OK Fellas, this is not my work. It belongs to a lady who posted a thread on "POF" forums, who really knows what the fuck she's talking about.
I really like her angle on this.
"How to arrouse women"
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I respond, women are aural, sensual creatures. Where men are turned on by visual stimulus, women tend to require more than just a pretty face and a hot bod. Which is why the clever Casanova's of the world have learned to progressively touch a woman and speak to her in a tone of voice that is simultaneously sexy but not necessarily saying "sexy" things.
A comment about "progressive touch". This was famously described in the "Mystery Method" as a means for getting a woman to sleep with you. While I disagree with the ends, the means are profoundly useful. As you might know, the whole female body is capable of becoming an erogenous zone. So men who employ this often succeed where other, richer, more physically attractive suitors fail. Think of a woman as you would a mean cat at your friends house. You're trying to win over this creature and have it come sit on your lap. Patting it on the head will only enrage the animal and render your subsequent BEST attempts useless. BUT, speak softly, in soothing voice, then progress from touching "safe" parts 1) the back 2)tail to perhaps s3)scratch behind the ears.
Apply this analogy to women, open up conversation, speak in casual tones and progress from touching her back between the shoulders (a "safe" zone) to maybe the small of her back (a great move if she needs "help" getting off a barstool!). Alternatively going from the elbow to the hand, or the shoulder to the neck. Make up excuses for these things ie. I wanted to get a better look at your necklace, or let me help you out from your chair.
Players are intuitively good at this, but it is certainly a learnable skill and frighteningly effective when employed correctly. Something about being touched in these ways seems to set women into a pathway of "hey this guy digs me ---> we need to get naked STAT" I've seen my guy friends do this and we even tested it head to head 1)hot guy-no touching vs 2)OK guy - progressive touch. Guess who got laid that night? you got it, NUMERO Dos.
Try it out tonight and like I said, the analogy of the mean cat, for whatever reason seems to get the right effect from even the most thick-headed of men.
CHeers