I'm gonna keep this as short and sweet as possible. Now I have a big problem with approaching and it's closing down to summer time so I need to get my game on point so I can get some buns. I'm gonna describe my situation in three parts; what I feel I do right and wrong, examples of what I [haven't] done, and what I feel I should be doing.

To be honest I literally never approach girls I don't know with the intentions of sparking a convo to get their number and hook up. I might try to make eye contact and every 1/10 times try to throw a smile at them but I just can't get up and engage them. I don't have approach anxiety as much as I just stay reserved knowing that I'm gonna end up getting no where approaching with no game plan or idea of what to do. Worse still if the girl is sitting next to me I feel like I'll be invading her personal space to try and engage her.

I have seen so many beautiful women on my way back and forth to the city. The most I'll ever do is ask the time or directions because if I open, compliment, and introduce myself I feel like if I even get that far I better get her number straight away before I start getting boring. I sit and watch hoping for the day I feel confident enough to know how to peak these girls attention. My game, if I had the convo part down, probably would be to get eye contact, move next to the girl, and talk her into getting a number.

Today I saw two very lovely, approachable looking girls come on to the bus. Had I had the nerve or knowledge of what to go up to them and say I would have gotten up and moved from where I was at and engaged. I saw another girl walking down the street and as I passed her I wondered what I could say or if it would've even been a good idea to walk up beside her and have a chat. Even in the classroom if I have no excuse to approach I find it a bit hard to even though I never used to be that way before college. Maybe I shouldn't care and just try but I just know I will reach a dry point, crash, and burn.

I need to know what to say and what direction to take that works. Canned openers that are just irrelevant are lame. In my mind I believe a simple hi how are you followed with a compliment and false time constraint can do the job better but after introductions I wouldn't really know what to say. I could pull something from the situation to talk about but I'm trying to be interesting not an observationalist and I feel like I might get boring. It would be nice if someone could provide me with a general idea of what to do knowing what my situation is looking like. How do you guys do it and why can't I?

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canned openers are as lame (or irrelevant) as you believe they are.

I use canned openers all the time and girls don't notice it. But anyways, this forum is full of material and openers and in case of doubt you can still go direct "hey, I saw you from the other side of the bus and I just had to come and meet you, is it ok if I take a seat?...and blabla"

maybe I make it sound a bit too easy though

What I've learned is don't expect the first girl you talk to be your first pick up this is a game that requires a ton of practice, that's why the more you approach the better you get.
My favorite openers are usually opinion based, but I've changed it around a lot more to:
"Hey, You look like a person I had to meet."
"Hey, Where did you get that? Oh I just wanted to meet you because I thought you were adorable."

Oh I also love me some compliment openers (Never comment on her physical looks).

I usually don't do the opinion based openers anymore because they seem to be getting hard to follow up on.

I guess it really is that easy. After I open where do I go from there?

Btw if I'm not complimenting looks then what would I look for to compliment in an opener? I understand not complimenting her body exactly but if I'm looking at what she's wearing that's not a problem right?

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Actually what you should compliment is her "personality".. Example: Hey, i noticed a great shine about you, so i had to come and meet you.. You get the point anyway..

Thanks for clearing that up for me. Could you give me any advice on where to lead the conversation? Like should I be aiming to close with something like you're a nice person to talk to and exchange numbers or should I ask about her life after the opener? This is where I'm really confused.

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Well, basically, since daygame is a bit more direct, you dont want to talk alot, ask about her day or anything, basically, the more short and more fun the part before number closing, the better. Cause your goal there is to get her number and switch it somewhere else at night. At least thats how i see it

Fact is, the only way to get over your fear is to keep doing it. You have to keep opening sets, even if they fail or they get uncomfortable etc.
Keep reading and keep practicing. I recommend opening sets at randomized public places. Places where you can say "fuck it, I'll never see this girl again so what does it matter?" So you can go up to them with the confidence that's needed.

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