ok so me and this girl are now dating and i like her a lot i think i love her but i wont go there for sure yet. the point is that when we began talking i was talking to other girls as she was talking to other guys we hooked up together but never made anything official. One day she came to school with a hickey i didnt see it bc she covered it with a scarf. she later told me that she didnt want to go out with me that it wouldnt work out. and that she had hooked up with another guy she says she didnt have sex with him. i was like ok and i still presude her dispite being mad. i hooked up with a girl to and had sex with her. the thing is now we are going out and we both like each other alot but i cannot get passed that i mean i get mad from time to time she tells me i shouldnt because unlike her i had sex with a girl and at the time we were just messing around with each other and we were not dating. what do you guys think should i let this go and how do i let this go? what would be your reaction

why to you get mad from time to time?

because i can picture them hooking up and that just gets me mad and i know it gets her mad as well to think about me having sex with the girl as well because she has told me. i feel like i got played even though i wasnt going out with her and it bothers me to know that even though i know she did that i still loved her that much to look pased it. to put it this way the night that happened i called her and i asked her to go to the movies with me she answred frustrated because i called her twice she said no the first time but i wanted to see her so i called her again and she said no dude i already have plans just call me tomorrow i guess she went to a party and after she went to sleep over at the guys house. while im looking like an idiot trying to invite her to the movies and she goes and does that. she has apologized so much and told me shes really sorry and that didnt mean anything to her and she didnt know that she was going to fall for me like this and that she know she was a game for me to. i was hooking up with other girls but she didnt know about it and i dont think she knows still.

This girl seems like a headache all around - Keep your pride and let go. Don't play such stupid games. But if you really want to keep her exclusively, ask her to be with you exclusively. You either get a yes or no and you save yourself some trouble.

well the thing is that she is exclusivly mine thats not what im asking like me and her are together now and we like each other alot shes my gf and weve been through alot together we were about to have a kid but she had a miscarriage sadly. we have a lot of fun together and i feel like we love each other the point is how should i get over that, i mean in a sense she is right we were not going out and we were just messing around at first and now we are good and in an amazing relationship but that just gets to me because i picture me looking like an idiot even though she didnt "cheat" on me because she wasnt mine but it still hurts because i like her so much and the thought of her being with another guy sucks..

How long have you been with her?

3 months but it feels like i known her forever i feel like shes the one for me and i know it sounds dumb for 3 months but im just so comfortable around her and i have so much fun with her..

Quit being such a jealous insecure puss. She didn't cheat on you. She hooked up with another guy when you 2 weren't dating. That's fair game. You're lucky this girl is putting up with your insecurities this far. I know a lot of women that would dump you for being so insecure.

Man up and stop thinking like a puss. Where are your balls? Are you trying to date some virgin mary?

She's not the one for you, but what do I know...there will be more. She didn't cheat, but a hickey..come on...that's trashy...just hit it and leave it at that. Take the emotions out of it, and just "wreck that chick" when you can, all the while, look for someone better.

Why so mad time to time ? :O