Afternoon.

I seem to be posting alot here lately, which isn't an indicator of a healthy relationship. So maybe i should start considering my relationship instead of fixing the small errors all the time.

What happened, me, my gf and 3 friends are out for drinks, we have loads of fun, etc, all fine. Now i don't see my gf that often, it was 4 days now, So we where both happy to sleep once again together. It gets late, only 5 hours sleep left for us.

We say goodbye to our friends. When suddenly, she goes from happy into sad/angry, i reach her my hand in the car, she refuses to give me one. Ok. In the 10 minute drive we start arguing a bit about the silliest thing ever. She was telling she had coupons for drinks in a club (i saw her showing one in the beginning of the evening.) I was a bit joking, let's go there, we got plenty of time

She says, But i didn't brought the coupons. Which i replay to i saw one earlier. Which put her automaticly in defense mode, telling me i'm looking for things to argue etc. (i'm not the type of person, to argue about shit like that, she knows, i'm easy as fuck, i have troubles with situations like this, becuase i'm too nice) Ok, so for the time we have left, she's being irritating, finding things to argue about. Not willing to sleep next to me. General talking like if she's bothered with something. She's being a bit cold. Telling me obvious joke go sleep on the couch, but with a thone you feel like it's not for joking. etc...

I felt pretty disrespected. So I returned her the favor this mornin, when she was sober. (Being cold)

She got sad. I confront her with her behavior. She asks what she did wrong.

After a bit of discussion, i grab her telling her, i don't like to make you sad. Which she reply's to: Sorry for my behavior yesterday. She still being sad, and i think she doesn't understand what she did wrong.

Sorry for the long read.

Did I handle the situation right?
Was i being a too sensitive pussy?

Give me ur opinions.

The question is more whether this happens OFTEN?

Women are emotional, sometimes shit like this will just happen for no reason. But, it is always important to try to find out why they are being weird when they are. Rather than playing into it, or giving it back to her, why not just ask her what is wrong? Then if she says nothing is wrong, tell her that obviously something is. If she wants to talk about it, hear her out, if she doesn't say, "OK, we can talk in the morning when you calm down, we can talk now, or you can hit the re-set button and we can enjoy the rest of our night together, it's your call." And just be cool with whatever she says. Your the man, you need to be strong and lead. Let her be free to feel what she is feeling, but you won't let her transient feelings negatively affect your relationship. But like was already mentioned, if this becomes something that happens often, then you have a problem.

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Natural Seductive Metalanguage

You're fine, don't worry.

i believe that something was clearly wrong.

and instead of getting upset and defensive toward her,

maybe you should have slowed things down and tried to discover what was wrong.

she was clearly sending signals that she was very distraught about something.

you chose to get pissed, instead of to find out what it was...

sorry to say, it didn't make things any better.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

When girls argue about little things, theres usually something else bothering them. You can sort it out on the spot, or wait til the next morning when you have both sobered up. Rather than yelling or taking an aggressive tone, calmly discuss the events and what was bothering her.

I dont think you should have grabbed her either, getting physical like that never helps.

Thanks for the replys guys.

Like some of you said, there indeed was something wrong. Altough she refused to say so. I'm 100% sure i found the root of the problem.

Another day, another lesson learned.
Jeopardizing is next ;D