Like most new PUA's and many guys in general I'm having a bit of trouble with AA (approach anxiety).

Thought it would be an idea to get us all sharing tip, tricks and ideas on how to overcome or combat it.

Usually what I do is get drunk, but I want to find more ways without alcohol, so I think this thread is a great idea

get my friends to dare me into doing it. that way i feel like a pussy if i dont

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Seize the day

3 second rule ftw.

Personally i don't believe in gaming drunk, im not as sharp and such.....If your gaming with a friend make it into a competition 'i bet i can open more girls before we leave this bar'

Yes, it's pratically impossible to say routines while drunk, but it helps me a lot to overcome my AA, so when I'm drunk I just say whats on my head, so I can't get any girl either. But at least I can talk to them.
Any better ways to overcome AA?

try not hitting on the girl
i mean just talk to her but dont do it with the intention of hitting on her/pick her up
cuz thats the origin of the anxiety

think this: do u think u would feel anxiety if u knew that nothing is gonna happen anyway

dont get me wrong u should obiously game her once in the conversation

but for the sake of the approach, just approach her with the mentality of just being social, instead of thinking what to say just think i say whatever and if she doesnt respond well, fuck it, anyway i wasnt trying to hit on her

u can trick ur mind like this and once ur in the conversation then game her

other things that work as well
noobie mission
3 minute rule - (i think is 3 second thou)
and the most important one
man the fuck up

good luck

easier said than done, but basically that's what we need to do

Warm up sets.

Say hi to anyone. Talk to anyone about whatever.

Low risk questions. Hey do you know the time. Hey do you know where the bathroom is. When ur ready and warmed up youll feel it.

Naturally social people dont need warm up sets. But being me, i am originally an introvert, but get reprogrammed the skills and mindset of an extrovert when i get warmed up. Otherwise im a snubby muhfuker.

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Bow chika wow wow

Good post, it is 3 second as you thought.
I dont want to use alcohol as it ONLY helps with AA the rest of your game suffers.

Being introvert or extravert shouldn't be an issue as pretty much everyone will have AA, example: I actually work as a nurse meeting and talking to new people everyday, sometimes about pretty nasty or socially avoided subjects (bodily fucntions and such) BUT so far when I'm out with the idea of sarging I hit a wall.
This is where I think the idea of just chatting to someone random to start my night out without the intention of gaming them would work.
I am totally green to game so practice will also be like gold to me SPAM.

Naturals dont need warm up set because they dont even know what a warm up set is. They find the very act of diving into a challenging set thrilling. Thats how they became naturals in the first place they take the risk without precautionary measures such as warm up sets.

An extrovert is a naturally outgoing person who naturally enjoys meeting new poeple in a social setting. Talking to poeple at work in a low risk professional setting does not account for extroversion. I work at a retail store, i approach poeple ask if they need anything chat up a few lines, that still wont count.

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whats your pre-game routine for AA? like the things you do before you open a warm up set?

How do you get into the extrovert mind set?

I ask anything to anyone just because i feel like it. My natural mindset is a talk to get something. An extrovert talk just to talk.

I talk without expecting a reply. My natural mindset would overly be upset if someone says something offensive. Then dwell over it. An extrovert doenst overly analyze social interactions, they just interact.

AND the warm up sets IS your pregame routine. You just ask random shit with no expectation and stop analyzing.

If you analyze the cognitive breakdown that is occuring in an individuals mind during a warm up set, it is basically switchig gears from an introvert to an extrovert simply by performing taks of an extrovert and thinking like an extrovert. This is when the phrase "fake it tlll you make it" comes into play.

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i agree with Fvckitimout..... if i ever get AA ill go up to a girl, doesnt matter what the hell she looks like, if im attracted to her or whatever, ask her the time, this sort of reminds me that i can talk to the opposite sex, and that they will give you a reply..... if i still have a bit of AA ill go ask someone different how much their drink cost, or where toilets are.

This could help SOME people, but a job that requires social skills, especially if you are studying, it can help. So a spot where you are almost forced to give quality customer service.... here you can practice humour, making a person smile, making a person respond.... works well in retail or anything like that

I used to be very shy, now im far from it....

You could also practice simply asking for directions in a super market or a street, and do it continously until you build that courage to simply go upto a girl.