Hey,

I went out with the HB I have been on a few dates the other night. We went for a meal (she paid!), a walk, sat in the sun, had a laugh and then back to mine for a film or two before she said she would have to leave fairly early

During the date, I escalated as normal with her. Back at mine I introduced her to my housemates and went up to my room and we got comfy. Part way through the film I turn her head and kiss her, we make out. She turns to face so I rub her leg and escalate (she was wearing suspender tights and really hot underwear!). We have sex. We both lay there for a bit watching the film, talking then I get up to get a drink so put my boxers on. She puts her underwear on but we still lay there like that. Time goes quite a bit past when she wanted to leave. Part way through another film I go to kiss her again and test the water. Sex again.

So this chick is very open to me at this moment in time. She eventually says she has to go home so I walk her outside and we say we'll go see a film sometime (I stupidly didn't say a date/time)

Anyway, my question is, given the above situation how often is too much to text/call/facebook this HB? I am interested in her but don't want to show too much interest but also don't want to show too little in her

She had been ill so I messaged yesterday and day before but not today. Yesterday we sort of scheduled the next date for Sunday night...

I think you pretty much answered your own question.

Just enough so that she knows you're still interested, but not so much that you appear needy. You said she was sick, so suprise her buy showing up to her lair with maybe a get well soon teddy bear or ice cream or something that letz her know you were thinking of her. Just a suggestion.

i dont think youve been hanging out/ hooking up with her long enough to randomly show up with gifts. thats kind of creepy imo. you said you txt her thats the last couple days that should be enough.

He'z already laid her twice so I'm assuming the comfort is there. But yeah, you should use your best judgement on the situation.

Thanks, Yeah, have laid her twice and when I asked if she wanted to come over for the night she said 'Ah that would be nice but I have plans with a friend who doesnt get out much so cant really cancel ' so rearranged for a time over the weekend. So I think the comfort is there but the niggling voice in my head (you know, the bastard that always tries to fuck things up) is saying, text her, text her, text her but I'm not so sure

So how much contact is too much contact? How much is too little?

Probably give her a call tomorrow after she finishes work to confirm the next date plans but since I met her we haven't not been in contact for more than two days so unsure... Each HB is different, some hate texting but like calls, some like texting but hate calls. I know if I text this HB will reply, but its a case of... Does it appear needy?

She knows you're interested, if you text her too much it will definitely come across needy. There's no reason why she can't get in contact with you once in a while!

There's a few girls who I was texting quite a lot, and met up with a few times (f-closed one of the two), and our contact died down, so I just thought 'fuck it, I cba, if you want me, chase ME for once', and both of them within a month were back texting me saying they missed me bla bla.. it really plays into your hands.

What i'm trying to say is, i'd play it smooth mate.. everyone loves a chase and to be kept on their toes.

EDIT: Just noticed you said you're going to try and arrange for this weekend.. if I were you i'd text/ring her tonight, and just say 'listen, i've got quite a lot arranged this weekend but i'm sure I could fit you.. say _pm on Saturday?' or something similar, therefore you're telling her when YOU'RE free, not waiting to see when she is. If she can't (and there's a good chance that if she's very interested she can make time imo), then i'd hit her with a 'ah, too bad, nevermind then! ' or something like that. The less concerned you seem, the more mysterious you'll come across.

This may sound like bullshit. I'm not a PUA

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Ah no, its already been arranged (date, time, just not sure if its confirmed). I'm travelling with work next week so mentioned it in passing (when she said she was tied up with her friend) in a text and she said 'Oh right, I forgot you was going away for a week. I can do Sunday for a few hours if you are free?'

I know I am thinking about this a bit much, but I don't want to 'break with our tradition' just because I have laid her but also want her to chase. Two things that can't really happen at the same time. Women are complicated creatures and if I 'break with tradition' she COULD be pissed off, but then again, may also enjoy the freedom

I know what you mean about the pulling back. I was seeing a HB who turned a bit mental so I stopped bothering and now she wants to go out again and says she misses me. Difference is, I hadn't F-Closed her

Try not to ask things like "if you're free?" like that.

"Let's do X next week - Tuesday or Wednesday?" is better because you're giving her the choice of days, but still making it clear that you're telling her what's happening. When she chooses, tell the place, time and how to dress. Lead. Be dominant. Know what you want.

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