So basically i meet this girl a friend of a friend at social event with my friends and i got her number on facebook and i went out to her yesterday and we hung out in town for a while and kissed her severall times then she left.
but i always find myself texting her first and i dont wanna seem like a freak.. and how would i set up a second metting with her?

bump

what i usually do is just stop texting the girl for a couple of days then she'll usually text you first.

But if i do that how do i know she wont go off with somebody else

If that's your worry then you need to find another/more girls. You're already insecure and so this girl should not be your main focus.

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You text her and tell her to meet you somewhere...

I know this may sound a little mean, but it's the truth.. Don't sit around waiting for a girl to text you. That's crazy. Get out there and game more women so you have other options instead of just waiting on one.

The thing is i have 4 other women i could easily be seeing, but for some reason, i seem to always think about this girl and feel for some reason i shouldnt see the other 3 girls.. maybe its because i feel if she doesnt text me she's loosing interest :L

LMAO! It's the chase that has you by the balls right now! If a girl is showing you all types of interest, texting, emailing, calling all the time, do you really want to deal with her? The minute she stops, you're wondering how you can get her to start doing it again.. Same with this girl...

so what do i do just wait it out?

If you want to meet up with a girl for whatever reason, hit her up and tell her to meet up with you. It's how you go about doing it that you need to worry about... Search the forums for that answer. There are plenty of different ways you could go about doing it.

the first two times i asked her out, is it not her turn?

You've asked her out twice and you've gone out twice? Have you kissed closed? Anything get hot and heavy on one of these dates?

If after two dates she isn't hitting you up every now and again for no particular reason, there could be something wrong. Maybe you haven't built up enough attraction. After one date, I usually get a "hey" text at the very least.

i kissed closed twice so i dont know like she text me first after the second date..

i feel for you man. these are most frustrating situations to find yourself in.

The guy above who said it is right. its the chase.

I met a girl out 3 months ago and got laid that same night.

Then somehow magically she re-created the chase for me, and it was asif I had never slept with her and was starting all over again.

I stuck it out and won her over. mind you, this included times where she wouldnt text back til 2 days later, or Id have to ask her something twice, but add "its not that hard to reply is it?" only because I was caught up in the chase!!

It took a few weeks of texting and asking her out, but once she agreed to another meet I knew I would win her over and I did with supreme confidence.

now shes the one texting me first.

It sounds like you havent done enough in the times you've been with her. Maybe the date choice was poor and didnt help you much.. Im not sure.

If your game was solid, this wouldnt be so much of a problem, because you sound kinda insecure about what to do, when you should just go with your instinct. but maybe shes just a tough nut to crack.

My suggestion: firstly, shake off this mindset about worrying if shes with other guys or not. Most likely she is, so get that out of the way now.

Then

give her a couple days without contact then hit her up with a fun idea you can both do, or if shes going out on the town, make sure you go out that night too.
I usually involve drinking because I find it alot funner way to open up to eachother.

Then when you see her again, then seal the deal.

if she says no, tough love. send her a text saying how you think that sucks that she didnt see it the same way, then try drop it.

but otherwise shes probably into you if shes met up with you and kissed, but unsure about whether she likes you anymore because you havent manned up enough to MAKE HER YOURS!!

cheers for helping me man it couldnt of been building attraction that was the problem she's friends with my cousin and my cousin told me that her friend fancied the fuck out of me.. so i dont know

i acted alpha through both dates and all of our friends know each other so if she went of with someone id know straight away so ill just leave her alone for a few days and if she texts, she texts if she doesnt thats it!