Im in a relation with a girl for about 6-7 months and i think that things get to cool down theres no more butterflyes she doesnt have entusiasm in making moves but at we are good. Please post your experience what you do in order to keep your relation moving up and keeping it fresh.

Well, you have to remember...just because the newness of a relationship fades doesn't mean that she no longer thinks/loves/or cares about you...it's just that...you are now there, basically, not going anywhere...and she knows that.

Now...if there were a chance that she could lose you...her interest in showing you how good of a fit you two are would be higher...why...because you are not always available...or, not as needy. This last statement made, I wouldn't recommend doing now as it will come off as weird if you all of a sudden are not as available as you were in the past.

Everyone has their own way of showing love...some are more obvious than others. Think about whether she does anything nice for you - whether it be physical, compliments, or encouragement. If she never does anything nice in return for what you do for her, I'd say, perhaps there isn't a balance in the relationship. Not good.

Whether any of the things she does or doesn't do, do not relate to there being a lack of love but that is something you'll have to determine. It depends on your definition of what it means for someone to show they love you (saying it or showing you in other ways).

What do you feel is lacking in the relationship?

Are you needy and always available?

Are you spending multiple days with her or staying the night?

Do you do things that you enjoy alone or do you find all your free time is being spent with her?

Does she reciprocate...meaning, you do something nice...she may follow up with something nice of her own later?

Is the sex as good as it was in the beginning?

In my experience at one point...I felt the same as you did...But I became needy after that point, I tried to make it what it once was... I would find myself spending all my free time with her and didn't do anything with my friends anymore, I had no time alone, it was spent with her and the sex began to be less as often and eventually, it ended. The nice things I did were no longer taken for what they were, frankly...they didn't mean anything anymore and that sucked... Not to say that will happen with you...but if you try hard to fix something that isn't broken...in time...you're going to break it!

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1. the thing that is lacking to is the attention she doesnt give me attention sometimes. she doesnt care what im doing where i am if i need attention i need to do it myself... but at all im happy with this girl

2. i think im pretty available for her.. but maybe a little needy. she almost never calls me for a date im the one who calls but we both get used to it. she prefers calling friends and she thinks when i dont call her in the day means i dont wanna see her but thats not true cause sometimes i feel like fool always calling initiating and s.o but its not problem to me.

3. I spend maybe 2-3-4 day from the workweek with her for about hour or two and in the hollydays we spend it together at partyes nad s.o. she sleeps at home..

4. I like spending thime with her most sometimes i ignore my friends badly.. but at all theres balance betwen my life and our life.

5. i frequently text her sweet sms and she replyes but she almost never texts me to tell me something good but she did very big things to me too she's just that aristocratic type person... hardly expres feelings.

6. sex is even better like the beggining but maybe the hunger for sex is little

but i think theres no balance in our relation im the more emotional one the initiator the leader the one who talks about things and s.o.

butterflies are overrated.

unfortunately, they are also a main priority for females.

things that cause butterflies:

- rollercoasters (natural high)
- drugs (chemical high)
- new boyfriends (dopamine high)

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isnt there a way to bring back the butterflyes ...

what you can do is live life with passion ... take up new hobbies , take up new challenges. You cannot control her way of thinking , what you can do is make yourself as attracting and exciting as possible ,control you way of thinking.

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i think i will get pissed off really soon always to handle the ralationship on my own and from in a relationship i will drink 500 vodka and become free for all

a man always needs to handle a relationship on his own because HE IS THE MAN .... but you can also expect something back from a woman you know....
its unfair if you are investing 80 % and she is only investing 20 % .. what are you saying ??? she is investing her vagina ???? dude you are investing your dick as well so that's equal.

if you don't like the relationship - you probably don't like the person - and if you don't like the person - the person is either uncapable of handling a relationship or the she is just too immature.

drinking vodka is stupid shit .... alcohol doesn't solve anything .. just make a decision , you keep this relationship or you don't.
you can also talk it out , but if i read you whole message i get the impression you just don't like her into the relationship.

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you forget to mension cocks

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Agreed. You can be tactful in the hobby you take up also, pick a mutually liked activity. If you both like music, learn guitar. If you're adrenalin freaks, by a motorbike, ride naked through flaming hoops, whatever you're in to. That kinda hobby will refresh you and naturally bring you two closer, especially if you can include her every now and then. It creates that 'fighting on the same team' bond.