I think I've realized what keeps holding me back from approaching woman, and it's not the beauty aspect, but rather the fear of not knowing what to say. It's weird though, whenever girls approach me, I seem to converse fine with them and during the rare occasion that i do cold approach a girl, i can generally muster up a fairly lengthy convo with them, and yet i still get this persistant fear. I realize it's all mental, but a lot of the time I still can't get over it. Any tips or advice? I would realy appreciate it...

And also I think I have read so much material on picking up girls that i'm starting to get confused. Some say put on an act and be really cocky and over confident, others say just be yourself, some say get her number and leave, others say wait a long time then ask for the number, some say text her straight away, others say wait a couple days.....so much more as well, and I am just straight up confused.

That's one of the 2 things that give me AA, so I feel ya.

Instead of trying to soak up so many methods, find things that fit you best. Like for me, I would feel weird with an opinion opener, so I would go up with just a hi how are you, and start a conversation. You don't want to show too much interest early on. Don't worry about timing your text messages and stuff. Basically, you don't want to come off as needy. So don't call her 10 times a day, give it some time when replying to her texts, and be outcome-independent. Just keep approaching, and find out where your weak spots are, and work on them.

You know that nervous feeling when ure unsure to approach?

Use that plus the 3 sec. rule while simoltaneously thinking of a song that pumps u to do something(Capcom - Kid CuDi and Certified - Lloyd are mine)

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Yeah man, thats a really common problem that students have. They've read so much stuff that they don't know where to start.

Here's the thing. Start SOMEWHERE. Just pick one thing and try it. Whether its opening direct or opening indirect. Then try just being yourself. And if that isn't working too well then write down a routine or two and try that out.

Most of the learning process is gonna be trial and error, and the willingness to try something new when the old thing you're doing doesn't seem to be working.

So, if one of your biggest problems right now is not knowing what to say, then write down either a routine or a story you can go right into after opening. You don't have to use it, but its there for you if you do get into a situation where you don't know what to say.

Does that make sense? You just have to start SOMEwhere by trying SOMEthing and then build on that.