Her profile stated: "Recently single, and loving it! It's time I take a step back and figure out what I truly want in a relationship. I am driven and ambitious...would be ideal to find someone with similar qualities. Someone who is established and somewhat successful..." etc etc

One of the dis-qualifiers in my profile is this: I'm simply looking for a confident woman who knows what she's looking for, and isn't just on here because she likes having her ego padded by guys writing her complimentary (or raunchy) messages about her looks.

Here's my initial message:



I'm not recently single, but I'm not looking to jump into anything either...so maybe there's some similar ground to tread on. I definitely don't need to be rebounded on either so I suppose I just decided to write you to find out if you really know what you're looking for in a relationship yet. People who know what they're looking for are better equipped to appreciate and respect a good situation when it's there right in front of them. I'm definitely looking for someone with confidence, not just in their ability to gain an education and maintain a good job, but also about themselves as a person. I have two university degrees and an journeyman electrical ticket and I've been extremely successful in both careers...but there have been times in my life where personal confidence wasn't as easy to come by because I had some self growth to do. I'm far better off now, having spent that time figuring things out, and I'm definitely looking for someone in a similar place in their own personal life. Best to start things off with a smile like you say.

...and her reply:

Hello...and thanks for writing me. I am not the type of girl who requires any ego boost from lonely men looking to find true love. Coming out of a 3yr relationship, I think it's important to appreciate being single while looking for that certain feeling. If the feeling isn't there then it really doesn't matter what I am looking for in a relationship. A man could have all the qualities one would look for but if it lacks that chemistry then it clearly wouldn't work. Like paddling a boat upstream...always having to put in that extra energy for something so far from arms reach. Passion is very important to me...
Anyways...I feel as though your email was a little judgmental. There is a reason why I feel that exposing yourself online can be detrimental in seeking out genuine people. People say the darndest things to try and impress someone. I'm in sales...selling yourself is very key to impressing someone.

Good luck on your search!

I'm not sure how to respond...or if I should just walk from chicks like this. She pretty much said move on bud...so do I or do I stay persistent?

Never give up- shoot her a reply. be in the mindset that she wants you, but she doesnt know it yet cuz she hasnt gotten to know you.
think of something witty to say back- you have nothing to lose. if you feel like its going to take too much effort and you dont really like playing the game as much as possible than move on who cares

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Just tell her that, '' I meant no disrespect. I was just making conversation. You can change it if you want to. As for the whole idea of selling the dream, I think most people induldge in selling themselves too hard. Won't you agree?''

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Ah I fucked up. Wrote a message I thought was good and she said again she wasn't interested again.

Rejected.