So the reason I've been away for so long is things got pretty hectic, I was seeing 4 girls at one time, basically because I'd thought I'd had enough of one nighters and SNLs and wanted to commit to something and be with someone who meant something to me... Well now I am, I'm with this chick I've known for around 9 years... Went into the bar where she works and just hit it off, she had a boyfriend at the time but that didn't stop me, I met her a couple of times while she was working just to build raport and get her familiarised to me etc etc

I met her out of her work, and we hit it off, I even K closed... so then she bins off her boyfriend a few days later, and we get together, everything is going swimmingly at first, then a few weeks into it I'm getting cold feet, she has already used those "Three Little Words" and is even talking about moving in and Kids and Marriage... In the few months we've been together I now make excuses not to see her and when we are together, she's extremely clingy and needy...

Fact is I've come to the conclusion I'm still in Love with my ex Fiancee but I don't want to get back with her, I just don't think I'm ready for a relationship yet, especially with this highly charged ball of emotion that is my girlfriend, I want out of this and I want out of this fast... I just need the right words to say so as not to upset her or make her angry at me as I believe we can still be friends...

Please guys I need you more than ever... My game is tight I'm just not used to this whole relationship business!

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They're playing groupie, so I'm playing rock star...

If she is that in to you...there is no easy way to tell her it's over, sorry bro, but you know this already, your just pro-longing it. The only thing I can suggest, is to be honest...if there is ever a chance between you and her later, you won't run the risk of trying to remember what you said exactly because in truth, she will never forget.

Take this time to figure out what you want for yourself, if you've had that much success, then a little break will do you some good, like, a reset of the mind and soul!

Lots of luck, you sound like a good hearted person that doesn't want to be labeled an asshole...sadly, your going to be that asshole, I've been there, but it was worth letting it go! Get yourself on track, she will be fine. Trust me.

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managing expectations?

so you were gungho about this chick? but a few weeks later not so much?

when she said "those three little words", what did you say or do in return?

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isnt it there a way to bring back the butterflyes

No there is definitely no way to bring back the butterflies it was something I thought I wanted which now, after giving it a go I do not want this... I realise I have to do this sooner rather than later! I just need the right words... Or do I just tell her the truth...? I'm great with getting chicks not so great getting rid of them!

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They're playing groupie, so I'm playing rock star...

Sugar has a problem. SNLs become meaningless, so he commits to a girl to find something more meaningful. Now that he has that, girl doesn't mean anything to him. I know the dilemma too well. My advice, especially if you're still into your ex, is to keep playing the field with the aim of finding a girl you will want to keep around--because she's awesome, not because you want a girl.

I don't think your thing for your ex should affect what you do. Other women or a new relationship can help you over that. But mostly just time and distraction, building habits and routines without her in them.

As for your current girl, let her down as soon as possible. Be honest, "I'm not over my ex, and you're too clingy." She'll be hurt, but that's not your fault. Chances are, she's pretty unstable/insecure, evidenced by the fact that she ditched her last boy and already talks about heavy commitment with you. Seems like a girl who can't be alone. If I'm right, she'll get over you fast. If I'm wrong, she'll probably realize that she scared you off with her crazy.

WIN/WIN

Just do it...if you want to let her off gently...as you keep asking, use the line mentioned above, I'm not over my last GF...no need to add insult to injury by saying she is clingy...you have made your point that you want to end it...leave it at that. Personally, I'd say what the true problem was...otherwise, I wouldn't be giving her any insight and will most likely hound me for closure. Again, not trying to sound like an ass but if she was clingy and you want to mention that, then do so.
It's all in the delivery.

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i have a similar problem, my girl is really into me (kids, marrage talk) but she is just not enough for me and I dont want that future, we dont fight, there are hardly problems with any part of our relationship..... im just not that into her....

how do you end a 'good relationship' im mean i pretty happy with her, and as 'bad' as it sounds i just want new pussy .

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@Personal...

What exactly is it that bothers you about this girl?

If you have lost interest, why? What's lacking?

With regards to how to end it...it sounds like you want to be the nice guy and not hurt her...sorry, but if she is talking kids and marriage...then you are going to have to be that guy. You can make up some B.S. or you can be straight up with her, your choice. But you are doing her a favor by not leading her on.

Just know, you are sure you want to do this, once you do, it'll be hard to recover from unless you like challenges!

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

ok so after one day where we managed to "find those butterflies" I decided it was best for me to leave the relationship... And return to the most excellent world of PUAdom! hope I'm welcomed back with open arms from you guys, and open legs from the ladies...

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They're playing groupie, so I'm playing rock star...

You can just tell her the truth that you want to end it and it's over, that's the best that it can be if you want to end it and tell her that in person..


If you are not ready yet then it's not the time for you to have a relationship if you still want to enjoy life. you know what i mean




LTR's totally interfere in your ability to get chicks. If How ever, you decide to do it she must have three out of four of the following. "Pretty,intelligent , funny or a great body"


don't settle for LESS and don't ever ever get married unless she has all four.




Best of Luck,



-TheNaturalPlayboy

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