hi guys. sorry if this is the wrong forum for this, i'm not sure.

last thursday i occasionaly met with a girl that was my classmate when we were teens, drinking with her sister. i joined them and started my stuff. we moved to a club and had an awesome night together. had heavy makeout with my friend at the club. later, she found a coherent excuse to invite herself to my place and dump her sister, so i f closed her here, high five! she went away in the morning. later in the afternoon we exchanged a couple of playful text messages, cool teasing, nothing else.

i had a gig with my band saturday. the drummer is her friend too and had already invited her a week before. she showed up and we kissed there. after the show and a quick drink with some friends, we went to my place again. no sex this time cos - what the hell! - she was on "those days". i didn't want to be rude, so i had no choice but having a long and very very deep "comfort time" with her and we slept together. in the morning after - what the hell again - she was showing no desire to go away too soon and we ended up doing a lot of boyfriend things: watched a movie, had a late lunch together, etc. she went away after the lunch and i saw the pain in her eyes. :S

i fucked things up. i went far too deep into the comfort way too soon and now she's in love with me, but i don't want a ltr at all. today a mutual girl friend of us called me in ecstasy, playfully saying things like "you're gonna break my friend's heart, you sucker", "she called me and told me everything, oooh, that's so cute" and i was like "haha we were only having a fun time together, nothing serious", for what she replied with a "this is absolutely not what it sounded to me when i talked to her"

uh-oh...

so this is it. long story, sorry. i like the girl, she's a very nice friend and i liked being laid with her. she recently broke up from a 5 year long relationship, so the neediness must be killing her too. i need a way to make clear to her that i'm not boyfriend material without hurting her feelings. i'd be happy staying as her friend or, better yet, a fb. but my main goal is not hurting her. she looks kinda emotional and if i dumped her as a jerk or ignored her, i think it would be gross.

any thoughts?