… Loosing the one thing you always wanted, or even worse.. had.

What happens when you had the best? Therefore you can’t get better.

To be honest, I guess every single human being in the world at one stage in their life goes through this, I am just making it so hard for myself. Normally in these situations, you say “guys want what they can’t have” – relating it to a girl who is out of their league or with another guy.

What about my situation – Where you had the perfect girl linked at the same time of your perfect life of high school, and you will never get her or that back.

Whats left for you? Every day thinking about the past, unable to move on, unable to forget her, you become someone you don’t want to be. You become the guys you use to look down upon and laugh at.
Inevitably, left with a major oneitis and each day hoping for something to get you out of this massive black dark hole you are in.

Where do you go from here. Where I am now, for more than a year.

'loosing' is my new pet-peeve.

How many have you had to suggest you can't do better? Before as well as while in perpetual sissy mode?

It sounds like wanting what you can't have is perfectly suited to this situation. This is why indirect game works at all.

In terms of your mindset. Me telling you that it's in your head and you can move on and can stop thinking about the past won't change anything, but after some period of time you will realise it to be true.

Generic advice due to vague post. I'd be happy to break down details, not that I foresee it helping.

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I would appreciate you to break down details, and it will help.

I have been on this girl for a while, i try to find out what she is up to, what she is doing, who with, and she even knows all this.

I have had the opportunity to fuck other girls, ive done it once and it was horrible, me thinking of her the whole time.

You have to give me details then, silly!

That post sounds really quite stalkerish. Do you realise how much this kind of thing hurt your chances of fixing things? How unattractive this kind of neediness is.

I can tell you from the small amount of detail I have that the best thing you could do is move remove all trace of her from your life. Allowing yourself to stick on this is your fault and only you can fix it.

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check your private messages, silly )

YOU are the one fucking yourself over. I bet this "love of your life" has ridden multiple cocks since while your giving yourself a stranger wishing it was her. Man up, girls come and go....and you knew her from high school? Jesus christ, you do know that's only like....1/8th of your life? You dont think you'll ever meet a good woman again?...sit back and REALLY give this some thought. Noone here is gonna tell you anything you dont already know.

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i hope one of you is female. because all of this "silly" talk sounds kinda gay. lol (not that i'm homophobic or anything)

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this thread should be deleted ... too many purple cotton candy homofobic whining in here ....

just fuck other girls ....use your experience with this ex-girl to get a hotter girl with better personality and post pictures of you and her on your facebook.

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get off my dick, GUISE

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Agreed.

If i post this shit its cuz its on my mind and i want your help, not to tell me to stop being gay and shit

Wow drama. It's all in good fun.

Let's all hug and become bestest friends.

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1. You're in high school, you have the rest of your life to find the "perfect girl"
2. You're in high school, the chances of you meeting the perfect girl in high school are extremely slim. Most girls dont know who they are or what they want at that age and will end up changing from your "perfect" girl into something you like less
3. You're obsession with finding out what she is doing and who she is doing it with is stalker behaviour. If shes gone and you;re not getting her back, then let go. Stop wasting your time being depressed and stalking and use it instead to work out where you went wrong, where you could have improved and how you will do it differently next time when you meet the next "perfect" girl
4. Just re emphasising that theres more chance of you gaining super powers from a radio active spider than there is finding the perfect girl in high school.

What grade are you in anyway? And is this your first GF?

Hi there everyone I am new, but only because I need help. My first post.

Last October my girlfriend broke up with me, from a 3 year relationship. I understand that I havnt been a good bf to her, I made her lose interest in me, and I saw it coming, she told me before that I am losing her and soon I won't be able to do anything about it when the time comes.

I was depressed for months on end, even before we broke up I was so depressed, so grey and down. I don't really know why, but I just felt at some point that she was dragging me down and I forgot how to be a bf to her.

Luckily I have good a good friend, he's like a natural PUA but does not realise it. Last month I got with this new girl, and we been having sex and getting to know each other. I'm changed from last year, I feel more alpha than any time before, i'm 22 years old. I feel more in control of what I am doing and feel i'm getting back on my feet from all those times I been depressed. I think I needed time to think. My ex gf said she liked being by her self now, but that was in January and stuff. My sister's bday was last week and my ex called me to ask for my sis number. I understand we hardly talk but does this mean she still wants that connection with me? I told the new girl to slow things down get to know each other and stuff. She really likes me but that's natural really.

So the problem.

I'm thinking about my ex and how happy we were, but we were only kids (16-17yrs)and I think that was the problem. She never saw me grow up whilst with her for obvious reasons, we were always together. I phoned her today cos honestly I missed her and asked her how she's doing. We talked for like 25mins. She told me I've changed a bit. Is she trying to tell me something? I wanted to ask her if she missed me but somehow I know the answer. I feel like I can take control and try again. I feel like I can finally set her mind, tell her the past is the past, but honestly I just feel a bit confused. Do I need more time to my self? What is happening. I felt like telling her things how I felt, and I still love her. It seems that she is moving on, but is there still a chance. I only want to be with her if she wants to be with me, and ditch this other girl, but then would everything turn out ok. She did leave me so what does that say in all this, that she needed time apart from me? On the phone today she was asking me if i'm having fun.. I should have told her "you mean having fun without you?" to get straight in it.

I need some hard advice, I read PUA on a basis and I know this is the place for what I am asking.

Being dumped is almost always painful. I've been dumped by girls that I don't even like and it has hurt.

Do more of this and less of this
As for breakups. They normally happen for a reason and the worst thing you can do is nothing. If you sit still you allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and you become less likely to fix things, and less likely to find anything new.

That being said. I do believe there is fixing that can be done. It is harder than starting a new relationship. You need to have a good idea of what went wrong (not what she said went wrong - big difference), and you need time to work on this as well as working on yourself. If you don't work on yourself then you are instantly in needytown and heading in the wrong direction.

It sounds like you are doing well. Continue what you're doing, try to add more girls if possible. Keep contact with your ex to a minimum, until you feel that you are capable of talking to her without second guessing every little word. You can be up front with this other girl and tell her you aren't ready to commit, and she can like it or lump it.

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Thanks for replying, really appreciate it.

I'm not a guy who can wait around, I called her last night and asked her if she was happy, and if she would want me back or not. First she said she doesnt know then she said she was happy being on her own. I dont want to push it at all. I would have come back to her, but I guess not everyone is the same. I'm going to be happy without her, and stick around with this hot Guyanese Indian chick. I just need to set her mind and teach her that I am not her ex bf, cos she was all paranoid around me. She's cool though she likes me and so I'm going to keep having my fun with the help of you pick up artists.

Glad to join the crew