Ok so this is my story (sorry if my english isnt great) :

My best friends girlfriend (which is also a really good friend) has a best friend who is one of the most beautiful girls i've seen in my life. I told my friends girlfriend this and so she arranged a dinner date for the three of us (me, my friends girl and her gorgeous friend). The date went perfect, I got them to laugh there asses of the whole evening and we left at midnight.

About a week later we met again, this time with a bunch of friends drinking beer in the sun. My game went perfect, I got her to laugh all the time and she said loads of times " XX you are so booring" while laughing meaning my jokes were lame but I got her to laugh all the time so i replied "your must have a really bad humour since you are laughning then".
We went to i club my friends own so we got in for free, no cue and free drinks. I didnt even have to count any tells or anything it was obvious that she was interested and so we kissed but nothing more.

Two days later we met again for a friend-in-common's birthday. We had a few drinks and when everyone else went dancing we sat down and just kissed the whole evening. A few hours earlier my friend tells me that she dumped her boyfriend just a couple of days ago...
After kissing for hours I said: Lets go to my place. She didnt hesitate.
We had an amazing night and i couldnt belive the body she had. In the morning she wanted to cuddle and kiss and we had sex again.
She left quite early and borrowed a pair of shorts since she didnt want anyone to notice her "walk of shame".

Two days later I texted her saying something funny and "movie night or something else fun this week?"
She replied one day later with a long text saying something like "I want to but my life is a mess at the moment and maybe i shouldn't have sleept with you but someone got me drunk The thing is I want to but maybe I shouldnt see you"

I thought it was i nice way of saying "thanks but no thanks". So i thought "shit" and just wrote "thats ashame I liked haning out with you and i didnt mean a date or anything but yeah I understand, you've been single for just a couple of days. Take care. X"

Then she writes back: "You are a cozy guy" (sounds better in my language)
I text back: "And you are a cozy girl"
She texts: "Sooo..."
Me: "Sooo... what do you mean?"
She: "If you are cozy and i am cozy, maybe we should have a cozy time"
Me: Yeah I think we should. It sounds cozy.
No reply.

Later we start chatting on facebook. She says she wants to se me but her life is a mess. I say it doesnt matter. I understand that she doesnt want to date someone since she's been single for a week, I wouldnt either. I ask her if she wants to go se my friend perform (musician) in two days time (this is now today). She says "yes maybe" Suddenly she logs off. I haven't spoken to her since so will be texting her soon asking if she wants to go (tonight). Get the feeling she wont .
evertime I've written a text it has taken hours or even a day for her to reply.

So what do I do? How do I continue? How do I keep her interested or is it to late? Would be really happy if someone takes the time to answer...


Sorry about the long text guys. Thanx!

Sincerely
Drkelso

I had the same issue with a girl 2 weeks ago. Your story and mine are almost exactly the same.

End of the day she has buyers remorse. She slept with you to quickly and she probably thinks that you think she is a slut. I have not 100% figured out how to move from this point.

I would say try get that other girl to help out a bit. Get her to chat to the chick and make some plans where you two endup being there together. Then play a slightly slower game. Show her that you like her and not just the sex.

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Yes thats what my plan was. I've spoken to her friend a lot since we're really close and she is helping me and giving me good tips. She also says that this girls life is a bit messy but that she is very honest, meaning that if she says she wants to see, then thats the truth...

We (me, this girl, my friend and his girlfriend) also planned a weekend trip to my familys "beach house" (me and my friends birthdays) a couple of weeks ago, with a bunch of people.
This, if it goes as planned, is about a month from now...

I texted her about an hour ago "Are you coming tonight? XX and XX are coming..."
(XX and XX being our friends in common, a couple). But of course, no reply...

Should I leave it til the day we "accidently" meet or should I be more forward?
What should I talk about when we meet? Should I mention/ask about her "messy life", old relationship and so on or should I pretend I dont care about it?

Ps. I would probably have given up if it wasnt for the feeling that this is a "girlfriend-girl". Maybe its just her looks fooling me to think so...

Also I think that after being single for just a couple days she might have the feeling that she cant meet anyone and start to date efter such a short time. I wouldnt want that myself...

I should give her the feeling that we are not dating, just "seeing" each other, correct??

Yes and no. It could backfire badly and you endup in the friend zone.

The other thing you might need to consider is that she was using you to rebound off of. Its not just guys that need a good rebound after a relationship.

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True, I've actually considered that. Me being a rebound...

She just texted back "my name I don't think so. I don't know when i finish work. Was it at name of the place? kisses

Think I might just leave it and hope that the next time we see each oteher, she'll realise she's missed me...

Ok so now she texted again saying she wants to come by.

If she does, should I try to get her to come over to my place after or should I not even mention it, giving her the impression thats its not even om my mind?

Help please, will see her in an hour