is it ok to let your girlfriend talk to their ex's and if so where do you cross the line? should you let them flirt with some guys. like lets say you found out from other sources such as facebook or their friends that their flirting is this normal or should you put an end to it what if its just friend talk?.?

post here whats your definition of "flirting" via facebook and we can help you better that way..

I have the same problem, my girlfriend of 3 months is still talking to her ex, they've been together for 3 years and she broke up with him, he's still not over her and still calls her every now and then to check if she's still with me and tell her she should go back to him, he even tried to spy on me through my facebook page with an alias, but i didn't confirm him.
I know the thing he wants is for us to break up so she can go back to him.
she says she wouldn't but still she says she likes to talk to him and tell him stuff, and that she still cares for him, but not in a romantic way.
I told her it wasn't cool, i just could'nt help it. She told me till now about every time he called and what they were talking about, but i'm still annoyed because I know he puts stuff in her head.
We haven't had sex yet, she's really insecure.
Not sure how to take it from here...

like honestly..id put a stop to this. just tell her you arent comfortable with it and it really does bug you. and tell her that you know its stupid but you cant help it. see how she reacts to that. it seems like she isnt over her ex and she might be in the confused state sooner or later where she "doesnt know what she wants".

I've let girls talk to their ex and I've probably lost girls to their ex. Almost always they still talk because one or both of them are still emotionally attached. It's probably unconscious but having a back up to run to is comforting I suppose.

I think we need more information on the girlfriend part because it doesn't sound like you're that close.

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From what I've found, if you try to get girls to stop talking to their exes, it'll only make them more distant from you and hurt the relationship. Of course, if they're being fucking ridiculous and openly flirting with them, then you need to step in. But try to suppress as much jealousy as possible.

OK.. I guess the ex is not an issue anymore, we broke up 2 hours ago. We got into this conversation where she said she doese'nt feel any passion between us, she said she needed time to think if it's possible for her to develop feelings for me, I responded that if she needed time to think, the answer is probably going to be negative and i'm not going to wait around while she's "thinking" if she wants to stay in the relationship or not, so we may as well end it right now.
I didn't see any way around that and didn't want to remain hanging.
I know I've made some mistakes in this relationship, but wasn't sure how to fix them.
I didn't feel any rush while we were kissing and doing stuff and maybe it showed.
I still like her, but she says likes me very much, but not attracted to me physically because i'm not her type.. I can't find anyway around that..
Can you think of something I can do? Or just move on and forget about it..

Do you actually believe anything she said?

She "needs time" = Wants to fuck other guys yet doesn't wanna burn bridges with you.

Honestly? I know you still have feelings for her...but you couldn't be in a better situation if you think about it. She is predisposed to cling to her ex's. She's not trustworthy so you dodged a bullet. Let her do her own thing for a while and break all contact. You can almost hear the timer ticking till she wants you again.....

Fuck her brains out and while she's getting dressed tell her you dont think it's gonna work. CHERISH THIS TIME GOD DAMNIT!!! You're free from that skeevy little bag.

PS: If your future girlfriends keep in touch with their ex's for no real reason...take this as a sign so you can avoid this shit altogether.

Common sense will always prevail...

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I don't think the issue was her ex, it was just one of the multiple issues that bothered me during our short relationship, she was full of issues, very unstable, very insecure, imature girl. But she was pretty hot, and I guess that's what made me put up with all of her bullshit. I'de bet every other 9 out of 10 guys would have kicked her to the curb a lot sooner for her behavior. I should have known but I could not help it..
She didn't even let her ex of 3 years see her naked, ever.. And that's just the tip of the iceberg.

Oh wow. Thank the heavens you're out of that mess. Dont think you still cant tap it from time to time if you play your cards right.

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ex for 3 years hasnt seen her naked? thats kinda extreme?.. lol

what a chode he must have been. you shouldn't have/want to put up with that much melodrama.

she will unconsciously break down guys over time until they're a quivering mess. i don't think there's something you can do to fix this situation; you can lead a horse to water...

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The thing is, she had a boyfriend for 3 years and she's still a virgin.. They couldn't do it for some reason, his and hers, I didn't want the details.. Maybe that's one of the reason she has so many issues and her behavior is so fucked up..
I was on the verge of calling or texting after we have not spoken for 3 days, since we broke up.. But I erased her number just in case I won't be strong enough..
She's still on my facebook friends.. I'm not sure what to do, I know she's bad for me and I will only suffer from any relationship with her..
Already have a date planned with another girl, I know it's the best way to get over it..

im doing fine with my girl but what im saying is whats the point of talking to ex's it just brings more problems. the problem is that not everyone thinks like that for some girls is just like its ok we are just talking its fine but it gets to me sometimes. my gf is kinda flirty not that much and its ok as long as she dosn't cross the line. as in your case i kinda get it i had a relationship like that and i say let her go the more you act like you dont care the more attractive you become to her. move on dont worry about her. easier said then done i know.