Whenever I go and approach or don't approach (due to AA). I always feel like I have nothing to offer the girl, this seems to increase if I perceive her as cuter/more beautiful. I'm not the greatest looking guy, I currently don't have a job (I'm in the process of getting one), I'm educated but I don't have a job in my field of studies (which sucks, but I'm planning on going back to school now). I don't want to be the guy that has to lie to get a woman into bed, but I don't want to announce that I'm unemployed. I realize that there are a large number of girls could overlook this if I come across has calm, confident, and cool, but in the back of my mind I just can't get rid of it.

I'm sure other people have had this problem before, how did you deal with it? Or should I just adopt the fuck it mindset and just do it anyways? Is the only way to deal with this to just keep approaching and eventually I'll get over it?

heres the soloution : MAN UP ..and stop acting like a wimp. Get a job then . what i learned all through high school was that the guys who got girls never underestimated themselves or thought any other guy was better. just think..what are these guys who are pulling the bitches got so specail going for them ? probably nothing more than you do.
so man up..go back to school get a job ..but in the mean time don't think like a wimp.

I know a lot of guys around here will say MAN UP but manning up takes time. You just have to fight the lonely fight. It hurts, and you often feel hated and mutually isolated. But you keep fighting and let the tears go at night. Sing at night, rap, play the guitar, whatever it takes. Often expressing your sorrow helps you to get over it. I write raps, sing, and play piano at minor key to help ease the stress. Let your tears drop, and move on. The point is to let it out and move on. This goes for any man posting in this section of the forum. It will just take time to truly understand the concepts behind pua. But while you wage the fight, you keep going.

Can you get a temp job outside your field of studies? If you feel you dont have anything to offer, then work out what is worth offering and aquire it. Be proactive in doing things. Expressing sorrow might work for Gaius, but I find my time is better spent analysing the problem, planning the solution, implementing, testing and adjusting the solution. Pretty much the 5 steps of Engineering. Kind of like life engineering, because engineering is about creating solutions to problems and life is full of them

You're not "unemployed" you are "in between jobs".

I would take a practical approach to address your perceived shortcomings. I know it's hard and lonely sometimes but you can't make other people like you if you don't even like yourself. So here are a few tips to help you along:

1. Like Gaius said, take up a hobby. It will relax you, help you learn new things and make you more interesting.

2. Get enough exercise - I'm a short tempered person. Not getting exercise makes it worse. I find that if you do something that requires a lot of physical exertion, you don't have time to mope.

3. Network - get out there and meet people. Attend social events, go on Twitter and follow people that work in the career you want and ask them out for coffee. If you put yourself out there, you will feel less lonely and the connections you build you land you that job you really want.

Good luck!

[quote="Ormild"]Whenever I go and approach or don't approach (due to AA). I always feel like I have nothing to offer the girl, this seems to increase if I perceive her as cuter/more beautiful. I'm not the greatest looking guy, I currently don't have a job (I'm in the process of getting one), I'm educated but I don't have a job in my field of studies (which sucks, but I'm planning on going back to school now). I don't want to be the guy that has to lie to get a woman into bed, but I don't want to announce that I'm unemployed. I realize that there are a large number of girls could overlook this if I come across has calm, confident, and cool, but in the back of my mind I just can't get rid of it.

I'm sure other people have had this problem before, how did you deal with it? Or should I just adopt the fuck it mindset and just do it anyways? Is the only way to deal with this to just keep approaching and eventually I'll get over it?[/quote]

I'm in a similar boat as you. I have a Bachelor's degree and work at a local Walmart, which is a job that doesn't really utilize my major entirely. I am training myself on the side through online classes, textbooks, and study materials. Like the other guys are saying though, I have hobbies that build my confidence. I play guitar, enjoy fishing, and my job is fairly social. This prevents my skills from growing stale. Oh, I have also lived with my parents for about the past 3 out of 4 years, but I just fuck random girls when they aren't around... sometimes in their bed. (They have a king size bed and I have a twin size.) The thing is to always be improving.

Best of luck,
Chicoman

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