Ok, so here's the story so far...

Known this girl for about a year. She used to live near me, now she lives about 100 miles away in London. Shes a HB8.

Anyway, when I was in London the other day I took her out on a date, we had a good time.

We kept texting after the date, but as time went passed, her investment in the conversation decreased, to the point where her texts were kind of boring me, as she wasnt flirting or showing any interest. So about a month after our date, I decided I wouldn't text her again and concentrate on other targets.

2 weeks later, I had a really good weekend which results in loads of DHV's on my facebook page, pics of me with other women etc. and this girl then initiates conversation with me. So I replied a quick short reply mirroring her initial message.

She then replied asking me when I'm coming to London to take her out for food and drinks again.

This is totally weird, cos before she wasnt really showing any interest, but this is a clear IOI, she's basically asking me out.

My question is... what would you guys do in this situation??

So you stop giving her attention, demonstrate DHV and now she comes knocking on your door...classic. Nice work my friend.

I would keep her around for target practice or a bootie call for my next trip to London. Focus on the girls that are near you.

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Just because she wasnt showing interest prior to now, doesnt mean she wasnt into you or didnt want to get boned. Remember, women will rarely lead and are waiting for a man to, umm, MAN up.

Not saying what you did was bad. In fact it was very good because you set yourself up as the prize, you went hot then cold, and now shes chasing. Now you basically have to keep this up. Just cuz shes asking you out doesnt mean you can start acting all nice to her and think "I got her now". No, it never ends. Women need the full range of emotions. So shes put in some effort, reward her by taking her out and escalating hard. Then, go cold again and continue gaming other chicks.
She will continue the chase and think shes "lucky" that you are giving her time, taking time to text her, etc

Keep this frame up UNTIL you bang her. After that, the choice is yours. Move on or keep her around.

I agree with Juan and SiNful. I've had similar experiences and it's very important to keep frame, as hard as it can be.

One experience, I let myself get excited the HB reinitiated conversation and I started talking back and forth at the pace we were when we quit talking. Simple cat-string and she faded out of conversing again.

I'm interested to see input on how to set this up, but I would try to make plans in London and tell her if she wants a chance to catch you, this is her opportunity. Worst thing that'll happen is she'll flake and you get to sarge around London for a night or two!

Thanks for the replies guys, some interesting points there.

I replied, told her I was busy for a couple of weeks but that I might be free on June 4th, and I might see her then.

Anyway, she replied saying she's away on holiday that weekend... which is fair enough, but how do I keep my frame in this particular circumstance?

I'm thinking not replying to her for a couple of days and then saying "yeh well maybe when you get back"... but dont I need to just man up and offer ANOTHER date ... or is that AFC and desperate lol?!

Well, I wouldn't wait a couple days if you guys have been texting some today. I would consider something along the lines of "Well that's fine, you'll just have to hear about all the fun you missed out on."

I'm kinda playing around with different ways to handle this awkward second date phase. Perhaps you could offer something up by saying "Well, if I get into town any in the future and I'm not too busy, I'll let you buy the first round of drinks and we can catch up!"

Reword it, discard it. Just some thoughts! Best of luck, hopefully some more input will come in!

Chat with her a little bit, then if you go to london soon call her up, go out, get into your comfort stages and then into her pants!

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