This cognitive dissonance thing is a real eye-opener, I've never thought about it in those terms. And I agree with you Mack2.0 about what you said, I just always thought it was a question of not taking things for granted, or you never know what will happen and stuff like that. I mean, there are no guarantees whatsoever for anything, let alone love, affection, attraction. That's why the concept of marriage is absurd to me. And I'm a romantic deep down, so I wonder what rationalizations I come up with because of that

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

You have a pretty insecure definition of trust.

The insecurity you choose to possess is the same type of insecurity that feeds misguided institutionalization of religion and organization of cults. Get rid of it. No one will always want/love you, etc. except maybe your mom and, if you choose to believe, a supernatural deity like God.

What you need to do is to grow up and realize that the love and trust a woman can give you can most definitely be genuine, but it's not her fault that human emotions, like everything else in life, are impermanent.

If I tell a girl that I love her, it's because I actually feel love for her. I also realize that my romantic love for her will not last forever. I can't expect any more from her than I can expect from myself. She can trust me when I say "I love you" because I mean it the moment I say it. I can trust a woman if she says it to me in that same way.

Life is all about changes. Get over it and just trust and love your fellow human beings as much as you can.

When I read this the first time, I kind of blew it off for whatever reason. After thinking things over and reading the article, though, I think you're right. One quote from that article sums things up in a nutshell:

"The concern of the researchers is that a woman who gets involved with a guy while on the pill might find that she's no longer compatible with him once she stops later on in the relationship"

In other news, she will be starting back on her birth control tomorrow, so I'll hopefully be able to confirm the validity of this claim.

Try and reason with her in some way, come to a conclusion to some sort of birth control, in all seriousness, condoms suck!

There is many different types of birth control out there, show her some of them!

Hopefully I helped in some way :')

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Heisenberg.

Considering this topic has absolutely nothing to do with sex, no, that wasn't very useful.

I have the opposite problem to the one posed in this thread. My girlfriend of 6 months is getting on the pill very soon (for a reason I don't know). She has already stated she plans to 'catch up' with one of her ex's (lets call him ex1). When i reversed the situation and asked if it was okay for me to go on a date with a girl for a day she became extremely jealous and told me that she "isn't going to share me". She then also pointed out that the 'catch up' was over a beer at a public place, over an hour or two and asked if it would make me feel better if she brought a friend.

She also plans to make friends with her ex(ex2) of a year who cheated on her numerous times.

im getting a little sick,- because of my jealousy. We are in a Long distance relationship and i only get to see her every 2 weeks or so.

i would say that I am more masculine than ex 1 and that I am very different to ex2 (I initiate contact less)
Should i stop her from getting on Birth control pills?

Get her to use a progestrone only pill - no increased risk of ovarian Ca. Or just imporve your foreplay game untill she begs for your cock then mention close to climax how much better this will be bareback. If she doesnt want to do that shes pushing you away.

Its majorly difficult to manipulate the situation with any assurance. The general consensus is to love yourself first and keep an open mind, even if you guys do work things out.

Good luck mate