| My Journey pt 1 - The first 2 years
To start things off, I’m not the greatest with literacy skills. Some people on here must’ve been equipped with their great vocabulary from their AFC days.
I never considered myself a total AFC but I certainly wasn’t a natural - I did too many of the basics wrong. I was kind of the stereotypical sporty laid back dude, and got enough girls to make myself believe I was satisfied because I got more than other people, when I really wasn’t happy with life overall and just didn’t know why.
If you've ever wondered about me or just who the fuck I am on the forums, how I used to be take this all as a joke and made pretty much all the gurus on here hate me. Or you want to see a story of how the MM alone can fuck someone around and the purpose of inner game. Then this might be interesting for you to read. Apart from that I thought it would be beneficial for me to keep journals on my progress to keep me grounded and reflect upon.
This is just me and my journey exposed. I’ll get into it. I’m going to reveal everything and be honest.
I was 18 and started dating a girl I REALLY liked. Wow she is still one of the hottest girls ive ever had. I met her at a party we threw to celebrate moving into our new house and back in those days I used to take ecstasy in conjunction with my party life (I’m well clean now). It made me feel great and it made me become a god with women. However women weren’t really a big area of my life, mainly I just took it because it made me feel good.
I used to get a few lays every now and then but it was only when I was 'lucky.' To me, the girl would have to decide if it was going to happen between us, I had no role in it.
My drug reliance was the only way I got this girl. I had the confidence to do anything. I made all the moves on her, going caveman on her. We hooked up, and she slept over, but we didn’t have sex – I was still an inner pussy when it came to the crunch.
I made a great first impression, and I really liked her. I even waited 3 days before contacting her again. Looking back I can see I did everything to textbook, I just had no idea there was a textbook. Threw the cool house party, I was the happy, confident host. I used to think I could only unlock this skill set from the drugs.
My problem was congruency. Did she really like me, or the impression I made and the drugs I was on from that first meet.
We dated for 2 months. I was the needy guy; she was the poor girl who had found yet another guy who is just the same as the other losers that don’t man up.
Of course I asked her to be my girlfriend yet she wouldn’t commit to an exclusive relationship, because she ‘just wasn’t ready to be in one.’ I don’t blame that poor girl.
This made me angry and I said I didn’t want to see her anymore, SO guess what, I blamed her.
This was probably the most pathetic point in my love life. Looking back now this girl was nothing special, the neediness and emotional pain just reflected how lame I was.
It’s embarrassing looking back, thankfuck I saved myself from that - or so I thought.
She was my oneitis for a long time despite not even seeing her. I’d still text her but she wouldn’t text back.
Moving on, that year I lived with 4 girls, had a pretty solid social life from being at university and going to college parties that were great fun. A few months down the track my housemate mentioned how a friend of hers, who read a book about how to pickup girls, and how he got the girl who worked at Mcdonalds # number in front of her.
I had never heard of anything like this before. I thought pickup was something you either had or didnt have. It was the most intriguing thing to me.
I read the book within 4 nights, where on the last 2 nights I was awake all night completely possessed by that damn thing til sunrise.
This was the pivotal point in my lifestyle to date.
Like many before me, I became obsessed with reading and learning everything. Because the stuff I was learning was actually to improve ME – although maybe not. I read all the books that equip you with outer game – tactics, skill sets, routines, magic, dress sense etc.
Lol I was a total mystery method kid, I dressed up unique, printed off a piece of paper with my openers, negs and routines for the night, had a few drinks and then hit the town with a camera and my mates.
It was all about the number of girls I got. I told all my friends’ I’m a PUA, and I would relentlessly bet them I could get any girl there. I challenged all my friends to who could make out with the most girls.
Without fail, I always came out best. I would go out in a night and get 7 kisses. Making sure I got photos kissing them just bragging rights. And repeat.
My goal was to just get as MANY girls as I could, and then get LAID as much as I could.
I did this for about a month and the numbers for me were pretty staggering. I think I had 30 + kiss closes in a month after reading the game, and had taken a few girls home with me and was getting a slight income of sex in my life finally. I was a real one hit wonder though, these girls would all flake but I wouldn’t care one bit because I had a great abundance mindset.
I had been reading this forum site for a while to solely pinch other people’s routines and lines, but after a while decided to join just for shits and giggles. My whole take on it was that I was already an MPUA. I had achieved Mystery’s definition of mastery which is: 5 from 5. I thought that this was all there was to it. So when I joined this forum my whole perspective was like ‘wtf am I doing on here with these nerds.’ I sort of envisioned everyone else who was on here as losers looking like neil strauss, and needed these skills just to even be able to talk to girls. The kinda people that I started to AMOG all the time. So I had a real dickhead approach and wasn’t in this community for advice or to improve. Just to be a dick.
