Hey Guys,

Here's the situation:

The girl is at the same school program as me (9am-5pm).
We have been talking for about 3 weeks, since the first day.
We hit if off nicely and have good chemistry. Although she may deny it, to the concious observer it may appear that we are dating, as we are always together. One person asked if we were and we were often refered to as a pair: Dave and Christie.

Main Problem: She has a BF, he's her only one ever, and they've been dating for about 10 years. Lot's of limited Kino between us but it's clear that she's not willing to "cheat" on her BF, so she will only allow me to go so far.

Last week we all went on a 3 day trip with the program and our entire group was provided with motel rooms and everything.
The entire trip we were rarely not together and lots of limited Kino. We had a very good time, but I may have jumped the gun by asking trying to get her to spend the night at my room. She was going to do it but a mother hen said "no" to her. It is complicated, but after our daily activities for the program were over, we hung out until 2 or 4am w/ limited Kino, and I made it clear to her that I was not interested in being "just friends."

I am most interested in avoiding the dreaded LJBF! But I am also interested in how to proceed from here. If she wasn't w/ a 10 year BF its clear that this would have been a closed case a long time ago.


Thanks,

PUA guys. I believe in you.

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Easy answer to your question...

The answer: move on.

Any female with a relationship that long, there is no way in hell you can make her girlfriend material, sure you can possibly get her to leave him, but if she does that, it's definitely a sign she's willing to leave you...even if it means going back to him. You don't want to get caught into that situation of any sort of drama, stop acting like you're in love with this chick. There's plenty of others.

I agree with recovered, this is a complicated mess you probably don't want to get into - and a definate case of oneitis.

However I don't think its impossible. In fact I think its very possible, but will take a very long term calculated approach.... that is until you said this:
That was a BAD move as described. Here's why: you now have forced her to realize that her actions towards you are inviting you as something that she potentially does not want. Where you may have been comfortably in the friendzone with a potential for a back door hookup you are now knocking at the front door, and no girlfriend of 10 years with her first love is going to just open up and welcome you in. So now she has to make a decision on how to handle it. One that will most likely end up in pushing you away because you pose a threat to everything in her life in terms of stability.

She's situated, comfortable and confident with her situation, she isn't likely going to change that just because you've come along. She may be bored, but again best approach on that is through the back door, NOT the front.

Can it be salvaged? Maybe, but you have to take yourself backwards A LOT to get back where you were. Best course of action is to drop her like a hot rock for the moment and just wait it out to see if she comes back to you or lets it go. If she comes back you may have a chance, but it will be a thin line to tread with little chance of success.

If you do get some traction, work the inexperience agle. subtly work in jokes about all the sexual experiences life can offer, but do it indirectly with stories about other people as "freinds" would tell. Your only chance is to prey on her curiosity due to lack of experience since she's only ever been with one guy. It's a long shot, and by long I mean MILES LONG. But probably your only bet.

But again I reitterate, best to walk away on this one. Good luck.

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