to putn it straight ,I am 100% confident however my confidence comes across as arrogance which makes me seem like an asshole...im very selfsure but many HBs think im a dick because its as though im full of myself,fukn cocky and overconfident...is arrogance a game killer?do i need to be abit more sensitive and "nice"?

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I think you need to know when to tone it down a little bit, but in all reality it is more of a benefit than a hinderence. My one roommate is a natural who just acts like a huge dickhead all the time, n pulls alot of hb's. I personally feel that girls are much more likely to fuck an asshole than to fuck a nice guy. That's just my experience though.

Every girl is different though. You will have to switch up your personality slightly if necessary and if not, GREAT. Remember, "When power questions power, then power is weakness". Be confident, secure, and arrogant if you would like. If you feel good about yourself, you are allowed to act like it. Hope this helps. Pz buddy n GL

shot kinorc, yeah i see what u mean ...if i feel good bout myself and it leads to abit of arrogance...why should i hide it?...just gotta determine when i needa tone the asshole in me down alil.
thanx brother

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I come across as an asshole too, but when people get to know me they know I'm a nice guy. I'm sure you're the same. If a girl doesn't like you because your confident, fuck her. What kind of girl judges you before she even knows you?

Show some humility, make fun of yourself a little. What I mean by this is you can make fun of your self but disqualify the statements as untrue, with your tone and body language. Your confident enough to show humility. Folks with charisma tend to elevate the people around them, they show humility in doing so. If you "look down your nose" at everyone then yes you'll look like a dick.

People don't see me as an asshole because I'll make fun of myself the same as anyone else. That doesn't mean I won't make fun of them, I do but it is playful and they realize I'm joking based on my tone, smile, and body language.

Smile more often, and laugh more often, people will see you as far less threatening.

Being an asshole doesn't get you laid, my theory is that women go to assholes not because their assholes but because they are constantly trying to reach their status, always qualifying. Assholes consider themselves high status, hence the mentality, you can be a nice guy and get just as many girls with the proper knowledge and understanding. Being an asshole is associated with a strong independent masculine quality or alpha, but you don't have to be an asshole to represent any of that.

It disappoints me so much when guys start with this thought, being an asshole is not a good quality. It gets you into a lot of short term bad relationships. Burning bridges just pisses people off and stops you from gaining a lot of great relationships (friendships, family relationships, and sexual relationships), this is not productive in the reality we call life. You get more out of people when you treat them good.

Visor92, "what kind of girl judges you before she even knows you?"

Welcome to the human condition, we all judge people based on past relationships, characteristics, context, clothing, etc. and how that person represents pieces of these past people we've met(you may hate a certain name brand based on an ex-gf). Hell you are likely a guy that doesn't go hit on a girl based on her looks right? Now you have the right to judge her, why can't she judge you? If you are an asshole to people enjoy the reputation you've help uphold, don't get pissed at other people for your own personal behavior.

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How to not come across as arrogant? Homer Simpson said it best when he said, "Be more funny!!!"

poeticlyskuac - " Hell you are likely a guy that doesn't go hit on a girl based on her looks right? Now you have the right to judge her, why can't she judge you?"

Wow, you've made some very gross assumptions there. Judging someone on looks is a different thing altogether. If a girl looks like a stuck up bitch, but she's hot, I'll still fuck her. Also sometimes I do hit on girls I don't find particularly attractive, just for fun, and to make new friends.

"If you are an asshole to people enjoy the reputation you've help uphold, don't get pissed at other people for your own personal behavior."

Where you got this shit from, is beyond me. I said I may come accross as a bit of an asshole, but I'm nice to people. And where exactly did I get pissed at other people? Next time you reply to a post, please do so with something resembling thought.

So you won't have sex with a girl based on looks, kind of judgmental no? It's fine that you do choose and judge one over the other, just don't make hypocritical statements like what right does she have to judge? You judge all the time, don't revoke that right from others. My point was simple, you judge, others judge, get use to it, and expect it. We all represent ourselves off of being judged(our style, what we say or do, etc.), it is kind of disappointing when people don't realize that PUA is even about changing the way you are judged.

How can you come across as an asshole but be nice? To me this doesn't make any sense, perhaps you need to learn to carry yourself properly? When you come across as an asshole don't get pissed when people prematurely judge you(first impressions are huge for a reason), always remember you have the ability to modify your behavior so you aren't considered or come across as an asshole (even though you are nice). Your reaction was that of an angry person, fuck her, that is a pissed reaction, I apologize for reading your words and misconceiving your intentions.

Take full blame for your own behavior, and that includes coming across as an asshole, don't say fuck her, when you came across in a certain way. Learning to create proper first impressions will change all of this, and help you avoid coming across and be judged prematurely negatively. There are some negative people out there that genuinely are douches but I have a lot more good interactions then bad interactions(even with them), if you consistently get the same type of results in your interactions which is you coming across as an asshole you ought to look at things and use this as a chance to improve not get defensive.

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"How can you come across as an asshole but be nice? "

-Simple. Have you ever seen a guy and thought: that guy looks like an asshole. But then you talk to him and he's genuinely nice?

And I didn't mean fuck her in a hateful, bitter way. I suppose what I ment was stop caring what this kind of person thinks. Walk away and open another set.

"So you won't have sex with a girl based on looks, kind of judgmental no? It's fine that you do choose and judge one over the other, just don't make hypocritical statements like what right does she have to judge?"

-I ment judging someone on their looks by seeing them for the first time is different than if you judge their personality on seeing them for the first time. I said this because you compared the OP's situation to me not hitting on some girls based on their looks. Girls judging him and deciding he's an asshole, and reacting to him worse because of it, is different from me judging a girl and thinking "she's hot!"

"Take full blame for your own behavior, and that includes coming across as an asshole, don't say fuck her, when you came across in a certain way. Learning to create proper first impressions will change all of this, and help you avoid coming across and be judged prematurely negatively. There are some negative people out there that genuinely are douches but I have a lot more good interactions then bad interactions(even with them), if you consistently get the same type of results in your interactions which is you coming across as an asshole you ought to look at things and use this as a chance to improve not get defensive."

-Who says I have bad interactions? Your imagining a world where I'm the biggest douche bag ever, approaching girls and getting blown out, and getting really angry at them. You do this without ever even meeting me in person? I really don't know how you got this impression from my first post.

My opinion is that its ok if a girl see's you and maybe thinks " he looks like a bit of a douche". As you said, its human nature. But if you come over to her to have a conversation, and your being sincere and pleasant, and she still treats you like an asshole, don't bother with this one. Thankfully most people aren't like this.