ok so me and my gf of 6 months dont see each other much but when we do is something special i know i love this girl im positive i get feeling with her that i never had before. i also feel like i would like to spend the rest of my life with her. the thing is that since i see her like once a week we talk on the phone almost daily for a bit. i tell her i love her and i do it because i feel it and she tells me she loves me to and there is a level of honesty that i can sense from her as well so its not like shes just saying it. what im trying to get at is, is it ok to tell them you love them often?. if not why not even if she tells me she loves me to..

Don't say it too often.

why? Because just like everybody else in this world, she will take it for granted.

also...
every time that you say it, it decreases the value of it. So the next time you say "I love you", it won't be too special. Remember when you first said the words "I love you". Most likely you felt this amazing sense of joy and happiness. But now that you say it, I bet you don't feel the same.

Good luck friend.

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Make her work for those words,
As above said, never too often.

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Take warning signs seriously.

people don't know what love means ...

it's subjective anyway.....don't take it serious

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lol... that made sense but idk how

Tell her why you love her instead, it'll have more meaning.

well i told her i wasnt going to tell her i love her anymore that much bc i didnt want it to just be a word to us. she said its not how much you say it, its the feeling behind it as long as you love me it dosnet matter. and she left me speechless lol. also i have this thing where i get super frustrated with our realationship me and her dont see each other much and sometimes i just want to give up and let go but i cant because i love her she gets frustrated to. plus shes a little flirt bc shes very beautiful i cant stop her from doing so though i mean she dosent flirt in a hook up way just for example a guy told her lets go skinny dipping and she said ok but with other people in a text she didnt hide it from me and she told me she was kidding and the guy knows that as well but idk thats kinda wired. she later told him that she was messing with him and that she loves me and she was just messing around. what do you guys think??.

sounds like trouble.

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hmmm?
what do you think?

but how would you deal with this "problem" like the txt would you just let her go. i mean i like her a bunch i have told her to stop and she has but did i do wrong by telling her just last night. i was texting a girl and she acted like she didnt get mad but she didnt come sleep over to my house. i called her again and i asked her why i played it off cool like nothing was wrong even though i was texting with this girl ignoring my gf pretty much. and my gf started crying and she said she was stupid the reason she didnt go sleep with me was bc she was mad bc i was txting the girl and that it was dumb but she just couldnt help it and it wasnt only that she was just frustrated with a lot of stuff out of our realtionship but me txting the girl and ignoring her a little just triggered her and she started to cry. i told her know you know how i feel and i never tell you anything. and she said yea i know and we left it at that.

Love is real, it's just more lucid than everyone thinks. It is not "unconditional," it's like free flowing energy. A person can fall out of love just as they can fall into it. This is the mistake that most people make. They find a girl who "loves" them, and then they relinquish all the traits that made them attractive in the first place, and then blame their failure on "oh, so love must not exist."

And yes, it's ok to say I love you as long as you do it in a MAN should do it, not a supplicating AFC. For example:

"I will love you no matter what" = Needy. In her subconscious, this gets translated as a DLV and makes her LOSE interest in you.

"I don't deserve you" = Self-effacing, makes you seem insecure and unconfident.

"Your the only girl I'll ever want" = your the only girl I can ever have

ON THE OTHER HAND,

"you'll never know how much I love you" = Alpha. Not only does it display affection like the other statements, it also generates intrigue.

"If you learned how to cook like your mom, I would marry you" = Alpha. Displays affection while negging with subtlety.

Notice when alphas say "I love you," it doesn't sound needy or like they're saying it because they want the girl to "stay with them forever" they say it because they MEAN it and they WANT to say it. Betas are ruled by fear of loss.

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