Okay boys, HUGE PREDICAMENT here.

I've been gaming this one girl "Kelly" hard for about a month and a half. We've gotten to know each other for time before that but our official first meet-up was at a concert in April , brought her back to my place- hookup and get her half naked in my bed but a little LMR stopped me in my tracks. She stayed over though, so it's a given the girl is interested, just VERY sheltered FYI...

So over the past month I take her out on probably the best dates I've ever been on. I'm talking Red Sox games, comedy shows, great dinners, and more haha. I've been fascinated with her, and definitely enjoy spending time with her. I kiss her when I see and and kiss her when we part ways- like a fucking relationship, which I'm not against with this broad.

This past Friday I take her out on a double date w/ my roommate and his girl to a nice Italian restaurant. We go to an improv show after and it's great, she's feeling me. After the show we go back to my place, and after about 20 mins I bring her to my room to end the night. She's a shy girl, but we go at it- I usually dont eat girls out but I knew it was probably necessary with her. She doesn't blow me though, but I didn't push anything. We fuck, and have a great time- just not sure if I was like too aggressive fucking her since I'm thinkin she's only been with like 3 other guys if that. She stays the night, wrapping her legs around me all night. NEVER DISCUSSED FINALLY FUCKING HER THOUGH... wasn't sure if it was bad timing. I drive her home the next day around noon and kiss her goodbye.

Saturday- I text her telling her I'm comin in to the city later tonight, she says okay lemme know. So I call her later that night and she's about to go out with friends to a house party, I'm tired so I just say I'll hit her up tomorrow.

Sunday- I hit her up saying we should grab some ice cream that night, she responds saying she has to do a girls night with her 6 other girl roommates for dinner/movies. Understandable.

Monday- I try nothing.

Today- I ask her while we are at work together (corporate business setting) if she's not too much of a zombie after work we should grab a bite to eat (She went in early today, like 10hr workday). She says she's down to meetup and I joke w/ her and the rest of the marketing girls at work the rest of the day. So now she calls me saying she's really tired and gonna go to bed at like 8:30 tonight. I shake it off and throw some jokes at her sayin I wasn't lookin to meetup with a zombie anyway, so I say that I'd like to talk sometime soon about the recent "events", but nothing serious or anything I add. I leave it saying, "how about you let me know when you wanna get together later on this week". She agrees, says sorry, and phone call is ended.

My question is, Am I being too hard on this girl thinking she's blowing me off. I mean, she's obviously invested- having gone out on many dates and finally given herself to me. It did only happen on friday and it's tuesday, but I mean I wanna just know what this girl is feeling- cause obviously if she's puttin time in she wants something.

That being said, I am meeting up with another broad for drinks tonight who's back from school, and no doubt going to fuck her.
I've got another date setup with yet another broad tomorrow who's a long time friend and I know is looking for more.

Truth is, I want Kelly. I'm still seeing this this other girl tonight, but should I try to do something with Kelly tomorrow or Thursday? How do you bring up the discussion of her finally giving herself to me, without shit getting toooo serious. I'm down for a relationship with her, but to be honest just don't know where to go, or if I'm just going to fast and she's thinking nothing wrong is going on at all.


*SUMMARY- Finally fucked this girl on Friday after 1.5 months. Gamed her hard during it all, many many dates. She gives an excuse for meeting up sunday night that her 6 girl roommates are having a girls movie/dinner night. I setup a meetup tonight with her, which she said she's down for, only to get a call saying she's very tied (true that she worked 10hr day..). ***There's been no relationship talk, although if a girls not giving it up- and still goes out on like 10 dates to then give it up, I'm thinking she's invested. How would you set up the next meetup / how would you bring up wanting a relationship.

**Do I tell her the truth I've got other girls wanting to meetup but I wanna make her mine, and just see what she says?

Hey Z,

interesting story... I would avoid telling her that your getting with other girls if you want a relationship. Your not in a relationship yet so its fair game.

I would say give it a day or two before setting anything up, have fun on your next two nights out.

Since you've done all the big dates already, try a low key thing. Like have her over for a movie......

