Girl I've been seeing for 2 months. Seems like she likes me but I'm not going to lie seems like she is stringing me along. 1 proper date in these two months and we made out and the rest of the time she was calling me nearly everyday and now she is going more quiet. I call and txt like normal andshe txt me tonight and I started flirting with her talking about holds and stuff and she was like "u can't handle me?" and also asking me "I'm looking for somewhere to live when r u moving out lol?" what is the true meaning behind this shit?

It kinda sounds like she is just teasing you for her own self-amusement. Sort of poking fun at your inability to close. She liked you at one point, now you are kinda friend zoned. "U can`t handle me" is a tough one though...because it could also mean "let`s fuck" under a different context. Here`s how you find out. Invite her over or you invite yourself over her place. Escalate towards sex...and don`t chicken out only to settle for making out. If she lets you in, good for you. If not, find another chick.

Should I slow build to that though? I mean she said weeks ago she doesn't want a relationship and did LJBF me but then showed signs days later she regretted it, and I'm still chasing. We spoke about going for lunch last week, surely she wouldn't expect me to just invite her around.

I've dropped enough sexual hints to force myself out of the zone but not sure. We usually see eachother at work and last time in her car I tried to kiss close and she rejected a few times but was fooling around touching me, kissing my forearm.

Weird....she also gets in bad moods going to work and back and you can never get her to snap out of it even with C/F and I'm awesome at it. When will I know it's the right time to ask her out again?

wow this is sort of trivial

In my opinion you have let her take control and she is holding all the cards.

[I mean she said weeks ago she doesn't want a relationship and did LJBF me but then showed signs days later she regretted it, and I'm still chasing.]

The key to this is you need to nip this in the but and start to act like an alpha male. alpha males don't chase. They demand respect by the way the hold themselves. It doesn't mean you need to be a dick just demand respect. If an alpha male doesn't get respect than the target doesn't get a reward and looses the attention of the alpha male.

It sounds like she may just be a tease. That's alright if you not emotionally invested but anytime I have ever chased in my life, looking back, I was emotionally invested. Teases can be fun but you need to realize that's all it is and all it will ever be. If you do that and have no expectations every once in a while you will get surprised.

To answer your question. You don't ask her out again. You wait for her to chase you. When she does come with her little song and dance (tease) looking for attention you respectfully demand respect and put her in a position to qualify herself to you. You are the prize! This is clasic MM type shit.

and the LJBF and U can't handle me lines may have been shit tests. Just seaing if you are man enough to call her out or how you will react. It sounds like you became a bit complacent.

My main take away is to stop chasing (Don't ask her out) and start looking elsware. If she does come back, which it sound like she will. approach it like an alpha male. Stand up for yourself without having to explain you actions.[/quote]

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you can't handle me = sexualization --> "you don't know what your getting yourself into. get out of my head and get over here"

when are you moving out --> bad joke, ignore it.

See Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. Ultimately, you always want to LJBF her before she does you. Now that she's already done it to you, start treating her as just a friend and in a couple of days start telling her what a great idea it is that you're now only friends. However, make sure that you still flirt like hell. Use innuendo to confuse her and make her think...wait is he just playing me? After all, that's what you're thinking as she's playing you

See Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. Ultimately, you always want to LJBF her before she does you. Now that she's already done it to you, start treating her as just a friend and in a couple of days start telling her what a great idea it is that you're now only friends. However, make sure that you still flirt like hell. Use innuendo to confuse her and make her think...wait is he just playing me? After all, that's what you're thinking as she's playing you

"You can't handle me" is code for "you're gonna nut before you even get it in", and therefore be useless to her. If she's saying it jokingly, then she's trying to qualify whether or not you can handle yourself or not. If she's saying it seriously, then she just plain isn't interested in you sexually.