than the THINGS on which that context is built, you can have conversations in which both parties come out feeling fulfilled and yet intrigued. Open-ended statements and questions become very important, as you can never really finish responding to either, and a relation on emotional content means conversations can move in strange new directions as they go on.

Also, though it seems a bit shallow, be terrific in bed. Learn as much as you can about the wondrous arts of intercourse, felatio and manual stimulation, and you will find that men will be banging down your door for second-and-third dates. My skilled tongue (in both conversation and cunnilingus) is what keeps girls coming back, and I expect that to be doubly so for men.

I am really stumped on this one (not saying I'm an expert) but I should be. I'm a man, I should know what I want out of a LTR. I guess that the point that I'm trying to make is that most of the peple on this board won't be interested in LTR's because that is our nature. Most women would read cosmo or talk to her friend but that doesn't seem to be working for most women. I do admire you moxy for asking us though.

In the end I have to be really shallow and agree with Monkey... again.
Get really good in bed.
Sorry