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Lets say you want to be cautious the first time you have sex with a girl/your girlfriend, even if you are wearing a condom. Lets also say you know you are clean, and have excellent ejaculation control so you can pull out with the condom on, and even if something slips up, she's Ok with aborting it. Thus the only concern is catching STDs.

How would you go about finding out if she is clean? Can you really trust her to tell you, or maybe she doesn't even know if she has any? Would you make her get tested/go get tested together before you have sex?

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you cant unless she gets tested. sometimes stds dont present symptoms so she could have something and not know it.

also quick withdrawal does not prevent pregnancy

very true, just ask my daughter (who would not be here today if that method worked)

LMAO

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I don't care how good your ejaculation control is, everyone has pre-cum and that's exactly what will get her pregnant.

By the way guys, if your girl's on the Depo shot or pill, you still don't want to bust all up in her... Even then, she still might get preggers.

No birth control method, sans hysterectomy or vasectomy, is 100% infallible.

Condoms used in conjunction with another birth control method are the best way to prevent pregnancy, provided they don't break.

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a vasectomy is awesome! BEST.XMAS.GIFT.EVER!!

wont recommend it...

I detest condoms. I also consider myself a sexual artist, and I simply can't do my best work wrapped in latex. They are irritating and restrictive.

HOWEVER, the first time I'm with any new girl a condom is a MUST. There are simply too many risks of disease, and I've doged too many bullets to become a baby daddy now. Have I done it? Yes. Will I ever do it again? NO.

I make it a point to get tested after every single girl I sleep with. I don't shoot for numbers so it's not that hard of a rule to maintain. And the conversation I have with each partner when I feel it's time to go rawdog is something like this:

me "I hate condoms. Whens the last time you were tested?"
her "oh, uh i think X months ago"
me "we should both go again, just to be sure"
her "why is there something I need to worry about?"
me "absolutely not. but it can't hurt to be sure right?"
her "your right."

you both wig out a little getting tested, that's normal. Then after a clean bill of health, the condoms go in the nightstand and the paint begins to flow.

As for Birth Control:

me "are you on birth control"
her "yes/no why??"
me if yes - "just curious" if no "is there a reason?"
her if no "no, i could go back on it", if yes "well i can't because of X"
me "are there any alternatives, or have you looked into it already?"
her if yes "awesome, lets do it" if no "i see, no big deal though"

sometimes condoms are a fact of a relationship. no way around it - fine. otherwise, just press politely and almost every girl i've been with was fine with it.

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I wouldn't imagine myself with my girlfriend, 1 year and a few months now, having sex with a condom.
She's on the pill, and everytime I finish deep inside her, its a relief not having to pull out, as we did one time. Yes, the chance of pregnancy is still there, the only 100% way is abstinence.
My girl is on a pill that is 99.97% safe. Studies of the .03 that has failed are because the girl forgot to take the pill one day, or she had some stomach issues that made her vomit the pill.
Right now I'm comfortable with my GF.. Im just 21 and she's 26.. Who knows if things will get serious and maybe we'll end up married later on the road, or not. If we don't I'd like to know how guys approach the STD issue with new girls, since I haven't had sex with any other girl for 15 months (Which sometimes gets frustrating) ...

Good advice in here. Get her tested. Some STD's are with you for life. Some can be cleared up in a week. Either way, it's better to play it safe!

I'm agreeing with the masses here.

Yes.. Both of you get tested. No shame in that. Alot worse if you don't.

I hate using condoms, so as soon as I see a relationship brewing I will mention to get tested. Never had a bad reaction.. More respect if anything. Have a talk with her though. She may not even want to be on the pill.

- If she does though.. Get tested and throw those johnny's away!