When it comes to women, you must understand that not all women are the same, nor are they coin operated sex machines (wouldn't that be nice!)

Just today, I learned a woman that I have been working on for a year has committed suicide. I'm using this forum to keep my sanity in check. I have a feeling that it was because of the games that I played with her. I thought I had her figured out just based on her appearance but I was wrong. She was more sensitive than she led on and also had alot of problems with being abused that I didn't even know about until her friend told me after she took her life.

If I would have known that, I wouldn't have kept it going.

Learn from my mistakes.

1. Looks can deceive. For the most part you can peg alot of people from the start. Body language, mannerisms, looks but if you start to think you are an expert then you judge people incorrectly by forgetting that not all women are the same.

2. Communication. I did not really probe into her life as I should have. Instead, I thought that I could just figure her out on my own. Tried becoming friends with her friends to get the inside scoop but I did that way too early before they were actually best friends. Her soon to be friends turned on her to fight over me instead.

3. Played the hot and cold routine. It usually worked in the past on most of the women but on this one it did not. She withdrew instead.

4. Set out objectives for her to reach. She seemed to be interested in me but then once I thought everything was going well, someone else who liked me came in and disrupted those plans.

5. Don't become overly friendly with her friends or even compliment them. Make SURE they are close friends and not just establishing a friendship or these women will mess up your routine and cause conflict. The only time you want to do this is if you want multiple women all at once to give you attention. That was not apart of my objective even though the attention was flattering!

Alright so to break it down. Observe the woman you want. Write down her quirks, personality traits, dislikes and likes. If you notice she withdraws from the hot/cold routine, she has had a tough time in life and would prefer honesty. If she is turned on by the hot/cold routine, that one is easy.
Don't wait too long, invite her to go hang out coming up with an excuse that seems platonic. Play footsy with her under the table. Open up your wallet, pull out some cash and oops accidentally a condom falls out on the table. Watch her reaction. Look embarrassed. If it works, she will give you a sign that she wants you. Then you make your move.

If you are dealing with a withdrawn intelligent woman, you will have to figure out if you share things in common and have discussions about those things in common. You can tell if this type likes you when she avoids eye contact with you and gets nervous during conversation. After you've figured out what you share in common, invite her to a place with alcohol. Alcohol will get her to relax more. From there be your charming self. Do the same condom routine. Watch her reaction, act embarrassed. This girl will blush and if she's relaxed because of alcohol will give you a sign other than blushing. You can invite her to your place but state it's because you want to show her (mention something you both have in common) it could be movies, collections, music etc..

If you want this girl to be with you for a LTR then don't invite her to your place right away, suddenly, get more busy than usual for at least a week. Get her to think about you but make sure to call or text otherwise she will withdraw again.

After that week you can invite her to your place.