Hey guys I am newb to NLP and that is my question:

1. If she's having a really good time with me like she's laughing etc, can I anchor that emotion or do I always need to run a pattern to anchor the emotion ?

2. Do I always need to say something while touching her elbow like for e.g "You're having a good time and then I touch her elbow" to successfully anchor that emotion ? Or can i just touch her elbow without saying anything and successfully anchor her emotion?

Thanks

I find using patterns to anchor to be the most effective, but, patterns aren't as big as they need to be. If you don't want to run a pattern, you just have to get her to consciously recognize her jubile mood. If someone tells you that your arm looks itchy, you're going to start recognizing some awkward sensations on your arm. The same thing can be said about good moods. "You're laugh is wonderful, it's so natural, YOU can just see the great mood you're in." Important that you don't talk about you seeing it, she needs to see it, she'll look into herself, and say, yes, I'm in a great mood right now, he can see that.

Now, people have made a lot out of physical anchors, especially the touching of the arm. This is a basic structure of psychology for quick inductions. You see it on The Mentalist a lot. Touching the upper arm, the bicep, creates a subconscious structure of authority. Giving a woman a gentle tap on the upper arm creates the power structure that she craves with you. Touch is not necessary to create an anchor, it's just a great way to seduce a woman quickly.

I run the gemini pattern using my two hands, simply as if I'm talking with my hands. My right hand the wild side, the left hand the tamed societal side. So when I'm complimenting her body, when I'm asking leading questions, I'd talk with my right hand, when I wanted to fractionate that wild arousing mood and bring her back to the tame societal, I would talk with my left hand. Also though that means that I lead physical escalation with my right side.

Hope that answered your questions.

An easy way to anchor covertly while explicitely talking about it is something like:

"When we laugh like this it reminds me of a friend who does funny faces like this..." then you do a funny face. And say "and we laugh even harder...".

Now keep doing the face when you're both laughing.

Eventually you'll just do the face and she'll laugh.

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cheers. That completely changed how i look at anchoring.

You basically just do your anchor whenever shes at the peek of an emotional state. you can use pretty much anything as an anchor as long as it is consistant. and ya like it was said before make sure she is aware of the emotional state. you will also want to anchor several times in order to create an anchor in her mind.

She doesn't have to be consciously aware of the mental state for the anchor to set in. If she's not thinking about it, the key is consistency. Every time she hits the peak of a good mood, give her the anchor. Stimulus-response, stimulus-response.

You can anchor an elbow touch throughout the night and only bring it to her conscious level later, and it will stick that much better, because the path has already been built- you are just bringing her attention to it. If anything, unconscious anchors are stronger, because our minds don't resist habits if we don't know we have them.

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