her logic is, "well you were supposed to live on your own anyways. why r you upset and not happy that i'm able to move out of your apartment?"

i don't have a good answer to that! she is right but it all just feels so wrong to me. i stick my neck out for her. i originally had arrangements to move to an apartment about 30 mins away from her work, but she told me not to cause she was mad and pissed off at something stupid i did at that time. she told me to move to where we are now (1 hr away) cause she's getting her own place anyways.

so now that i'm settled into this place and we are just past the 30 day grace period of moving and not losing our deposit, she told me her coworkers wants her to move in with them in that area that i originally had planned on moving to. we had this disagreement a couple weeks ago and she said she's sorry and will live with me. now the story changes.

i was planning on paying off my student loans in the next 2 years instead of 4 so that i don't lose a ton of money on interest. then, i was planning on saving up for a ring and proposing.

Thats bullshit, that shows how much she cares and considers you as her other half in your relationship. Yeah she's screwing you over, have you called her out on it directly, and told her your feelings on the matter, idk from what I'm reading I'd dump her, but I have a low tolerance for bullshit, and I don't know the full story

Edit: didnt see that post ^
Anyways it sounds like you two are in the process of breaking up, why does she expect you to be happy that she's moving out, she's your girlfriend..?
I think she wants to break up with you, but doesn't have the balls to do so, anyways
Why the fuck, would she move in with her co-worker(s), that she hasn't knew for more than a couple months, when she has a loving boyfriend to live with that she has known for wayyy longer

Exactly!! The whole issue is your insecurity bro. It is not abnormal for a girl to go out for drinks with her coworkers. It shouldn't be abnormal for you to grab a drink with any of your female friends/coworkers either. Also, there is a good possibility your gf will get hit on. Its not a big deal. Girls get hit on all the time, they are well equipped to turn down guys. Next, her getting hit on means nothing if your relationship is strong. Enjoy what you have, don't try to control her. If you put barriers around each others behaviors, eventually you will be living in a prison waiting to escape. Instead live both of your lives, separately and together. Enrich each other's lives, don't burden them.

the drive is 1 hr long. i did it the other day late at night coming home from the airport without traffic and it sucked. i can't imagine doing it in the blazing heat and rush hour traffic. this is her primary reason.

but, i still agree. it's bs. i wouldn't move out on her like that even if its a 2 hr drive. also, when she got that job, she didn't really have a place to stay and i told her its okay for her to stay with me. so ORIGINALLY, she wasn't supposed to count on me to have a place for her to stay but things changed. if things goes as planned, she wouldn't have lived with me from the start. my point is, i had her back and now she's leaving me hanging.