ok so i came to vent and ask for your opinions let me tell you the circumstances around it...

so shes riding me and we are having a blast having sex etc. and then i put my hands out back like im stretching cause it felt good and she said you shaved your armpits? and im like no i trimmed it (size 1, if anyone here gets a buzz cut)

anyways she stops riding me and shes like:
are you gay? and im like no, while im looking at the ceiling ( thinking would i be gay if my penis is in your vagina)

then she says are you bisexual
and im like no, listen we can talk about this another time lets continue fucking..

anyways all those questions just got me really soft and her dry so she just gets off me ...and she says im not attracted to you anymore.

im like why are you humiliating and degrading me like that..?
shes like you did this to yourself!

goes to shower comes back plays cityville while im in bed, and im thinking to myself what to do cause its like ONLY FUCKING ARMPIT HAIR WTF?!!?!

like we can talk about this after sex and i wont trim it so low but stopping like that and degrading me and letting me feel humiliated?

20 minutes pass approx and she goes outside to smoke
as she comes back im like do you love me? she says yeah. im like you made me feel humiliated and degraded, what do you gotta say and shes like you did this to yourself.. im like what? how was i suppose to know it turns you off...

anyways im like listen i think you should take all your stuff and go back home leave my house because the way you acted was just unacceptable what if i had cancer you would be so disgusted and just left? this isn't the way to react to things and you should of TALKED to me about it later, she looked at me in SHOCK and was speechless, and started packing her stuff

she had a 90 liter bag here which she filled packed, and then managed to fill 6 plastic bags full and she had to take a bus to her house which is 2hrs 30 min away by CAR, and by bus is 6 hours..

and she left as i told her to wait lets talk, she was being a bitch was like DON'T TOUCH ME DON'T TALK TO ME and just left


who's right in this situation me or her? what should i have done differently?

What the hell?? This must be the weirdest reason to break up with someone ever! "You did this to yourself"? I have no words.

I wouldn't really become all sensitive about it though. Saying that you feel humiliated and being all sad about it will only show how insecure you are.

Telling her it's disrespectful and giving her a slight cold shoulder is what I would've gone for, considering the fact that there was a serious tone in the conversation rather than any kind of playfulness.

And the fact that YOU kicked her out and then told her to come back when she's about to leave? Only shows even more how insecure you are. If you tell her to leave, you let her leave.

As for now I don't suggest you keep on with the pressure and the whole 'oh baby please come back'. She hurt your feelings and you didn't like what she said.

Cool off, let her cool off and then talk to her about it and make it clear that she understands that this was in fact very disrespectful of her. I mean, what if you would have commented on her pussy while fucking her? Telling her it looks like a trainwreck. It's probably not the same thing, but it's the same concept. Calling you a fag because you trim your armpit hair is just crossing the line in my opinion. It's not a big deal at all.

I do it myself, and still you won't see me going around practicing Gay Game on anyone.

Maybe a better analogy would have been if you commented on her not shaving her armpits or legs during sex. She'd be outraged!

I agree that you shouldn't have made it into a big deal, because it's not a big deal. You shaved your armpits so what. You thought it looked better that way, and you're comfortable with that. Big fucking deal and she needs to get over it. If she wants to call you a fag, you should have asked her if a fag would do this and banged her harder. The point is to be secure in yourself.

If she wants someone who doesn't care about grooming themselves, that's her loss. Maybe you went to far shaving your armpits, but the fact is 90% of men spell like pig shit 90% of the time. Most men don't shower regularly. If she wants to get bent out of shape over a detail that's actually reflective of a
positive trait, then she's the one missing out. She is absolutely being completely unreasonable. She's got some hang-up of her own, and I don't know why she associates grooming with sexuality. If she wants to go back to pig shit-smelling me, so be it.

I will say one thing that is universal about men's style: men's style is all about undestated details. Women's style is generally all about being flashy and attracting attention. Men's style is about looking normal and blending end, but standing out because of your attention to detail. Like polished shoes. Women notice these tiny details and it reflects well of you. The more little details you add, the better, but you don't want these details to attract too much attention. Men don't typically wear a lot of jewelry, they wear a single, very nice, watch. Cuff links are another example of understaded detail. Pocket squares. Any little thing that puts you a cut above and shows that you know how to groom yourself is manly. However, if it attracts to much attention it might come off as femanine or that you are trying to overcompensate. Shaved armpits is one of those things that stand out a little bit. If it works for you, go for it, but you might want to avoid such things in your own personal style.

When I say this, I speak more about a classical mens style than anything else. A number of men are a great deal more flashy than this, but I personally subscribe to a more classical style. The classical elements of men's style will never go out of style.

next time, take it down to using a #4 razor. it was the #1 that did you in!

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^ I agree with that. Grooming is good, but subtle is the key.

That said, her getting angry about it is still BS.

Yeah, honestly, I think you might have gone too far with the [lack of] length.

I remember I shaved my armpits clear down to nothing once...experimental me. I felt like a chick. The worst part is, it takes awhile to grow back.

lulz

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Shit man, none of you are right. You're both hella stupid. She's stupid for making a big deal out of armpit hair and you're stupid for breaking up over that shit.

Man you shouldn't take any word from her, who gives a fuck what she says and thinks. It's the feelings that count.

It's ok though, you guys are just experiencing a bad time over something really stupid. It happens all the time in life, and it will continue as so. No one's perfect, we're all fucking humans.

You just have to act like nothing is a big deal. It takes two to tango, remember that.

I think you reacted right by leaving her, but wrong on the emotional level. I shaved my armpits at 2 months with my gf. She asked me why and I said they were getting too long and I couldn't trim them at the time. Anyhow she didn't say anything else, but if she had said anything close to what urs said and did I wouldn't hesitate one second... If a girl can't take such a small thing she isn't worth it in my opinion, there are many others that will love u with armpit hair to your elbows if you'd like...

Doesn't work that way when you have feelings for the girl. Stop thinking like it's black and white, we're not machines, we're humans. Any girl you find out there has something small she would make a big deal over.

its not the whole making a big deal i was in the middle of a fuck session and she got off of me.. i was pretty heated when i get my juices flowing and a girl stops..

I don't know why you guys are focusing on the armpit hair...did you forget you're talking about a woman?

The truth is that the armpit hair was likely just a "thing". Chances are she's been thinking about breaking up with you before this, and seeing your armpits was just an excuse. There were either problems in your relationship that you may or may not have noticed, or she found someone else. It's not really *about* you shaving your armpits.

Why she chose right then or why she chose that issue is anyone's guess, but it really points to the fact that this is probably not someone that you want to have a long term relationship with anyway.

I shave my pits to shorter. I don't care what some girl thinks. There's nothing to be humiliated about.

She was being disrespectful and will have to learn to do better if she wants to fix things.

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Obviously, trimming armpits can't be the problem here guys.

1) It grows back
2) it's just fucking armpits!

Attraction, that's the problem in your situation.

Let us say, she is attracted to you. You do something stupid, she will forgive you, and laugh with it. She will always get the positive out of a situation if she's attracted to you! (like laughing and making fun in a teasing way with ur armpits).

If she has no attraction towards you, you will be irritating her, and shaving armpits will get an issue.

That's your problem, she even said so: "im not attracted to you anymore."

Love is another thing, it's an emotional connection. But with no attraction things will get worse. Good job finishing the relationship in my opinion.

^Yeah, she was soooo unattracted to him that she was riding him like crazy.

She's making a big deal out of nothing, that's all. It's the fact that you couldn't stand up for yourself that fucked everything up even more.