Glad your over the one itis.
If you want my opinion i think you got very into describing the bond that was there but not how you created that bond and escalated things like attraction and comfort.
It sounded to me from the first post that you got her opened, attracted, comfortable with kino but like some other guys left her hanging way too long without any kind of hooking her in, she had no investment in you and after a night and a day of getting no statements of intent or moves on your part she detached.
If you go all night without any kind of closeing and a girl drags you into her bed, for the love of god please at least kiss her

Thats like her last reach at having you do something with her.
So that was just my observation from your post, hope you realize what you gotta do next time. Remember even tho she might have to be a slobbering drunkard with AFC's to get with them...your not an AFC, her rules do not apply to you, imo you coulda probably k-closed her or better that night. You would have been the exception to her rules and she would value you more for that.
Hope this helps.