Good luck

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Honestly... just finished with this girl tonight- went at it for a good two hours and I was thinking about the other girl "kelly" the entire time. fuck. I know that's not good... serious one-itis, but I wanna make kelly girl my girl. So tempted to try to set somethin up tomorrow and blow off the 3rd girl.

When it comes down to it, I'm recognizing that I actually have feelings for kelly. so bangin another chick gets a nut off, but I'm thinkin about someone else the entire time. What would you guys do? Kelly's obviously been into me, but after finally giving herself to me the other night I'm not sure she's fully secure of where things are going... hence the possibly excuses she's making up- they may just be valid and I'm over thinking shit being a psych major... Fuck.

When kelly "blew me off today" on my meetup, she did say she would need a ride into work on Thursday.. so my guess is I should just ride shit out the next day and take her in on thursday, build some comfort, and push for an "instant date" when I'm dropping her off- dinner, movie, anything. It's too frustrating not knowing what this girls feelings are though- obviously meaning I have some feelings for her.

Hey Z, has she talked about what she is looking for at all, past relationships, or anything?

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Let this be a lesson to all of us. Men are 10 times as impatient than women. I myself have no patience. Truth be told it may just be insecurities, or thinking the girls tryin to play a game on me. I drove kelly into work the next day and she was looking like a goddess in a nice pink sundress, teased her all day and hooked up when I dropped her off to her place. Winning and dining her tonight.

Haha winning and dining her all night, nice.

Congrats girls need to feel special if they are going to open there legs. And if they think your an awesome guy and your actually talking to them, your in.

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I would get out of my head if I were you. She fucked you after like a month of dating or something like that correct? I dont know why she would wait that long, but whatever no issue. It has only been a couple days from when you guys hooked up, so it really is nothing to worry about. She had good excuses, so she wasnt entirely blowing you off. What the real issue is, is when she isnt around, you start questioning everything. Its the reason occasionally, you wait for 30 min to respond to a text right? You are just playing yourself right now. Its ok though, I do the same thing occasionally, but I just get aware of myself, laugh it off, n go on with my life. Dont allow yourself to get into your head that much when it is starting to make you be like wtf all the time.

Ya fucking other girls while you dig one, can feel like you are really just going through the motions. Also, it seems like you spent alot of money on this girl n have been taking her out alot. You have invested alot into this girl, and you want it to pay off. Thats completely understandable. You probably enjoy the fact that you kinda have to chase this girl. That CAN become an issue. Try to spend some time IN. Cook dinner, watch movies, whatever. If you want a relationship with this girl, at some point you will have to not wine n dine and just be able to chill.

All in all, I dont think that this is an issue for you man. It will be fine, and if she only fucked 3 guys before you, she may be a lil weird about having fucked, but I doubt that is in anyway an issue. I wouldnt wanna sit n talk with her about you two fucking tho. I would much rather just fuck her and leave it at that. If she is like omg that was incredible blah blah blah, just smile, say you agree, n kiss her. I think alot of people overtalk situations. I can speak eloquently, but with girls, I prefer to just let my actions speak during, after sex.

kinorc- you're legit dead on with everything haha. I definitely get in my own head, and being a psych major certainly helps with that. In any case, took her out to a comedy show double date sat night, brought her back and got busy before passing out and again waking up. Just went out to dinner w/ her again and she's talking about things to do in the weeks to come.. Now if I want to solidify the relationship, I'm trying to decide on how to bring it up. I know she's not fucking other people, and probably doesnt think that I am- but is aware that there's a possibility I have/could. I haven't dove into a relationship in forever so I'm not sure where to go..

Hey Zman27

Seems to me that shes a shy reserved kinda girl, you obviously pushed the right buttons. what ive done that works real well is if she gets weird after a F close then assume that shes prolly unsure /feels guilty / has regrets or is just plain insecure.. soo.. you need to give her a way out, or set up a situation for her to save face..like hey relax no one else has to know. or next time you teach me something... poke fun at it like its not such a big deal...

good luck

A bit to ''grabby'' by saying ''cathing up on things'' with the emphasis that it's nothing serious. You should only give her a finger and let her pull your hand!