In the meantime all I ever spoke about to my friends was pick up. They had gotten into it to, but didn’t have nearly the same results or lifestyle change. Ive had two personal mentors and they have been the greatest help. My first mate Michael, committed suicide. He was someone who I had some of the most soul searching discussions with on life when we were trying to understand pickup. Michael loved the whole thrill of meeting knew people, dating, self improvement to becoming your best self and the life experiences it gave you.
"Ill go talk to them first, you come in after"
This is what we did all night. It worked, we had so much fun we would come out of the clubs all liquored up and laughing. How many girls did we get tonight!?
However we got into an ego battle afterwards.
"youve got the wrong approach to whole thing"
"Man, my approach was flawless, I made out with that girl within 10 minutes."
"We'll talk about it tomorrow"
He was a natural and loved Ross Jeffries’ material and I just used mystery. He hated mystery and would call me out on using canned shit. I just blamed him for being jealous. It took me a while to learn what it was he already knew and what he was trying to get across to me.
The other mate is Kurt, who is just an El Naturale’ and has been through so much heartbreak with girls just because he is a genuine guy and is after love, not numerous fucks. I can talk to him about anything.
On the nights out, that I would go back home with my mate I would wake up in the morning just break out into a hungover state of laughter "holy crap this is a joke! women are so easy!" ill never be lonely again! – I can get any girl!! I was being extremely narrow minded.
But I gotta admit, it was fucking fun.
Problem was, I wasn’t improving as a person. I was using the same lines over and over. The fun died, and I don’t really remember exactly what it felt like, but I do remember I started to become confused. Id be in a shopping centre and think to myself, I can get any girl here if I want... But it would occur to me I had no real day game openers. I would go home without talking to any girl and think, WTF happened there. Or another time I was meeting a girl’s family for dinner, I had no real input to the conversation. I wasn’t the charming ladies man to her parents, and seemed anti social at the dinner table. WTF. I was becoming incongruent as a person.
It was the beginning of the whole Inner Game concept they didn’t teach me in the books I read. But still I never bothered learning about it. Why should I? I was getting results fine the way I was going...
I got myself a beautiful girlfriend who was a virgin. I felt like I wanted to settle down so it was the right thing to do. We dated for a year, but it became more bad then good and it fell apart. It was fine to me at first, but then when I saw she didn’t want me back, it became one messy breakup.
She started dating someone else and I didn’t know how the fuck to handle it. It was the worst feeling I’ve ever had – it felt the same as mourning a death. I created a couple of posts calling this ‘game’ shit useless to improving your life and that it only ruined me. I still to this day remember Kasabi telling me on a post I had 0 Game, and I was like fuck you man you don’t know me. He was fucking right though.
This breakup, as hard as it was, I believe now was the best thing to ever happen to me.
I still think about that girl often and I miss her, but I’ve grown so much. She still hates me and refuses to ever talk to me again, but it’s ironic. I think if she saw me now she would see all the things she wanted from me before. But in saying that I could never go back there now.
I was in a contradiction. I wanted to be in the game more than ever to rebound like crazy and get over this girl. But I finally realised I needed inner game first. That was the whole problem the first time round. So before I got back out there and got my dick back in there, I knuckled down on some whole new type of books. I asked Chief what some good Inner game books were. I browsed the forums for ways to do this and I slowly created a whole lifestyle that was attractive and enjoyable. I hit the gym hard, became friends with lots of people, including friend zoning girls which I never used to do.
I realised I couldn’t entirely shut myself off from women too though; I believe you still need to coincidingly experience things to build inner game. So I got back out there to meet girls at the same time just cautiously.
But it was all different this time. I was learning to appreciate women, understand things on a different level and was working on becoming a natural. I said goodbye to the canned lines.
Its now all about the lifestyle. I want steady girls, and I want them to be happy being in my life. My other goals are a lot more personal to ME now. I want to finish my degree, I have less than a year to go. I want to keep going to the gym and get very built. I want to travel the world and experience all the great things it has to offer. I have many hobbies now that I fucking enjoy and always strive to improve. I want to connect with people, be respected by all those close to me, make lots of friends. These are all things that make me happy.
I was a little worried at first what I’m seeing in the community is that people are settling and it’s not about getting lots of women anymore. That desire I had is also fading for me, however I realised now that as I’m becoming happier with myself, I’m seeing less a NEED for women. I guess that’s a good thing to be less needy. So in my life at the moment is less women though. But I’m happier. That’s what matters.
This whole year Ive had a good number of FWB and FB’s and I consider myself pretty dam good at SNL’s so Ive met a lot of new people. But its slowly becoming for the right reasons. I wouldn’t mind a girlfriend sometime soon when I come back from my trip to America, but im not setting that goal yet.
Ill post another of these maybe every 6 months to see keep myself in check. Until the next one Woooooooooooooooooooooo
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Ive gotten a few call backs already from big companies so we shall see 
