.i dont know where to start cos i could take all night. okay, i just got out of a 6 year relationship with this girl from highschool. we didnt take it too well.

new trainee came aboard last friday and i couldnt belive my eyes. the CUTEST girl ever.
and i was told by my boss to show her around the workplace and go thru our corporate guidelines with the trainee. i gladly accepted of course. turns out she has got alot in common with me. and i guess its safe to say that i am totally hitting on her. im only human afterall. breakup been buffered now i guess. i asked her is she would like to get some drinks after work and she obliged. i mean...one could easily say no,right guys ?
im not jumping to any conclusions..not saying she likes me already but i just wanted to ask your opinions. anyways back to the pub, had drinks, talked and she started talking about how her bfs take her for granted and only use her for sex. i told my friends this and they all say that she likes me. but i dont know..maybe she is open ? anyways sent her home. and didnt see her over the weekend until monday. her desk is a whole diff room and she comes complaning that there is nothing to do and she is bored and she comes in to talk to me and we shared many laughs. i.altho i feel that i still can learn alot about her...only 2 day knowing her...i have been sending her back until today. bought her lunch yesterday and bought her dinner today. she seems to be always up for it when i ask her out. she likes hitting me playfully everytime i neg her. she smirks too(cutest smirk) and she blushes too. i dunno whats going on.i dont know if she likes me or if she just needs a friend because she says that the rest of the ppl in the workplace is not friendly.or maybe she is flirty by nature. gave her a ride home yeterday and she sent me a text saying "you are a really a nice guy u know that?" i dont know wht she means by that. it could mean that she is indirectly saying thanks again for the dinners and the ride home. it could also mean she doesnt like me ? im confused guys. need help.oh yah i also forgot to mention that i write her little notes negging her about how her nose wiggle when she laughs. compliment her about her cute smile.things like that.might sound abit gay but im guessing girls like these kinda stuff ?

went for dinner again after work today and she blushed because i paid for her. could this mean that she had shit bfs before ? do u guys think she like me ? i am looking to seal the deal as quick as possible. alot of douchebags msging her. she is constantly ooking at her phone repling smses makes me feel insucure that so many guys are going after her.i guess its human nature and every guy out there would want a piece of that. i am kind of a loser and dunno how to play the game like u guys. just need help. what do i no next ? its going to be routine stuff at work and i can only play my 'game' if i really have one after working hours. dont feel confortable at work because ppl like to talk and gossip..hate that shit. so the only alone time with her is after working hours and lunch breaks. what do i do next, guys ?

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One...why r u paying for everything??? You don't have to impress her by buying her shit. Two, she could be into you, but you need to make it clear that u want her, don't pussyfoot around. Go for it. Three, stop trying to figure it all out. Its not about does she doesn't she, itsabout creating an experience n going with it. Invite her for drinks, keep the convo sexual, build the tension n go. Finally, don't get weird about her getting tested n shit...girls get alot of texts. Its probably from guys too *gasp*. It doesn't matter. Get the girl, n who cares if she has a bunxha guys chasing her?

i did tell her that i like her. on the first day. kinda asked her if she would go out with me. told her that i know i just met her but i really really like her and kinda asked if she would go out with me. she said that its abit too soon since its our first 'date' and i guess i kinda freaked her out there a little. but it feels like i never asked that question because she sure is acting as though i didnt ask it. thats good i guess. meaning she is giving me a chance ?

If she is chillin with u, just u two, you have a chance. Ill elaborate...girls are not retarded and not new to going out with guys. If you two go out n end up at ur place or hers, or if u just go to ur place or hers, she knows the deal. Its not like "oo shucks im alone at some guys house, now what??" If she didn't wanna be there she wouldn't, if she is there, she wants you to make a move and do SOMETHING. So how far have u gotten with this girl? You REALLY don't wanna be her friend. I was just rereading ur post, n when she said "u r so nice" u should've said something like "but I will make u so bad " or something alone those lines. Make sure u aren't scared to be a sexual being. That really is critical. Alot of guys feel like if they are nice to a girl n keep the fact they want to fuck them from comin up, somehow it will magically happen. The fact of the matter is it doesn't. Keep a sexual frame, n just be that way. I am super flirtatious with girls I would never touch simply because I prefer the vibe n it makes things easier for me. If you go to a store n flirt with a fat girl working...guess who's gonna give u some freeshit?? If you just start becoming more flirtatious, you will notice the benefits. The thing is u need to become secure in ur sexuality too. She's gonna talk to other guys, talk to other girls. At work you can be flirty too. When u r together tho, keep the flirting up, but use alot more body language n looks. Like if u r at a bar, u can say playful sexy things, but its much more about you bl n the WAY you say/do everything. Do/say shit as if u already know u r going to fuck her. If she gives resistance to what u say ask her where her mind was at....I like to turn things girls say into something sexual. Her:wow those glasses are big Me:well if u think the glasses r big *wink/smile* her (normally): giggle her (uncomfortable/taken aback): wool calm down? Me (response to uncomfortable): I was gonna say, you should see the case *wink/smile.

I think alot of what's going on too is poor inner game. I mean you called urself a loser in ur post. Develop a winner mentality. You can do it. Go fuck this girl lol

Lol, first off you obviously already have oneitis. Asking a girl out on the first date, were you hinting to her you wanted an exclusive LTR? Bro you sound like a stage 5 clinger, and this girl is most likely putting you in the LJBF category, you are all beta. Buying everything and giving her rides home? Of course she hangs out with you if she gets a free dinner and drinks, plus you don't have the balls to escalate kino with her. Ohhh, and btw if this chick is texting at a dinner with other guys and you're paying for her shit, she definitely sees you as an AFC. If you want to fuck this girl, you need to make your intentions clear, stop initiating texts and see of she hits you up first. Stop paying for her, and see if she still wants to hang out again, escalate kino, and try to at least act alpha

Dude, chicks like cash, but don't stay with a guy for it, your pullin' all afc shit now. Stop buying her shit NOW. Do NOT give her rides. And man up now not LATER. Also, look at all the words in caps to see when you should be fucking her.

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I understand the situation you've worked yourself into, because I used to be a "nice guy" too. And everyone's right, you shouldn't be paying for anything. But now you're in a predicament. To stop now, she might take it that you don't actually like her and were being nice. Bad gig all around. But to keep doing what you're doing... That's pure-blooded AFC. She seems to genuinely like you, so I would consider going straight into either some form of f-close or else some serious k-closing. Now. One of two things will happen:

1. She'll go for it, in which case, you're in. No problem. I don't have any beef with acting... more or less like you have, when she's putting out like this.

2. She won't bite, in which case, remind her you're not like her previous boyfriends but that you understand. Then just leave. Walk somewhere else, stop paying for her stuff! Leave her to her thoughts that day. She may come back. Otherwise, the next day start gaming her again. But please, no paying for her like an AFC.

I lol'd at that. Makes me think of this time when I was in high school and didn't have a girlfriend at that moment. My buddy said "what about Brandi, she's single." she had a great body and cute face despite the gap in her front teeth. I said "dude, she has a gap in her teeth big enough to drive a truck thru." i was being sarcastic. and his reply was perfect. "yeah, and she has a gap between her legs big enough to drive your dick thru." hahaha that still makes me laugh.

There is plenty of great advice in this thread. You guys are great!

i totally appreciate all the advice. but i be asian. and she be asian as well. and i dont know if this game can be played with asian girrls. they like being pampered and they ate pretty much used to it. its more like tradition. u guys know where im coming from ?

but a K-CLOSE would def do the trick. thanks champs