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So here is a background of this whole situation:
I started reading on PUA about 3 years ago and somewhat developed better social skills; i used to be very shy in highschool, so it wasnt easy. I started dating this girl last year and she is now my gf. It has been 7 months today actually....
I started noticing getting angry at certain things she does and it took me some time to realize and now im certain in it i am jealous and possisive of her. I completely understand this comes from a lack of self esteem and am trying to control it as much as I can. I am however not one of those guys that will restrain her from going on as i wouldnt want that done to myself, but sometimes i find myself feeling in a way that i just want to say fuck it and break up. I dont want to make a spontenous descision as the past 7 months have been great and we both absolutely love each other...
Anyhow leave comments if you had similar experience or any advice at all... And i know this is my one itis/first girl, but it just seems right so whatever...
I hate feeling this way
You are on the onset of causing yourself a great deal of hurt. If you want to keep love, give it wings. SHE is the love. If you love her, you don't give a shit of what "could happen" and that's how you manage to keep her. Jealousy as a result of fear is a very selfish thing. First off, nothing has even happened. Second off, it's becoming more about how you feel, than how you feel about her. Relationships are about trust, honesty, and respect. You being jealous can even lead her to directly breaking the trust by cheating on you..she doesn't even have to leave as a result of you being jealous. So now you see the possibilites we have here? So like I said, if you want to keep your love and not lose it, have
NO FEAR of anything.
My girl was always jealous of me, she was always afraid she'd lose me. And she did. I wasn't even thinking at the time that, "Oh she's afraid I'll leave her." I
felt it. And when she was like that, it was as if there was naturally no love anymore. We lost the spark because of her. Why was she afraid might you ask? Because I'm a super attractive guy, I can even be a model, I have muscles, I play guitar, I can sing, I can draw. She knows girls are all over me and her friends even hit on me in front of her face. So imagine how protective she was of me, she would even try to make ME jealous. Don't even think about doing that to your girl. Jealousy can be good, but it can also awake that fear within her which kills the love you two have.
CHAT
